TIMs 2016-2020 Oklahoma Mission

Oklahoma Moms Need Your Support

Black Pregnant Mom

It has been a long journey for many mothers here in the state of Oklahoma! Often times I wondered if our mission was taking root in the community as we shifted from place to place, city to city. Then one day I was given a divine message to pack light. Now I could have taken that several different ways. One way could have been to leave everything and follow my passion…

While the other could have meant to take my “light” with me wherever I go. I chose the second. Interpreting that light as my God and my guide. Now here I am, with my lovely Native born Oklahoman husband, and three male children. Watching them play and interact with one another as we go throughout our homeschool day. Managing our process and getting better everyday.

This might sound trivial and out of step of a business owner to post such transparencies.

… But it was transparencies that created this  mission you are reading on our website.

It was passion.

It was advocacy for whole family life.

It was about community.

And now that we are in the best place to “re-launch” our maternal health and wellness campaign that states our message loud, clear and unapologetically. We are 100% sure of our culture and how it relates to childbirth, and breastfeeding, and the disparities right here in the place, we hold residency. It is to no surprise that this is not just an issue here, but across the globe. That is why we need to garner the support of our fellow Oklahoman community to say once and for all… We care that one woman dies every minute during childbirth, yet almost all of these deaths are preventable. Here in the state of Oklahoma we have created a strategy to help reduce that number by 2020.

So What’s Up With TIM

When we began this journey into maternal and child health and wellness, we had only a birds eye view of how deep we would be guided into the community. We knew early on that we wanted to be an effective resource in the natural childbirth community, due to the various circumstances we had faced personally, and where we had been of service per our own expertise, which is in homebirth.

Now we have managed to create dynamic support systems and that offers us authentic relationships that many told us – we should not have privilege to because, we were not “alphabetically qualified.” Even though our experiences, and research, and self-apprenticed learning styles, didn’t measure up with privileged practices.

We are a grassroots social welfare organization with a mind to stand up to corporate and privatized organizations and companies that say the issues in the Black community are too much to resolve. Well this year we will finish with a bang because, we will not stop until we see a shift in the issues of crisis  within our urban and rural communities.

So we are taking deeper breaths.

We are creating broader relationships.

And we are doing it all on a dental floss budget.

Our Why…

One woman dies every minute during childbirth, yet almost all of these deaths are preventable. In 2001, the UN set itself the goal of slashing maternal mortality by 75% by 2015, but it is nowhere near meeting that target. “Surgery of any kind has risk,” and a C-section is, “still the riskiest way to have a baby. “In the US, almost one third of women have that procedure for delivery of their baby.”

 

The statistics on maternal mortality in America tell a shocking story when it comes to African-American women. They are three to four times more likely to die during childbirth than white American women. Dr Bill McCool says that even wealthy black American women have a higher rate of mortality during childbirth than wealthy white women.

Maternal mortality around the world

“People have looked at this from different angles. We know that African-American women tend to have higher blood pressure than the rest of the population, so is there a link there?”JoAnne Fischer, Executive Director of the Maternity Care Coalition, which works with low income women to help them stay healthy during their pregnancies, says: “We do know that there is extraordinary stress involved in racism and in being poor. “”And we know that sometimes this creates hypertension.” Hypertension, obesity and diabetes are all linked, so we have to make sure women start their pregnancies healthy.

“Dr Bill Callaghan, of the CDC, finds that not knowing why African-American women are at greater risk when giving birth has given him and his colleagues’ sleepless nights.” We can say that some of this may be due to socio-economic disparities. “But it does not explain all of it. “And to the extent that we don’t explain racial disparity in pregnancy-related mortality, we’re going to have difficulty making headway into it.” As doctors and US officials try to work out why American women are dying in childbirth, and what can be done to prevent it, Jim Scythes is still mourning his wife Valerie, who was all too briefly a mother.

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Our Solution For Shifting The Rates In Oklahoma

In order for us to see a difference we need to shift the way we approach the childbirth community. Together using our history with #GivingTuesday global campaign we can make a big difference. Particularly in the African American community and others of color. The mindset regarding traditional childbirth has been diminished, with the practice of new wave technology and expensive research campaigns that warrant no solution. These outcomes are not because women want to die or want their children to die. These outcomes are from a deep rooted seed in the neurological DNA of generations of post traumatic stress as it relates to the Black community and slavery.

This type of cognitive dissonance is the paramount to our childbearing community.  It is our goal to build a committee or coalition of nonprofits, small businesses, and other community leaders to organize a #GivingTuesday movement in materno-toxic areas in the city and surrounding areas. There has been an assault on the womb of all women. This is at a very social and scientific disadvantage. In the state of Oklahoma, there is a core network of privileged, white led childbirth organizations that have not been able to penetrate the community of color. This adversity adds no value to the economic, social, and health care advantages that impacts the way women are giving birth. These include language and cultural barriers. This makes it extremely difficult to make clear and directed moves to support the agenda of the Maternal Mortality Review and Office of Minority Health in the state of Oklahoma.

