Work Less Live More

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Now, I love an assertive person. Someone who likes to get the job done, and done right. But the idea that you have to work hard to get this done is more damaging than helpful- especially in the field of birth work.
Okay, now don’t go get all worked up. It’s just not me. Science proves it.
Researchers and scientists studying complex neural networks, resting states and active states of the brain suggest that during downtime our brains go into something called “Default Mode Network” (DMN).
Earlier DMN was thought of to be useless. That it did nothing. Soon it was found that they were wrong.
The DMN is now connected to having epiphanies, making better decisions, having a better memory and more creativity.
Could you imagine how your work will be with better decision making? With more creativity? With better epiphanies (or intuitive nudge)?
For those who offer birth work services like you and me, that is all that matters. Can we be more creative, more certain, more energized? If we can, we can win the world by saving more lives and time!
I found this research a few years ago while studying for my NLP Certification. I was reminded in an email today that inspired me to ask myself the question:
“How do I create more downtime in my life and still be prosperous in birth work?”
This would eventually lead me to get creative. I needed a system that was not the basic 40 hour per week routine. So I created a system where I work only 4 hours a day, 5 days a week. That’s 20 hours a week. In that time, I not only run InTune Mother, but I also have a coaching/consulting business, and I am a homeschool mom of 4 boys, plus a board member of two maternal health organizations.
It sounds impossible, but it is not. Let me be clear, I want to get this science down to working only 4 hours per week. Here are some of the principles I am using so I can craft this reality for myself. This will help you, too. The goal here is to get pass the bondage of job descriptions as self descriptions. You offer birth work to your clients. You are NOT a birth worker.

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Principle 1: The Pareto Principle
The Pareto principle states that“roughly 80% of effects come from 20% of causes”.
Simply put, a few clients create more high impact results. What I found was that: If you take the 20% of clients that seem to create the most high impact results, you’ll still end up trying to facilitate too many services. What we must do is go deeper and find the 20% of this 20%.
Essentially finding one or two services that make the most impact in your work.
This should help you find a few sets of services that you need to focus in on.

Principle 2: Parkinson’s Law
Parkinson’s law states that:work expands to fill the time available for its completion”.
That means if you assign 2 hours to do something, it will take 2 hours. If you assign 20 hours, it will take 20 hours.
That would mean if we could assign a set time to serve a client we will tend to complete it in that time. This principle is a little fickle. It doesn’t work all the time. But it does work most of the time.

Principle 3: Deep Work
Cal Newport wrote a book called “Deep Work”.
In summary, the book argues that if you assign dedicated time to something, you’ll be more likely to create better quality work over a short period of time vs the same quality of work taking longer time if you are constantly interrupted.
This means, if we can find a way to be uninterrupted, we can create phenomenal outcomes over a short period of time.

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Here is where the magic happens:
When you use these three principles while understanding the requirement of downtime in your life, you would realize:
You can find the key clients, schedule them in your calendar for a specific block of time, in a place where you are uninterrupted and surely you can get your services done in the delegated amount of time, with much higher quality.
This can then create more downtime or free time for you in REAL LIFE.

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Here is the glitch in our plan:
Often, when we create free time in our lives we end up wasting it on social media or watching television. I’ve made this same mistake. The secret to really being able to use this free time as FREE TIME. This is the time to schedule day to day lifestyle routines at that you normally neglect. Like, doing laundry, loading the dishwasher, or even taking a nap.
You get where I’m going. Now let’s flip the script…
My question for you is: How are you creating “downtime” or “free time” in your life as a person who offers birth work services?
Share your own strategies here.

P.S. Wanna learn more about these specific techniques to become a productive person offering birth work services to your community? Check out this online class designed just for you.

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2018 Culture Keeping At The TIM Center

HAPPY 2018!!!

