5 Reasons Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex

Staying InTune To The Magic Of Marriage

Remember when you and your wife were dating?  It was really difficult to keep your hands off each other.  You wanted her and she wanted you.  That felt so good.  It was awesome.  There’s no better feeling than being desired.  After marriage, and particularly after having kids, things have a way of changing.  You are still ready to go every night, but she’s not.  What happened?  You feel like you rarely have sex anymore and when you do it feels like she’s doing you a favor.

You work out, you look good, but it doesn’t make a difference.  You’re lost.  This whole married sex thing was supposed to be different.  Couples counseling might be something to consider for deeper insight.  However, these 5 Reasons Your Wife Doesn’t Want Sex will help you understand and show you what to do.

1. She Doesn’t Feel Connected to You.

While we feel more connected to our wives by having sex, our wives need to connect first.  You may have talked with her about daily logistics or superficial things.  She needs more.  She wants to be seen, heard, and known.  The disconnect causes her loneliness.  It’s like she’s trapped in a dungeon alone.  You need to free her.

Action:Talk to her about her. Find out how she is feeling, her insecurities, fears, and struggles. Also share how you are feeling.  Look at her–no distractions.  Get tunnel vision on her.  “Clear the mechanism.

2. She Doesn’t Feel Sexy.

Her body has changed since having kids.  She knows it and she probably thinks about it all the time, constantly comparing herself to other women.  Even when she returns to her pre-kid body, I guarantee she’s still comparing–desperate for affirmation.  The best place she can get it is from you. 

Action:  Affirm her.  She needs to feel your passion for her in your words, body language and eyes.  Tell her she’s sexy and why—particularly when she makes a negative comment about herself.  When you get home from work, greet her with a long hug and kiss before you greet the kids.  Look into her eyes and don’t be in a hurry to look away.  When you’re out, direct your eyes to her rather than other places.  Give her a look that communicates, in a room full of people, she’s the only one you want to talk to.

3. Her Sexual Appetite is Naturally Not as Strong as Yours.

Studies show that over the course of a relationship, a woman’s desire for sex decreases while her desire for tenderness increases.  The problem is that our desire for sex stays just as high as always.  Even at its highest state, her appetite might not have been as high as yours and probably never will be.        

Action:Recognize this reality and be patient with her.  Reach out to her with physical and emotional tenderness.  That’s what she wants and needs.  Try to meet her needs before your own.

4. She is Tired, Stressed, or Depressed.

Motherhood is exhausting, emotionally draining and stressful.  Once again, depending on the depth of her anxiety and/or depression you may want to seek counseling.

Action: Give her some rest.  Take the kids out for a day, run some errands for her, or clean the house. If she is stressed or depressed, rub her shoulders without her asking you.  Give her a foot or full body massage.  Tell her to kick back and relax.  Give her music to listen to and light some candles.  Take her tension away.      

5. She’s Focused on Being a Mom, Not a Wife. 

Women put a lot of pressure on themselves to be the perfect mom–to have it all together.  They beat themselves up for every little mistake or lack of knowledge.  They compare and can obsess on eliminating imperfections.  Sometimes our relationship as husband and wife gets lost.  That’s not good.  Your intimate relationship is important and needs her attention too.

Action: You need to talk to her about how you feel.  However, make sure you are not prosecuting or pressuring her.  Encourage her about how amazing she is as a mom.  Let her know though that you miss her, want her, and desire her.  It might even be okay to use the word jealous here.  Your biggest concern should be for more intimacy–a significant need for each of you.

 

Related Resource: Get Real About Married Sex

 

Huddle up with your wife and ask her how she feels about your sexual relationship.

 

 

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Not Your Usual Canvas For Spring Cleaning

Well… Well… Well…

Stomach flu vs. Allergic Reaction

It has been a pretty exciting week! My intuition has been on high frequency, casting new ideas and concepts. Working with my mentors on the power of deliberate intentions. Learning life lessons about my purpose as a wife, mother, and friend. With all of this new moon energy everything was laid out for the perfect Spring Break, right? Well I won’t complain — just not what I expected. Or – Did I?

Clear Observation

Well… the stomach flu hit the children pretty hard this week. It was like a domino affect. First our middle son, then the oldest, and now our toddler. Our children just so happen to be asthmatic, prone to eczema outbreaks, and allergic reactions (food and environmental). My husband and I had talked about doing a spring detox, but procrastination got the best of us. Or – Did it?

Well… when you do a detox you are giving your body the deep clean that it needs to get back on track with optimum flow… Right? Freeing it up from all the trash that you tried so hard to avoid through the winter. Well lone behold, we got the detox, just not the way we expected.

The Mystery Mix

Well… sometimes we let our children try out certain foods. Trail mix is one snack that I like to make on our own… And I use Chex cereal because, they have a gluten-free brand. But this time, we strayed the path for our best health. After a aseries of various symptoms, including gastric upset, diarrhea, and vomiting, I read the back of the bag to see that it contained all the color dyes that we aim to stay clear from. Hey, when you know better, you should do better, right?