It is every man’s obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it.”  – Albert Einstein

This is where our program offers a solution because, we have all taken the same route of creation. It is our obligation to put back into the world the equivalence of the best birth outcomes in communities that need it the most. So buy aligning with these organizations and offering women and men of color culturally competent, safe, evidence based education to support their community in childbirth, as certified birth work consultants, educators, and practitioners. Our networks of culturally centered organizations are ready and prepared to be added to our 2016 training calendar to add diversity to the childbirth community. You can help us make this possible in a variety of ways. First we have to determine why you should get involved.

WHY GET INVOLVED…

Purpose: To sensitize the community to the myriad problems that the childbirth community faces in the state of Oklahoma and the world today and motivate them to embrace a Cause that is meaningful to them.
Objectives: To discuss the basic necessities of life, or what is needed to be a part of a safe,
secure, and strong community.

To raise awareness about the most pressing issues, problems and concerns facing people around the globe – and at home regarding childbirth.

Running Question: WHAT IS THE PRIVILEDGE?

Investigate the idea of “privilege” in order to raise awareness about the way other populations DO and DO NOT experience privilege in our diverse communities. By having an elicit conversation about privilege we can get to the root of the cause, thus formulating a strategy to shift the image of disparity in childbirth, with RADICAL Change!

WHEN TO TAKE ACTION

In order to be effective we must take action now. That means to embrace the cause and start raising awareness and mobilize a core collective who is charged to make a difference.

Conclusion

We are a 100% parent led organization, by a husband and wife team of grassroots social entrepreneurs. We strive to maintain a free thinking environment that supports our artistic passions and goals to build our social welfare organization, The InTune Mother, LLC. And because we do everything from home. (i.e.) Home-birth, Home-school, and even work-from-home online, we really value our family life. We enjoy traveling, performing arts, and quality time with our 3 sons. The fact that we network for a living, is an experience that we aim to share with our core group of 3000 individuals across the globe. We dream in color and often remember the visions vividly. We set our intentions, these become our goals and we believe in our power to see them manifest. So stay connected to our website and let us know if we inspired you with any of our content… Also feel free to gift us with a colorful DONATION in support to keep our site going because we are…

Rebirthing Mother Nature’s Undisturbed Intent…

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Growing Up In 2015!

TIME TO SHIFT

Have you just simply outgrown your belief systems, but you’d rather stay in an uncomfortable place? It is okay to learn new ways to think. Most of us have been taught that we can only access 10% of our brain, but what if we began to expand outside of what we have known? Most of us only believe what we have been taught to think, feel, be… etc…

I was told that I had small hips and would not be able to give birth to my oldest son vaginally. Many women are fed that same story line… But my belief was different. I believed the Creator put baby inside me via my husband, whatever the size, baby would figure how to get itself out.

I lived with the thoughts of my own mothers birth horror story for so long, that once I became pregnant, I refused to relive her experience, through my own birth. I wanted to own my experience. So I worked on my vision of birth and I created the exact experience I wanted, and my husband, sacredly held that space for me. With each birth the power became more and more evident. Now together, my husband and I help other families, hold the creative space for the birth experience they want to have.

That is why TIM launched the #HAPPY2015 New Year campaign. We are so much more than a team of hyper focused childbirth consultants. We are professional game changers. And because we know righ now, there is a mental attact on the way childbirth is viewed — We believe NOW is the best time get intune, and to forgive yourself for letting others think for you. This kind of thinking doesn’t even require 10% of the proposed brain power that we are taught we to have access to.

It’s really simple…

Remember when you were a baby, traveling down the birth canal? There was padding an bumpers along the way, so you couldn’t just fall out of the vagina? Remember how safe you were? You were closest with God than any other time in your life. You could not read, nor write, nor were you speaking words —

But now with all the flimsy, plastic, radicalized, sterile, notions of coming into life, and what and how we should believe — Somehow we lost the connection to intute from our true mental environment.

Reality is false.

Time is draining.

And Matter…

Matter is… a fragile, yet tangible system, that many of us have to grow into, yet afraid to put on a size bigger for fear of looking or feeling the awkwardness of falling down.

But one thing is clear as the day that you were born…

One day you will shift. One day you will grow.

–And this growth will either come through wisdom or through woe. Its totally up to what your belief is around who you are that determines how you will birth.

#HAPPY2015



The InTune Mother Is About Intuitive Childbirth Empowerment

Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby from a communal standpoint.