This year we did a lot at The TIM Center. Our goal was to present our body of work and our purpose to the community in a way that they could understand. Our vision is clear. To serve the underserved and under informed childbearing community– beginning with the African American/Black population.

We chose to use various ways to express our concern professionally and socially to the community. Out of all the work we put into 2017– our overall impact was sound and well received. For this we are thankful. 

This year we strive to expand our holistic approach in such a way that the community learns the value of culturally centered perinatal wellness.

Our vision is simple. Teach the community how to catch more than babies… But teach them how to thrive in doing so. Beginning with their living environment, their eductuain, their employment, their economy, and their empowerment.

As much as we would like to see everyone in the community utilizing our support services, we are aware that many will choose otherwise.

Our health promotion campaign is designed to support self-direction to childbearing families through the perinatal period.

How can we help you and your family become engaged and empowered through holistic self-care and overall wellness in 2018?

Check out our monthly service packages here:

https://timcenter.org/healthy-community/

Stilettos & Reproductive Health Issues

Today I want to talk about fashionable things that can actually cause your uterus to be in the wrong place and how we can help you repair that through simple acts of self care.

I will be the first to say that, “I LOVE A FLY PAIR OF HEELS.” The only part of that is, when you know better you do better. So in this article, I am going to break it down to you as to why, wearing stilettos  affects our reproductive health. Growing up as a little girl, I could not wait to be able to wear high heel shoes. My mother had some of the baddest shoes you could imagine. Back in the 70’s and 80’s– My mom had these bad brown leather heels that I could not wait to inherit.

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My second favorite pair were the red studs, with the metal heel. I wore those around the house to practice in on a regular basis. She didn’t wear them much, as they went with a special outfit. You know how that goes–

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So now that I have taken you down memory lane, let me bring you back to present time. As I grew older, you can imagine that I fell right into my mother’s footsteps. Mind you I was ultimately a Tomboy girl– I liked Timberland boots and Nike’s. It was not until I got into my senior year of highschool did I start wearing “platforms” and “wedges.” Eventually I graduated from the little girls club, to the big girls club, where sexy shoes were a must.

I was all of 21 years old when I purchased my first pair of “high heel” shoes. I was a dancer so it was easy for me to learn how to balance in 4″ heels. I NEVER got into 6″ heels… I knew my limits. But before I knew it, my limits were already affecting my reproductive health. My body was changing. I had fashionably shifted my uterus out of position. This resulted in harder menstrual cycles, possible fertility issues, and other functional issues in my female anatomy and psychology.

Think of it like this:  The pelvis is like a bucket for the internal organs. Everything has its own space to operate and function. When your pelvis tips forward, your organs end up resting on one another and you end up mashing them. This can slow down the gastric function, lead to menstrual dysfunction and can ultimately impair fertility.

The problem is that heels, if they are over five inches high, force the woman wearing them to adopt an “unnatural posture” which can prevent them from conceiving and experiencing a normally functioning reproductive body.

While most women are aware of the risk of developing back, foot, ankle, and knee problems from wearing high-heel shoes, they do not equate to effect this fashion trend has on their abdominal function. With heels getting steeper and steeper, your pelvis has to tilt forward to accommodate the imbalance. This kind of posture distortion affects every system in the body including the uterus and the reproductive system. Thus, when the abdominal wall has been repeatedly thrust forward, the chances of conception goes down.

Concluding Thought

I know that this is a lot to accept, but my team and I are not here to try to convince anyone to heed the warning of wearing what is deemed as sexy and/or fashionable in today’s society. Our goal is the give women more options and one is to try to avoid wearing high heels as much… And if you MUST… kick them off as often as possible… because being cute is not worth the risk…



If you are local to Oklahoma City or are willing to travel, book a private appointment to see me or one of our skilled womb practitioners- to get the necessary body work you need to reset your uterus in place.