A Quick Lesson In Sacral/Solar-Plexus Detox

Well… since we already knew the dangers of artificial food coloring, we had to be accountable of our part in the bad stomach. So we went on to do our detox and energy work. The main focus had been all about intention. What we want for our children is the best so we have to maintain our posture in doing so. No slumping or dragging our feet.

Well… on Wednesday morning as I engaged the children in a bit of music therapy, it became clear to me why the children were having such an experience over the store-bought trail mix. It was simple to me, but I am not a medical doctor, so don’t judge me for “Free-Styling” on what insight I gathered from all this.

Well… as I was singing one of my favorite songs, “Feel So Good” in a chant style rhythm. As I begin to circle my eldest son, while he lay in prone position, I tell him to just relax I gently touch his belly, feeling the low vibrational energy trying to leave his body. I explain to him my own interpretation of his sickness. I tell him the placement of the chakra system in his body. When I stop at his abdominal region, he tells me, “It was the color dyes, huh mom?” I then explain how the human body is not made to consume artificial colors. The body is like a master computer that can only read like programming. The sacral and solar plexus regions of his body were under attack by artificial intelligence.

Well… I go on to tell him that his system had been compromised because, we allowed him to have artificial food coloring. Which he will not have to worry about again. I also explained that these dyes are a contaminant to the human body, and the body reads these as a threat.  I told him, sometimes it takes longer to show up in others, or can sometimes go misdiagnosed as a stomach virus or food poisening — when it can be as simple as an allergic reaction. Like I said, I am no doctor, but I think I’m big on self-directed reserch. Food color can cause allergic reactions that result in similar symptoms as gastroenteritis.

Because gastroenteritis is associated, with viral and bacterial infections, I did not count this out. Be that I have boy children, who are always being told to wash your hands, stay out of your nose, and pants, but little ones are not as concerned, with proper hygiene as we adults are. It was just ironic that they had eaten that (colorful) snack, which later led to a 1, 2, 3 knock out. This led me to the thought that we put out bodies at risk when we step out of alignment, with what is natural and organic. Our seven-year-old sure knows about it now. As he asked me if being sick can be good for you. I answered him by saying, “No one likes to be sick, but sometimes the body needs to reset or (detox) itself , especially when it has had an alien invasion.” Hey, don’t even judge my technique. I have to meet them where they are. The five-year-old and the two-year-old… still have some time to go before they get it… But rest assure that our eldest son will be reading the labels from this point moving forward. —

*** here are a list of side effects associated with these carcinogenic additives***

Get Well ~ Concluding thought:

Parenting is trial and error. There is not a sure shot way to parent your child. We can choose this or that as valid and practical, or magical and whimsical. I just flow with what feels right to me. And when I am out of alignment, I am taught to get right back on track. This can increase ones parenting skills intuitively. Learning that dis-ease, pain, sickness, is a time for rest, resetting our systems, and becoming deeper engaged to the energy that is allowed into your environment, makes a wold of difference. As a parent of children with food allergies, we have learned that not every event is worth the ER.

I can count on my hand how many times we have visited a hospital room for an emergency. As long as we maintain our dietary standards, we are within normal limits of good health. So the next time you think about skipping out on your regular household treats…

… refer back to this blog post and just say, “NO” to artificial food color dyes!

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New Moon • New Mind

Magic In The Moon

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Just like the moon becomes invisible from the earth, a glimpse of its return is still present. Just like the invisible moon, your breath is an invisible power of deep moving significance.

The time of the new moon is a time to breathe in deeply and move into a calm state of mind. In this state, you can watch your emptions come and go and not be affected by them. This is the best time to gain clarity and begin to see your life more clearly, and see what is truly possible.

Now you can get “InTune” with your Higher Self. By staying calm, and letting your Higher Self fill you up with visions of your true purpose.

The power of the new moon is symbolic of new beginnings. You might find yourself contemplating on your next move. Conceptualizing your true motives. Building your dream team. Moving in spirit.

Anchoring Your Souls Code

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Evoking your Soul purpose and why you are here on this Earth?

What did the ancestors send you here to accomplish?

How can you use this as your spiritual center of intent?

Creative Visualization

Let this time be a period for you to focus on creating EXACTLY what you want. Who you want to be involved with, how to get organized, and create the form of yourself for the betterment of humanity.

Getting intune with your Higher Self is supposed to make you feel open and magnetic.

You are supposed to feel magical.

Letting go of all spiritual tension by releasing your breath. Breating in deep and letting out your power to activate you whole being through the power of creative visualization.

When you find this breath, you bring harmony to the Higher Self and those who you come in contact with, thus anchoring the person you were born become.

So burn your favorite 7 day candel and prepare to make manifest your best self…



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