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Breastfeeding Saves Lives

Breastfeeding For Prevention

In support of National Infant Mortality Awareness Month

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As a breastfeeding family for over the past 7 years, I have heard my fair share of stories and comments. Some from the least expecting people… But the best thing about all the work and commitment it takes to breastfeed is the benefits for mother, baby, and community. Yet it seems that we have lost our cultural components to a watered down reflection of modern motherhood. Now don’t attack me for this… but if there was as much commercial pressure to breastfeed as there is to subconsciously rape women of their maternal birthright, by suggestion of using formula… Therefore changing the dynamic socially and economically and this is a strategy that many don’t see. How many women do you think are in jail today for trying to feed their baby, because they could not afford formula, so out of desperation and fear for her babies life… She resorted to theft as an option over her own breast… I probably wouldn’t be entering this blog post, with one hand as my baby suckels from my breast for bedtime comfort — If things were different? I’d be writing about how many healthy Black babies were being born into the African American population and basking in the love of the closeness and connectivity of being at their mothers breast. Nor would I have such things to talk about regarding disparities in the African American communities because, we would be thriving in our indigenous cultural practices as intuitive childbearing breastfeeders. We’d be in a utopia… instead of a crisis…

Breastfeeding in Reducing Racial/Ethnic Disparities in Infant Mortality

As a woman of color it saddens my heart to see that there is such a cultural divide in the oldest concepts in the world and people from the African American population, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) are leading the race in yet another disparity. The question is, “Why don’t more African American women breastfeed?” In our soon to be released documentary ©”Women of Color” we address these issues from a past perspective, while adding to the ideals of futuristic concepts and cultural practices. While some of the responses were different, the trending word was “demonstration.”

In my own interpretation, communities where there are more disparities and unrest, there is no one demonstrating natural concepts around childbirth or healthy postpartum behaviors that speaks to breastfeeding as the thing to do. Some of the stories I have heard within the African American community were really shockingly ignorant. But ignorance can be excused when there is no teacher there to teach via demonstration because, we learn from what we live.

“I’m not gone let my baby suck on my breast, that’s nasty.”

 

“I am not trying to be no bodies food source.”

 

“I’m scared that my breast are gonna lose shape.”

 

“My baby daddy said, “That’s what formula is for.”

Sadly enough these are all very open ended ideas around breastfeeding, but they are limited ways of thought. The first part is that each of these women were more concerned about themselves than that of their baby. Even if she was  not aware of the fact… these should not be idea reasons to reject breastfeeding as an option.

So in response to these answers I was driven to take a deeper look into the psychological issues of such responses and again I was led back to the keyword “demonstration“. I was fortunate that I had an Aunt that introduced me to the beauty of breastfeeding at the age of 9 years old because, I was not introduced to this by my own mother. I was fascinated that our bodies produced its own milk for our babies once they were born. I  had seen animals feed their babies the same way, but not until I saw this “demonstrated” by a human was this a notable reality.

So now almost 27 years later, I see the emotional and economic disparities of not knowing the benefits of breastfeeding, which leads to a normalization that did NOT use to be in the culture of the African familial structure. Yet now here in America we have such vanity and even shame that does not readily bring such awareness to mothers from vulnerable populations. Women are not given these tools early on, in prenatal care, when physicians are contracting with pharmaceutical companies about the hottest infant formula. Also the mothers are so trusting of their care providers that they seldom even question the power of their own bodies. This is a new type of enslavement… This is a new way of life… And we just don’t get it because, subliminally the desire has been taken away to be — the mother.

This is not just an issue for the developing world. The U.S. now ranks 41st in the world in infant mortality. Much of our low ranking can be attributed to our high rates of infant mortality in African American babies; more than double the rate of whites. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recently reported that the infant mortality rate for African Americans is 12.40 per 1,000 infants, while the rate for Whites was 5.33 per 1,000. (READ MORE HERE)

Breastfeeding as A Declaration of Human Welfare

In 1978 there was  a conference held from practicing physicians down to community health workers, for the formation of a declaration  called the Declaration of Alma-Ata. This was designed to bring equitable healthcare to every population in the WORLD. This was not exclusive to certain places or to elite populations. This was designed for the whole of humanity to make healthcare a primary issue. From my studies with, Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, exclusive breastfeeding and maternity care were primary solutions to sustain even the most underserved, poor population of people.

Although the projected date of implementation was in year 2000 was devoted to peaceful aims and in particular to the acceleration of social and economic development, of which primary health care, as an essential part, should be allotted its proper share, we are still at a long stretch to accomplish such a goal.



Concluding Thought

The more aware we are of our bodies abilities and purposes within nature, the less resistance we will have. The more we learn to identify, with the beauty of our womaness, the more of an erect posture “women of color” would pose within our communities, mentally and emotionally. Thus establishing a social picture of thriving relationships and babies, even in the most underserved, undereducated populations, therefore closing the gap of infant mortality in the African American community with the simple demonstration of breastfeeding.

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The InTune Mother Is About Intuitive Childbirth Empowerment

Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby from an urban, intellectually communal, standpoint.