I have been in the womb wellness field for 13 years and now I am offering my wellness services to others in my private studio in Midtown, Oklahoma City. I also offer Skype or Google Hangout sessions and can teach you self-care/self healing techniques you can do on your own, if you can’t find a practitioner in your area.

The Status of Black Women in America

As a Black/African American woman, with too many names to classify over time– I have finally come to grips with a conclusion as to why we are working so hard, but the hard work is not payin off. I wanted to write this really to the point blog post about it, yet it was much easier for me to “reclaim my time” by researching what others were saying– that validated my own personal and professional opinions.

An article written earlier this summer in the Washington Post headed:  Report: Black women are working hard but ‘our country is not working for them’

I was drawn to the fact that there is so much research out there to see where or where not Black women are able to keep up within today’s ever evolving societal shifts. The opening line read:

A new report about the nation’s black women paints a familiar portrait of a group that is working hard on many levels to achieve the American Dream but is still falling short.

That hit me pretty hard. The first part that stumped me was the wording the writer used to tell her story– the nation’s black women paints a familiar portrait– It immediately made me think of how often Black women are socially identified as cold, hard core, and incapable of feeling pain- at least in the portrait of this nation.

 

I also began to question my own work ethic. The level of self care I promote to others that I often neglect for myself. It makes me stop to think of how often Black women engage in such behaviors that are unhealthy trying to thrive in a country that is not designed to support such ambitions.

Then I thought about the images that we often paint for our children. Showing them how hard we go for them to have the best opportunities. The best new fashion trends and electronic trinkets… Regardless of a father being in the home. Then when we do have a dual parent household, if there is any lack of partnership, children learn how to wallow through disfunction in order to lead a life of pseudo sustainability.

I know that I said, I was going share with you about an article I found… So here is the next segment.

Black women vote at high rates, have made significant improvement in earning college degrees and are succeeding in opening their own businesses, according to “The Status of Black Women in the United States.” Yet they continue to be underrepresented in elected office, earn less than white men and women and are twice as likely as white women to be incarcerated, the report says.

“They have all the makings of what should be success, yet their contributions are undervalued and under compensated,” states the report, released this week by the National Domestic Workers Alliance. The report was prepared by the Institute for Women’s Policy Research, a nonprofit organization affiliated with George Washington University.

The report’s findings are similar to previous studies on the state of black women in the country, including a widely discussed 2014 paper by the Black Women’s Roundtable titled, “Black Women in the United States, Progress and Challenges.” It also noted that despite high participation in the workforce, educational institutions and the political process, black women are underpaid and underemployed, suffer at a higher rate from major illnesses and are vulnerable to violence at home and in their communities.

There are perks as well as opposition to being a Black business owner. There is more scrutiny within the community to get started. Often times it is harder to get loans.

TRUE STORY: I was once referred by a White associate of mine to a personal banker friend of hers to apply for a small business loan. I was nervous because I had be turned down before and was trying to rebuild my credit, yet at the same time needed capital to expand my business model. The associate made sure to inform me that she only had a 502 FICO score and was able to get $50K from this particular bank. I was like HELL YEAH! I had at least a 620 so we should be good! Our debt to income ratio was good and all was well, until we got hit with– We are no longer offering that program. I told the loan officer that we had been referred to him by my associate by name and this is how the story played out.

Loan officer: Yeah that was a special program that no longer exists.

Me: How long ago was this program terminated?

Loan officer: Almost a year ago.

Me: Oh, well that is great, because she just got approved for the loan a little over 90 days ago– What program was that?

He was dead faced.

Loan officer: — There is nothing that we can do for you here.

BINGO! We still have so terribly far to go_______.



Here are some of the key findings of the new report:

• More than 6 in 10 black women are in the workforce. But between 2004 and 2014, black women’s median annual earnings declined by 5 percent. As of 2014, black women who worked full-time and year-round had median annual earnings that were 64.6 percent of that of white men, $53,000.

