Getting Out of The Mind and Into The Heart of Childbirth
See No Evil
How many times do you see pregnant women who look depressed or soiled about pregnancy and childbirth. Often I wonder how or what it is that causes women to feel this way during such a remarkable time. Maybe she is in a bad emotional space with her partner? Maybe she is not financially prepared for her new bundle to arrive? So she thinks. Maybe she is just having a bad day? But whatever the case, this is all too common, especially in the urban community where most moms are unmarried, low-income, and lacking sufficient education to remove themselves for such disparities.
This leads me to think that we as a community are not looking at this picture with a clear view. At times I drift of into this so called Utopian idea of the world and how it works, so bare with me on this. I believe that we are all just mirrors of our own reflections and what we see in front of us the most, is what we begin to identify as ourselves. This means the environment that we surround ourselves with, ultimately becomes us. This may not be 100% true for everyone because, some people are visionaries and understand how to create his or her own abundant reality from a simple thought or feeling. This is always favorable right? Yet in still this idea is not seen the same way when we have not so healthy outcomes. We like to blame others for our circumstances, our thoughts, and even our emotional reactions. I know you have heard someone say, “You made me mad”, or “You made me do this or that”. This is a person who has no control or accountability for themselves. This my friend is a victim. And really we are only victims to our ideologies of our current circumstances… not the reality that we create… Or what it is that we think… based on how we look at what we see.
So when we think of childbirth, we automatically think hospital or doctor. More-so today, we are even thinking surgery. WTH! Childbirth is NOT even a medical event. Childbirth is a natural event. It is just as natural as the man and the woman who came together to conceive the child that awaits it’s birth. Was there a surgeon in the room when you were making the baby… I don’t think so… Unless y’all were role playin’. So let’s discuss more on why we have to guard how we see things. Mainly because we have been fed a useless amount of symbols that are unnatural to the concept of what is considered evil to our existence. So when we identify more with the pain body, then life is seen through a stretched and complicated lens.
Hear No Evil
The more jargon that is heard when talking about childbirth, the less appealing it becomes. Having babies somehow becomes a chore and a stagnating vulnerability. Then what is left of motherhood is this abandoned and helpless idea that is painful and full of woe, but I beg to differ. While carrying my first son, I heard women talk about how they had to have C-Sections because, they were too small, or they labored too long. Then there was the ones who said, “It was horrible”. The partial look on my face is ingrained in my memory. I would tell them that, that was their story and I am sorry that their experience was thus and so, but mines will be different because, I believe my body knows what to do.
I often had sweet talks with my unborn baby about his arrival. I would tell him to take as long as he needed, but just get here safe. I would tell him that we were a team and that one day he would see me from the other side. I would tell him to follow my voice into the light. To this very day, my oldest son is very direct and very cardinal in his thoughts. Sometimes I have to tell him that it’s okay to be flexible in order to stay in the flow. I say this is due to my unwavering spirit of accomplishing the birth outcome that I wanted. Talk about the law of attraction, which is calling into existence what we want.
The crazy thing is that we are so consumed with the ideas of blessings and curses that we forget, that they both work in tandem with our own emotional desires. The Universe is a vast place full of creative forces and elements of timeless change. This is why it is important that when a woman is pregnant she hears no evil because, her baby is also listening. As early as 16 weeks during the pregnancy it is said that baby’s hearing is developed. So just imagine how baby might feel if he or she is only hearing bitter, fear based stories about it’s new world. Or, what about loud arguing or fighting words? The power to tell those nay sayers to keep their negative birth stories is not enough and a person looks like a fool when arguing with themselves. We have to apply the right amount of empathy to listen as the moms share, so that we can empower them through our own strengths. We have to tune into ourselves and deeply identify with the fact that sharing can be healing. And when a woman is not InTune with the act of mothering or childbirth, she is readily walking in fear, restriction, and bondage. Each of these do not speak to the enlightenment of how the magic of childbirth really operates… because it happens uniquely and totally undisturbed. This technique takes fearlessness, intuition, and self-directed education.
Speak No Evil
So as I conclude on the aspect of how we perceive things through the power of what we see and hear, we have to also be aware of the power of our own words… Not just the words of others. No other person can speak death or destruction over your life or circumstance unless you allow them to. Unless you give that person power over who you believe you are. This goes for your mother, your partner, the doctor, your spiritual family, social media, or even your midwife. I have been in a place where the most supportive people have been perfect strangers. Yet the most unsupportive people have been my own team mates. How are you expected to win when there are agents in your camp? You have to speak your truth. You have to speak the life that YOU want! This is easier said than done. It takes courage and discipline to speak with supportive language about such a controversial subject. And who would have thought that childbirth would be such a controversial subject matter? The thing is, everybody has an interpretation of what childbirth means to them, and that is okay. So when you come to grips, with what is real and true to your own heart, then you have stepped into the realm of “Quantum Childbirth” ~ getting out of the mind and into the heart of childbirth.