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Summation Sunday ~ The Resurrection Of Motherhood

Tearing Down The Old Temple

Let me begin by saying there is no such thing as death. There is only the balance of transition and this is the burning contradiction that breaks the connection between being present and the vulnerability of fulfilling the bodies life purpose. What is no longer useful to the world will pass on into the next dimension and that includes human life. At the pace we live at, stress causes tremendous problems on our nervous system. That is why the breath is so important.  The breath of life is the greatest natural resource know to the human body. It nourishes our cells and tissues, bringing life back into our total being. Simple relaxation and deep breathing stimulates the vibration of the body, thus sealing the needed energy to help reset and rebuild the bodies full potential of mental, emotional, and physical performance. That is why old temples are being torn down. So it is far time that we begin to learn how to rebuild our temples one breath at a time.

From Home-Birthers to Spiritual Entrepreneurs

When my husband and I first decided to have a homebirth, seven years ago, we did not fully understand the process of familial transitions that we were about to undergo. Certain things were about to die… some of those things we were very passionate about. We really did not to plan for the transition from the regular lifestyle, we were accustomed to, so it was not easy. When we thought of traveling, visiting family and friends, or just spending time together, we were with our new baby and we needed more time. This meant that we had to stop making time and start managing our time for social equity. We were newly married, way from our parents, and winging the whole process of parenthood. So we tried to do a zillion things to make good on our commitments… My husband worked in theater and for #WellsFargo at the time and I owned and operated a natural hair salon by day and preformed at local venues by night. When we made up our minds to fully pursue our lives on purpose, we were introduced to abundance. Although this was awesome, we did not account for is the probability of time.

How did it get so late so soon? Its night before its afternoon. December is here before its June. My goodness how the time has flewn. How did it get so late so soon?

Dr. Seuss

TRANSITION: Moving On Up To The East Side

After we made the move from the West Coast to the East Coast it was totally derived off of the spirit of our subconscious mind. We wanted to be where the sun rose instead of where it set. We had creative ambitions and felt that we were no longer thriving in the Valley of The Sun. Upon our move, we did not get that deluxe apartment in the sky, but we were in positive motion. Seeing different faces everywhere, tall colorful trees, and in the Spring the ferocious green monster (pollen) would attack our sinus. It was a beautiful shift in culture, experience, and environment. After an emotional miscarriage, with our second baby, prior to our move to Georgia, we knew that we had to come to present, take mental notes, and feel what out bodies were speaking to us. Now after a record total of three successful homebirths, we found our mental niche. Our family tradition became our business. We had a 96% success rate and the other 4% was transitional favor.

Having a strong team working together at the very thing that we do best, which is being creative, making babies, and self expression, became our ministry of expertise. After the epiphany we had with the birth our our last son, we felt charged to assist other women and families, through our learned experiences. We soon embarked on a life of self-directed apprenticeships and disciplines. After studying with various universities, professionals, and coaching methodologies, reading book after book, and still reading, we found something very important — All of the theories were just as experienced based as our concepts and most were around medical reinterpretations. Some were spiritually divine, but still to the writers interpretation. We quickly realized that we had something to offer that we had not yet seen because, we had not yet produced it. So we channeled the balance between what we had experienced, and what we had learned about those experiences, into the services that we offer today called, “The BOSS Method.”

 Re-birthing Mother Nature’s Undisturbed Intent

The simplicity of childbirth is not commonly spoken of as a free, non-medical experience. Majority of the time when we tell people that we homebirth, they start saying things like, “Ut un… you brave”, “You didn’t have no medicine”, “Naw I couldn’t do that.” We smile and reply, why not? Then we get a laundry list of reasons that were really out of lack of information, fear, and/or limited access to information. Most of the reasons were generational jargon passed down from the societal transitions of natural childbirth. Some were because of the idea that homebirth had a hefty expense. Others were because, they simply did not know they had the option to deliver outside of the institution of medicine legally.

Some women share that they would have opted for homebirth if they would have know they could. Some women become frustrated because, they felt the option was hidden from them. Others felt tricked into inductions and surgical birth. This is where it get’s complicated. As I recall my first initial prenatal visit, and I was immediately told, that I would most likely have to deliver surgically because, my hips were so small. That was an immediate red flag for me and I knew that I had to make the decision to birth the way I wanted NOT the way I was profiled. Luckily the desire to Birth Like A BOSS was already in our cards. This is why my husband and I knew that we had to strategically get the word out to the community of those seeking an alternative to what they had been made to believe.



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Summonsing Your Own Unique Truth

It really all begins with what you think about childbirth that sets the tone for how you will deliver. But let me get one thing clear… It is not the conscious mind that controls this process, but the subconscious mind that you have to learn how to navigate. The conscious mind is a remarkable thing, but there’s a whole other level of awareness that, when tapped, can greatly expand your abilities and allow you to achieve your goals in childbirth –and in life itself.

The subconscious mind has the ability to change your entire life around, if you know how to use it. Here are 9 steps that my husband and I exercise in order to build up our power of the Universe within and without. This includes thoughts, emotions, actions, and reactions.