• The number of businesses owned by black women increased 178 percent between 2002 and 2012, the largest increase among all racial groups. In 2012, black women owned 15.4 percent of all women-owned businesses in the United States. Yet nationwide, businesses owned by black women had the lowest average sales per firm, at $27,753.

• The share of black women with at least a bachelor’s degree increased by 23.9 percent between 2004 and 2014. About 22 percent of black women over age 25 had a bachelor’s degree or advanced degree in 2014, a higher level than black men, but lower than other racial and ethnic groups.

• Nearly a quarter of the nation’s black women, 24.6 percent, live in poverty, more than twice the percentage of white women — 10.8 percent — the group with the lowest poverty rate among U.S. women.

• Black women were twice as likely as white women to be imprisoned in 2014 — 109 per 100,000 black women in state and federal prisons vs. 53 per 100,000 white women.

The report calls on government and other institutions, including nonprofit think tanks and philanthropic groups, to develop policies that provide higher wages and paid leave, improve access to health-care services, combat racism and sexism throughout society and push for criminal justice reform, both to protect black women from violence and to reduce their numbers in prison.



In conclusion of my thoughts– It is imperative that we learn how brainwashed many of us are to believe that we are not facing a dark component that reinforces white superiority, on a subconscious level that perpetuates lack of agency, while promoting destruction of a population just like in Colonial times.

~ The InTune Mother

 

Article Retrieved From:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/post-nation/wp/2017/06/08/report-black-women-are-working-hard-but-our-country-is-not-working-for-them/?utm_term=.07447dcf84a9

Natural Hair & Pregnancy

THE INTUNE MOTHER’S GUIDE TO NATURAL HAIR CARE DURING PREGNANCY 

Congratulations! Whether you are expecting your first, second or tenth baby the effects pregnancy can have on your hair can vary from person to person. You might be carrying that glorious pregnant glow on the outside, but experiencing a wide range of changes on the inside. Morning sickness, swollen ankles and heartburn are all much needed reasons to take yourself for a well deserved pamper at The InTune Mother Natural Hair Care Salon and Community Wellness Spa in Midtown Oklahoma City. With your hormones ever-changing your hair is likely to see a change, however with the help from our expert Natural Stylist, Holistic Doula, Childbirth Educator, and Postpartum Pactitioner RaShaunda Lugrand on the best pregnancy hair care techniques for natural hair– you will look and feel gorgeous from the start of your pregnancy till long after your baby has arrived.

 

COLOURING YOUR HAIR WHEN PREGNANT

Despite what many people may think,  colouring hair when pregnant is safe to do so when using the right products. Although very high levels of chemicals found in many hair dyes can potentially be harmful, the Davines brand has the safest ingredients for colouring hair when pregnant which can be found by clicking here. To be 100% sure about colouring hair when pregnant, why not arrange to speak to our InTune Mother expert colour technician to discuss the best pregnancy hair care techniques in colouring.

RELAXING YOUR HAIR WHEN PREGNANT

Despite what many people may think,  relaxing your hair when pregnant is not safe to do, even when using mild products. As very high levels of chemicals a found in many hair relaxer and can potentially be harmful. Chemical relaxers contain a cocktail of harsh chemicals that can be absorbed through the skin of your vulnerable scalp, so for your sake and baby’s, it’s best to err on the side of caution and whip your hair back and forth au natural throughout your pregnancy, if you just have to partake in chemical relaxing. To be 100% sure about the dangers of relaxing hair when pregnant, why not arrange to speak to our InTune Mother expert hair care technician to discuss the best  pregnancy hair care techniques for straightening.

PREGNANCY HAIR PROBLEMS

If you are suffering with taming your thicker hair during pregnancy – why not book yourself a FREE consultation  with our expert stylist, to discuss the best hair products to use when pregnantThe levels of estrogen are much higher in pregnant women, which may result in your hair shedding less, and appearing thicker, healthier and even glossier! Changes to hair during pregnancy can also include alterations to hair texture and hair moisture levels. If you hair has become drier, more brittle you many want to speak to our stylist on the different methods you can take the help prevent this – contact our InTune Mother Salon.