STEP 1 : Practice “Stream of Consciousness” Journaling. Get a journal. Pick a nice pen to write with. Set a timer for 5-10 minutes and write whatever comes immediately to mind, continuing writing until the time is up no matter how dull, strange, weird, or whatever it sounds. Although at first this will channel your conscious mind, it will bring up unconscious thoughts. Have patience. Writing, at first, will be difficult but, with practice, becomes rather easy.

STEP 2 : Learn to meditate. There are many methods of meditation but all deal with focusing the mind, quieting it, and allowing you to harness it. Choose whichever appeals to you and be sure to practice daily, if only for a few minutes.

STEP 3 : Learn about the subconscious. The more you learn about the human mind, the more you can use it to enhance your life. Take coursework in psychology. Read The Four Agreements. Pray and/or create positive affirmations.

STEP 4 : Practice positive self talk. If you say to yourself, “I can’t do this, I’m going to fail,” you will fail. However, if you say, “I can do this. I know I can!,” you’re more likely to succeed. This process is known as “affirmation“.

STEP 5 : Visualize. This is one of the most significant keys to success. Actively picturing yourself achieving a goal will help you actually achieve it.

STEP 6 : Study briefly just before bedtime. This is especially helpful for things that require memorization. If you review the development of your baby, your positive words vocabulary list, or your homebirth play book just before sleeping, your subconscious will likely process it throughout the night for you.

STEP 7 : Pay attention to your dreams. Your deeper mind will sometimes try to sort out your life issues through dreams. If you pay attention to them, write them down immediately, and reflect on it, you may get insight to the problem at hand and this can help your transition though that particular issue.

STEP 8 : Listen to your intuition. Your intuition is a way your mind has of warning you of dangers or enlightening you to opportunities before your conscious mind has all the information. If you get a “red flag” feeling about a person or situation, do listen. This is often a key step in avoiding tragic opposition.

STEP 9 : Use different methods to develop your subconscious mind. Guessing things will help a lot. Just try to listen to your intuition and make predictions. Use different tools, for example Lumosity offers brain stimulating games and other cool mind enhancement tools. This also opens subconscious parts of your mind.



CONCLUDING THOUGHT

Any negative thoughts that you come up with should be removed, or replaced IMMEDIATELY. These negative thoughts are blocks on your subconscious and they prevent you from getting what you want. Negative thoughts are tied to strongly held beliefs – which further limit your success that are born out of fear. This combination of negative thinking and limiting beliefs lead to opposition and failure. The longer you hang on to them the worse your situation gets.

So what do you do?

BOSS Up! Change your mind, surrounding attitude NOW! Get rid of the mental baggage as quickly as possible.

Create thoughts that empower you, thoughts that allow you to succeed and enjoy your now life.

Negative thoughts and negative beliefs create a negative a life. They destroy any chance of successful outcomes.

You cannot succeed and enjoy life with chronic negative thinking or being around people who entertain negativity in any way. They are energy suckers.

Remember, your subconscious mind follows your thoughts and beliefs. It sees them as instructions and simply follows them. It creates your life based on your thoughts and beliefs. Your life is really a mirror of your thoughts and beliefs.



The InTune Mother Is About Intuitive Childbirth Empowerment

Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby from an urban communal stand point.

If you find this article useful… Which we surely hope you do… Then say InTune to other information just like this and SUBSCRIBE HERE!

The InTune Mother is now offering intuitive consultations, creative workshops, and empowerment coaching using our proven methodology The BOSS Method. 

Want to lean more about how to connect to supportive, baby friendly physicians and birth practitioners CLICK HERE!

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TUESDAY’S TECHNIQUE ~ GET ROOTED IN THE POWER OF CREATIVE VISUALIZATION

COMING OUT OF THE FOG

There are times that I sit and ponder over the life that we have today. The instant moments of sunshine on our faces in the morning. The smell of fresh baby breath asking for more milk. (My baby call’s it Nean). This post drives my passion in several ways and one is for my “Tree-Hugger” husband and his infinite love for creation and his seed. The other is our intuitive, eclectic, concept of empowerment childbirth education. Yet sometimes there is this bit of fog that likes to hover around our work. I am learning to chart when these times happen and I call it… “seed time.” Taking note on the things that manifest as I am progressing forward. I often have to stop and it comes to me. I’m a carrier. I am deep rich soil. I am always with child. I am a conceiver. I am always PREGNANT! I am always with seed. Not in the literal sense, but in the spiritual. Because I am NOT a person who prescribes to Western methods of birth control, I refuse to become like the “Little Old Woman Who Lived In a Shoe.” The children are always around my door, yelling and playing, fussing and making up childish games. Asking for water and nutritious snacks. Then I stop to think of what happens when we become exposed to the reality of being  “Grown Ups.” This is a technique all in and of itself. This is what I call coming out of the fog.