HAIRSTYLE IDEAS FOR PREGNANT WOMEN WITH NATURAL HAIR

A lot of prospective moms may feel changing their hairstyle during pregnancy is the last thing on their mind – but at The InTune Mother Salon our expert stylist knows that sometimes a new look can do wonders for your self esteem.

During pregnancy your hormones are likely to be all over the place, so always talk to your stylist before making any drastic hairstyle changes.

Why not give yourself a more manageable hairstyle for when the baby arrives? Or if you are pregnant with long hair, discuss with your stylist simple but gorgeous ways to put it up out of the way.

NATURAL HAIRSTYLE IDEAS FOR NEW MOMS

Your little bundle of joy has arrived and an easy to maintain natural hairstyle is all you are really looking for as a busy new mom!

Updo hairstyles for new moms are brilliant at keeping all of your hair off your face but still looking amazing. Yaya Dacosta and Tia Mowry  are two examples of celebrity mom hairstyles we think look gorgeous! Twists, locs, and braid hairstyles for moms are equally easy to maintain and were a huge summer hair trends this year.

If your long hair is driving you mad now, then talk to our InTune Mother expert about short natural hairstyles for busy new moms. From long bobs, to pixie cuts – there are a range of short natural hairstyles that will make your life much easier now your baby is here.

PREGNANCY BEAUTY TREATMENTS AT THE INTUNE MOTHER NATURAL HAIR SALON, MIDTOWN

It can be difficult to make time for yourself when you are a busy new mom, but it is important to look after yourself. At The TIM Center, we offer a range of services to pamper new moms and pregnant women – helping to make you look and feel InTune! Our most popular service – Yoni steams – is perfect for new moms as is an ancient therapeutic way to tone and restore your feminine body for up to four weeks, which means you can feel relaxed and beautiful after giving birth to your new baby. For more information on InTune Mother services call us at 405-600-7863.

To talk to the expert natural stylist at our natural hair salon in Midtown about natural hair care and natural hair solutions for pregnant women and new moms – call us today at 405-600-7863.

PRESS RELEASE: The InTune Mother Project Launches IHOP – The International House of Poetry

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FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

INTERNATIONAL HOUSE OF POETRY

The TIM Center

432 NW 11th St

Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 73103

Phone: 405-600-5989

Fax: 405-735-9859

timcenter.org

RaShaunda Lugrand

info.intunemother@gmail.com

Phone: 405-795-3733

Location, Date: The TIM Center  invites Oklahoma City and surrounding areas to join us at our First Friday Fundraisers at “The International House of Poetry” beginning August 4, 2017 from 7p-10p through December 2017 at The TIM Center in the Sugar Loaf Lounge. RSVP and Poets can register online at timcenter.org

The International House of Poetry is a spoken word showcase that will feature local, national and international poets while benefiting The Intune Mother Project. There will be an open mic, food and drinks available by Cafe Do Brasil one of the event sponsors.

The TIM Center is a non profit, 21st century family wellness center. Where it is the goal of The InTune Mother Project – via The TIM Center, to raise awareness to aid in the the reduction of health related disparities among all people, yet without withholding special focus on the needs of the childbearing community, beginning with people of color. We are a designated Perinatal Safe Spot, designed with an innovate approach to perinatal health, reproductive justice, and community development.