The Universal Infinite Time

The fog… When we become adults… Most of us assume that when things get weird and clarity seems far away… We are in the center of a storm. The wind and turbulence has taken over and peacetime has a long road ahead. Since there is really no such thing as time, we have to acknowledge the matter of probability and stop waging war on the resistance. Knowing how to bend with the elements is how we determine our innate flexibility. Your power is in the elements of the universe. This is the most creative point of reference anyone can receive when feeling out of time. Balancing the waters of emotion is first and foremost. Remembering to breathe is being at one with the water. Kindling the flames of desire is how we burn those hard rocky clumps into precious gems. This is the basics of grounding your energy in the soil of this Earth in which you plant your visions and dreams. We are not just talking about manifesting money, houses, and cars here. We are talking about manifesting life itself in ALL it’s vastness and abundance. And the most abundant resource is human currency.

And Men All Looked Like Trees…

Understanding the fundamental principles of creation.

A wise man once told me that even a tree goes through adversity when it’s taking root from that tiny seed.

As we walk through the forest and view the trees, we remember they were once tiny seeds.  This is just the same as you and I. The same as an idea or a thought. Trees have an outer cover for protection, food and water inside to use for the first surge into growth, a part that has an affinity for water that will seek out the soil and become roots and a part with an affinity for light that will seek the sun and become leaves and branches.  Nature gives all seeds another characteristic. See any similarities in the human structure of childbirth?

While nature provides a seed all it needs to survive, she provides great opposition to survival.  From the beginning, each seed must compete with its neighbor for water, food, sunlight and space in which to grow.  Sound like any neighborhood you know? Trees produce thousands of seeds.  Very few grow to maturity.  In fact, from a start of 10,000 seedlings per acre at age one year, the final stand of mature trees may number less than 50. The Universe has an enlightening way of balancing the mortality of it’s creation so we must always give thanks.

Centering Thought

In order for ANY seed (a human, a tree, a thought) to sprout, develop, and manifest it must have food, water, sunlight and warmth (the elements).  Until it gets rooted, in the soil it can not come above ground… It can not be born.  As roots go deeper into the soil they absorb water and minerals from the soil and send these up into the stem. Wonder why “stem cells” are such an important commodity?

These act as a chemical laboratory.  In a process called photosynthesis, which takes place in the green leaves of a tree in the presence of chlorophyll and sunlight, the tree takes carbon dioxide from the air and manufactures starches and sugars and gives off oxygen as a waste product.  The formula is simple but the process has never been artificially duplicated. Too bad humans have this limitation. But do we? If all living things were able to photosynthesize like plant life, nothing would ever have to eat to survive… every living thing could manufacture its own food within its own body. There would be no need for teeth, no need for stomachs. But thankfully we are both duly unique and our processes keep us divinely connected to the fundamental principles of the Universe, thus women have the ability to produce milk from our own bodies, to feed our toothless babies, from the starchy, sugary, nutrient rich sap of our beautiful breasts. 



 

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STOP!!! Waging War On The Mother of Civilization

Don’t Induce Me.

Introduce Me To An Alternative.



 

So many times over the past few months, as we talk to perspective late term clients, they tell us that they are being induced. The sad part is — 3 out of 5 have no real medical reason. Either the baby is too big or they are a week past due. HUH! ARE YOU SERIOUS? One young mother said, “I don’t want to tear.” All of these reasons are fraudulent to the process of healthy childbirth. Although it is the woman’s right to choose, induction and synthetic drugs seems to be the instant solution recommended by the physician or caregiver.

It bothers me so that these women, soon to be mothers are not being given the red light, knowing the harmful effects of what this can do to mother and baby. They are not being told the many consequences of having an unnecessary induction. They are not being told that this puts them at a higher risk for c-section. Nor are they being told this can greatly interfere with their desire to breastfeed.

The Fear Of A Big Baby

 

Okay! first of all let me start by saying, “There is nothing to fear, but fear itself.” What is fear? (False Evidence Appearing Real) So just the other day an expecting mother in our community told my husband (mind you she is 28 weeks gestation) that she was going in at 34 weeks to be induced… OMG! I almost fainted. When he asked her why, she confidently said, “Oh my baby is going to be too big, so I’m going to go in early.” Now every part of me wanted to scream, but I had to keep in mind what I have learned from experience, and then evidence based studies.

What if she had gestational diabetes was my first thought? This sometimes can cause big babies. Which the medical term for big baby is macrosomia, which literally means “big body.” The other is shoulder dystocia. Even still there is no sure shot way of determining that this will be the outcome, thus fostering the need to induce and possibly add the drama of a c-section. Then I thought of the fact that some physicians are just eager to add pressure to moms in order to cash out on drugs and the use of shiny new tools and gadgets, with these harmful assumptions — more often than not.

Other researchers have found that when a first-time mom is incorrectly suspected of having a big baby, that care providers have less patience with labor and are more likely to recommend a C-section for stalled labor.

My husband and I are not medical professionals, but we consult with enough to know that, more women are getting unnecessary inductions and c-sections than the law should allow. This surly adds to the rubble of poor or traumatic outcomes for mother and baby during the process of childbirth. Mom’s are not told the dangers of the drugs, the developmental distress, and the physical and emotional distress that can follow this type of pressure. Somehow too many physicians manage to present these options due to the inadequate assumptions, least giving the body time to process in the normal.