Media contact:

RaShaunda Lugrand

info.intunemother@gmail.com

Phone: 405-795-3733

timcenter.org

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Call For Submissions

THE IHOP POETRY EVENTS SHOWCASES THE CREATIVITY OF RESIDENTS, VISITORS, & ARTISTS IN THE SURROUNDING MIDTOWN, OKLAHOMA CITY, AND VARIOUS AREAS OF OKLAHOMA, ITS SURROUNDING STATES, AND INTERNATIONAL SISTER CITIES. WE ARE COMBINING THE AREA’S DENSITY OF CULTURE, TALENT AND ARTISTIC APPEAL WITH ITS ENGAGED COMMUNITY WILL RESULT IN A COMMUNITY THAT REPRESENTS THE PLANNED VISION, LANDSCAPE & HIP CULTURAL VIBRANCY OF THE COLLABORATING PARTNERSHIPS OF MIDTOWN OKC BUSINESS OWNERS.

 

 

 

THE IHOP POETRY EVENTS SHOWCASES THE CREATIVITY OF RESIDENTS, VISITORS, & ARTISTS IN THE MIDTOWN URBAN AREA AND SURROUNDING AREAS. COMBINING THE AREA’S DENSITY OF CULTURE, TALENT AND ARTISTIC APPEAL WITH ITS ENGAGED COMMUNITY WILL RESULT IN A COMMUNITY THAT REPRESENTS THE PLANNED VISION, LANDSCAPE & HIP CULTURAL VIBRANCY OF THE COLLABORATING PARTNERSHIPS OF MIDTOWN OKC BUSINESS OWNERS.

AFTER THE JULY 30TH DEADLINE, A COMMITTEE WILL CHOOSE ARTISTS TO BE JUDGED PUBLICLY ON NOV. 3RD IN OUR SLAM COMPETITION.

THE 3 OVERALL WINNING POETS FROM THAT NIGHT WILL BE FEATURED IN OUR CULTURE KEEPER MAGAZINE AND DISPLAYED AT FUTURE IHOP FRIDAYS. WINNING POETS MAY BE USED FOR IHOP PROMOTIONAL MATERIAL AND PRODUCTS IN CONJUNCTION WITH THE POETS.

Note: This is an “unofficial” poetry competition. There is no expectation that any poet  will be adapted as a “Feature Poet”… (but who knows?!)

SUBMISSIONS BEGIN JULY 10TH.

DEADLINE: JULY 30TH AT 10PM.

TO SUBMIT ELECTRONICALLY:

EMAIL A HEADSHOT AND UP TO THREE POEMS IN VIDEO OR, WRITTEN SUBMISSION IN 12in FONT, WORD DOC, GOOGLE DOC, OR PDF FORMAT TO:

THETIMCENTER@GMAIL.COM

The information will not be made public; it will qualify you for certain award categories.



TO SUBMIT HARD COPIES:

DROP OFF YOUR HEADSHOT AND UP TO THREE POEMS IN PDF FORMAT TO:

THE TIM CENTER

432 NW 11TH ST OKLAHOMA CITY, OK 73103

THURSDAY – SATURDAY 1pm – 7pm and SUNDAY 1pm – 5pm

FILL OUT THE SUBMISSION FORM PROVIDED AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS PAGE, PRINT IT OFF, AND PAPER CLIP IT TO YOUR SUBMISSION.

BY SUBMITTING YOUR POEMS TO THIS CONTEST, POETS AGREE TO ALLOW THE INTUNE MOTHER PROJECT TO MAKE PROMOTIONAL MATERIAL AND MAGAZINE STYLE PRODUCTS FROM SUBMITTED POETS. THE PROFITS OF THOSE PRODUCTS WILL BE EVENLY DISTRIBUTED BETWEEN THE TIM ORGANIZATION, THE PERSPECTIVE CAUSE  AND THE FUND FOR IHOP CULTURE KEEPER FRIDAYS.

EMAIL OBALAYE AT OM.THETIMCENTER@GMAIL.COM  OR RASHAUNDA AT RL.THETIMCENTER@GMAIL.COM WITH ANY QUESTIONS!

Remember! SLAM Competition Nov 3rd!

Submissions after the deadline will not be accepted.

SUBMIT YOUR REQUEST HERE