Researchers have consistently found that induction for suspected big babies does not improve the health of moms or babies.

So many woman are tricked into impatience. They miss the gift of what their bodies can do because, they trust their doctors more than themselves. When women are told otherwise, they are often shut down and smacked with a boatload of policies and procedures.  Also in their subconscious, they often hear the tragedy of their own birth stories. To the point that c-section has become a hereditary. Don’t get me wrong, in some cases — such procedures are necessary, but not at the rates that we see today.



 

Closing Evidence

 

One should be grateful to have informers like Evidence Based Birth in their arsenal. We are. The greatest part to this article is that WE have to lean how to do the research for ourselves, in order to find great resources such as the one linked above. The more we know the better birth outcomes we will achieve. The more we learn to reconnect to our innate matressence… the more we will find that the evidence surrounding majority of maternal health and wellness is medicalized and based on various assumptions.



 

The InTune Mother Is About Childbirth Empowerment

Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby.

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Transitioning Through A Crisis

Maternal Health In The USA Fails The American Family

No matter how far we believe we have come, we have to identify with the issues at hand here in America, as it relates to maternal mortality and infant death. As I worked this weekend, drafting new content and a more positive branding structure for the TIM (The InTune Mother) website, I had an epiphany. We need to keep positive stories as it relates to maternal and infant health on the forefront. This is part of a beta test that we launched to show people how powerful the media is as it relates to how we feel about the mentioned subject. But I have to be real. Maternal and infant death is why we are here (on this website). We are driving awareness to this issue because, if we don’t confront these issues head on… Looking at the root of the problems… With a clear lens… Then we won’t find a viable solution. As I woke up this morning, with my husband at my feet, my youngest son at my breast, and my middle son snuggled on the edge of the bed, with his fluffy dog pillow, I was filled with tears of gratitude. There is something unique about my life. This is not to say that other families are not unique in their own way — I just see the beauty in being a part of the majority and not the minority, of those families who woke up feeling defeated and displaced. To the mother of a child who didn’t wake up this morning because, she passed after giving birth to her new baby.  Or the family grieving the loss of the much anticipated newcomer who was stillborn at 39 weeks. Lastly for the baby who didn’t make it to his/her first birthday because, the environment wasn’t conducive to a thriving family lifestyle. And this is a majority issue to a minority people, but it’s actually the opposite. This is a minority issue, to a majority people, and majority of these people are transitioning through a crisis. When this is taking place in the community, it makes the U.S. look like a third world developing country, NOT AMERICA. If you look at the diagram below you’ll see exactly what I mean. Maternal Mortality USA

Maternal Health Care Has Bad Karma In The US

When I got out of bed, I brushed my teeth and washed my face, I sat down in front of the computer to check my email and Facebook inbox for pertinent notifications… Only to find an article by the Huffington Post (read more here), and see what you see above this paragraph. It’s sad that the United States is number 7 out of 10 other countries and has a 1.7% increased in the rank of maternal mortality. This should not be a shocking thing. When you look at the lineup of how other countries are progressing, I can’t do anything, but be driven down into my spirit and insight about bad karma for the United States. I say this because, when you look at the other countries; Zimbabwe, Botswana, and Chad to name a few, you know these are heavily war ridden populations. And it bothers me that we would be in the running with these countries, who are not as developed,  and we (Americans) a thriving, technology driven country, are still poorly ranking, with these specific numbers in our diverse populations. This tells us something very very deep. It tells us… when we see places like Romania, Poland, and Albania even Morocco having decreased its maternal mortality rate, it tells us something very important… It tells us that we’re just placing our resources and cosmic energy in the wrong place. This universal energy is abundant and full of endless possibilities, including self preservation. It is no secret to the solution here. We know that education has always been the key to successful developments in time. Yet now misuse of this energy is showing its face and “Houston we have a big problem!” I won’t go into the history of our ancestors from South Africa, to West and East Africa, to the West Indies, and South America. I won’t go into those places within this blog post. But what I will say is that in order for us to see a solution and to break the karmic past of the United States, as it relates to this maternal mortality rate… Specifically within the African-American population we have to speak the truth.

There has to be a driving force here and it has to be filled, with deliberate and strategic ideas, around how to fix things.  I believe the way to creating this solution is sitting right in front of our faces. Don’t let this data get twisted up. There is probably going to be a higher spike in the numbers yet because, with better reporting and tracking applications, we will see a great difference. In hopes that the determining information is building bridges for more innovative strategies. For instance, by returning to nature, we allow fresh perspectives to be introduced to the public eye. But, when you have a society that refutes nature, and that talks against nature… and everything is so medical and scientific… We miss the ball. We miss the opportunity to eradicate these different types of disparities, within the culture of maternal health. This is about primary care for all, or better yet human rights (period). I study with Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health and when you think about what Primary Healthcare For All means, it’s declaration is about preserving humanities well being, starting with proper health care. If anything, the care women receive here in the states is so shabby because, we don’t have the two very most dynamic pieces of the maternal puzzle working together. We have medical vs. political vs. humanity and then what we end up having is; different types of disparities that were unable to be maneuvered into a solid solution because, the minds are geared towards social experimentation, new technologies, new ways to utilize instruments (toys) versus following the mind of nature drawing off of the karma of what has always been… Or “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”

The Mental Mentality Behind Maternal Health 

“Mind your matter” is the biggest message that we’ve always said to families that we service here at TIM.  One other finite perspective we pride ourselves in here at The InTune Mother Project  is that there is usually no physician in attendance to help you (mother/father) learn the act of lovemaking. It was a natural and consensual process 90% of the time.  Which in turn implanted that child into the womb of the mother… so why should there be the need of physician assistance to extract or remove a child from it’s mother’s womb, when there is no serious reason to do so.  In America right now, the cesarean rate is at 32.8%. When we look at this clearly, the maternal and infant death rate doubling and tripling in the populations here and abroad, what are we really arguing and debating over? Is it money or the idea of childbirth being a natural event versus a medical event? So then I’d say we’re causing ourselves more harm than good because, simply put, there is no solution that lives in the research money you spend on commonwealth education. Starting with effective ideas around what is being done right, instead of what certain populations lack or are in need of is the one way to be effective. Ever watched a cat give birth, or a dog, or any other animal in the wild? There’s no one there to interrupt the system or massage human, domesticated concepts into the life force energy of that well equipped creature. In itself and I’m humbly speaking that the more we identify with the problems from suggestive entities, lying down the ground rules inside the minds of those controlling “We The People,” then the populations mental faculties surrounding the natural and holistic body of successful health and wellness, will continue to see faltering in the human population.  I’m not sorry for seeking deliberate therapy and equally just access for those who know not.  There is nothing that can be done or that will be done, if we do not create programs that speak to the reality of these issues.  There will only be more disparities, more works toward balancing faulty mental energy, until we learn to go where the love is. Following and loving, piece by piece. This is found when humanity takes hold of the foundation of what we know we have, and that is a voice. There is an amazing quote by Jim Rohn that says,

“Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know.”

The beauty of effective communication is 20% of what you know and is just your learned concept… and the other 80% of how you feel about what you know is based on how confident you are of what you learned to trust as true or false. Here is an example: You’re pregnant. 20% of this information you know as truth.. Whether you took a test at home or found out from your practitioner, you know that you’re pregnant. Now the real cookie here is about how you feel now that you know your pregnant. Do those same anxious thoughts come to mind that most women have? You plan to go to the hospital, They may play the money card and fill your head with this statement, ” You’re a small woman and most women your size have complicated deliveries”. And this is where we have to get a serious action plan.  These physicians actually tell these new moms things that spike stress levels and create hypertension, nor do they advise women of alternatives outside of prescriptions or nutritional value, for prenatal health, and they seldom work with Midwives & Doulas due to inferiority complexes in the male dominated field of obstetrics.

CONCLUSION

If these women do not have the right information as to who can help them give birth successfully, then I’m not so sure that traditional methods of childbirth will rise, with little or no support to their education. And giving them a very basic education is such a slap in the face. What should they have to learn you might ask? People need to be educated by people that look like them first! The more and more were able to educate people from a communal standpoint, the more we are able to identify with the problems at hand, and create valuable solutions. There is no way to look at every woman’s body as a one-stop shop or SRX-Model. These are human beings and we have to get out of that sick state of mind and broken mentality that everybody is created the same way. Yes! Every woman has a vagina, with her very own uniqueness about her vagina, it is actually her fingerprint in childbirth. No vagina is the same. Ask the men who sleep with random women and they’ll tell you that. There’s no identical aspects in relation to the promise that every woman’s pelvis is also unique, so we have to treat it that way. This simple idea has been oppressively used by those who prey on the weak, when they take away a woman’s right to identify with her own bodily forces.  They are obstructing her ability to charge forward, within her responsibility by convincing her that  letting go of her power is right and exact. This is almost as bad as rape and being taken advantage of because they are mentally stripping her of what she’s capable of doing innately by herself, and that is protecting herself and her young. So by telling her to resist herself, this is the reason why we’re losing so many women, and so many babies to Deadly Deliveries because, too many don’t want to see women giving birth the way that mother nature intended. To many want to disturb nature in every way that they can, to research, pick, and probe to get information that is unnecessary for human evolution. It’s so simple, Dr. Bradley speaks of this highly ~ If you just watch nature you’ll get the research, you’ll get the information, you’ll get your solutions. but then again, it all begins with the key component and that is the power of effective communication. When you have blockages in your communication, you’ll find disparities at every turn… Can you hear Mother Nature crying for her children?

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