STOP!!! Waging War On The Mother of Civilization

Don’t Induce Me.

Introduce Me To An Alternative.



 

So many times over the past few months, as we talk to perspective late term clients, they tell us that they are being induced. The sad part is — 3 out of 5 have no real medical reason. Either the baby is too big or they are a week past due. HUH! ARE YOU SERIOUS? One young mother said, “I don’t want to tear.” All of these reasons are fraudulent to the process of healthy childbirth. Although it is the woman’s right to choose, induction and synthetic drugs seems to be the instant solution recommended by the physician or caregiver.

It bothers me so that these women, soon to be mothers are not being given the red light, knowing the harmful effects of what this can do to mother and baby. They are not being told the many consequences of having an unnecessary induction. They are not being told that this puts them at a higher risk for c-section. Nor are they being told this can greatly interfere with their desire to breastfeed.

The Fear Of A Big Baby

 

Okay! first of all let me start by saying, “There is nothing to fear, but fear itself.” What is fear? (False Evidence Appearing Real) So just the other day an expecting mother in our community told my husband (mind you she is 28 weeks gestation) that she was going in at 34 weeks to be induced… OMG! I almost fainted. When he asked her why, she confidently said, “Oh my baby is going to be too big, so I’m going to go in early.” Now every part of me wanted to scream, but I had to keep in mind what I have learned from experience, and then evidence based studies.

What if she had gestational diabetes was my first thought? This sometimes can cause big babies. Which the medical term for big baby is macrosomia, which literally means “big body.” The other is shoulder dystocia. Even still there is no sure shot way of determining that this will be the outcome, thus fostering the need to induce and possibly add the drama of a c-section. Then I thought of the fact that some physicians are just eager to add pressure to moms in order to cash out on drugs and the use of shiny new tools and gadgets, with these harmful assumptions — more often than not.

Other researchers have found that when a first-time mom is incorrectly suspected of having a big baby, that care providers have less patience with labor and are more likely to recommend a C-section for stalled labor.

My husband and I are not medical professionals, but we consult with enough to know that, more women are getting unnecessary inductions and c-sections than the law should allow. This surly adds to the rubble of poor or traumatic outcomes for mother and baby during the process of childbirth. Mom’s are not told the dangers of the drugs, the developmental distress, and the physical and emotional distress that can follow this type of pressure. Somehow too many physicians manage to present these options due to the inadequate assumptions, least giving the body time to process in the normal.

Researchers have consistently found that induction for suspected big babies does not improve the health of moms or babies.

So many woman are tricked into impatience. They miss the gift of what their bodies can do because, they trust their doctors more than themselves. When women are told otherwise, they are often shut down and smacked with a boatload of policies and procedures.  Also in their subconscious, they often hear the tragedy of their own birth stories. To the point that c-section has become a hereditary. Don’t get me wrong, in some cases — such procedures are necessary, but not at the rates that we see today.



 

Closing Evidence

 

One should be grateful to have informers like Evidence Based Birth in their arsenal. We are. The greatest part to this article is that WE have to lean how to do the research for ourselves, in order to find great resources such as the one linked above. The more we know the better birth outcomes we will achieve. The more we learn to reconnect to our innate matressence… the more we will find that the evidence surrounding majority of maternal health and wellness is medicalized and based on various assumptions.



 

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Transitioning Through A Crisis

Maternal Health In The USA Fails The American Family

No matter how far we believe we have come, we have to identify with the issues at hand here in America, as it relates to maternal mortality and infant death. As I worked this weekend, drafting new content and a more positive branding structure for the TIM (The InTune Mother) website, I had an epiphany. We need to keep positive stories as it relates to maternal and infant health on the forefront. This is part of a beta test that we launched to show people how powerful the media is as it relates to how we feel about the mentioned subject. But I have to be real. Maternal and infant death is why we are here (on this website). We are driving awareness to this issue because, if we don’t confront these issues head on… Looking at the root of the problems… With a clear lens… Then we won’t find a viable solution. As I woke up this morning, with my husband at my feet, my youngest son at my breast, and my middle son snuggled on the edge of the bed, with his fluffy dog pillow, I was filled with tears of gratitude. There is something unique about my life. This is not to say that other families are not unique in their own way — I just see the beauty in being a part of the majority and not the minority, of those families who woke up feeling defeated and displaced. To the mother of a child who didn’t wake up this morning because, she passed after giving birth to her new baby.  Or the family grieving the loss of the much anticipated newcomer who was stillborn at 39 weeks. Lastly for the baby who didn’t make it to his/her first birthday because, the environment wasn’t conducive to a thriving family lifestyle. And this is a majority issue to a minority people, but it’s actually the opposite. This is a minority issue, to a majority people, and majority of these people are transitioning through a crisis. When this is taking place in the community, it makes the U.S. look like a third world developing country, NOT AMERICA. If you look at the diagram below you’ll see exactly what I mean. Maternal Mortality USA

Maternal Health Care Has Bad Karma In The US

When I got out of bed, I brushed my teeth and washed my face, I sat down in front of the computer to check my email and Facebook inbox for pertinent notifications… Only to find an article by the Huffington Post (read more here), and see what you see above this paragraph. It’s sad that the United States is number 7 out of 10 other countries and has a 1.7% increased in the rank of maternal mortality. This should not be a shocking thing. When you look at the lineup of how other countries are progressing, I can’t do anything, but be driven down into my spirit and insight about bad karma for the United States. I say this because, when you look at the other countries; Zimbabwe, Botswana, and Chad to name a few, you know these are heavily war ridden populations. And it bothers me that we would be in the running with these countries, who are not as developed,  and we (Americans) a thriving, technology driven country, are still poorly ranking, with these specific numbers in our diverse populations. This tells us something very very deep. It tells us… when we see places like Romania, Poland, and Albania even Morocco having decreased its maternal mortality rate, it tells us something very important… It tells us that we’re just placing our resources and cosmic energy in the wrong place. This universal energy is abundant and full of endless possibilities, including self preservation. It is no secret to the solution here. We know that education has always been the key to successful developments in time. Yet now misuse of this energy is showing its face and “Houston we have a big problem!” I won’t go into the history of our ancestors from South Africa, to West and East Africa, to the West Indies, and South America. I won’t go into those places within this blog post. But what I will say is that in order for us to see a solution and to break the karmic past of the United States, as it relates to this maternal mortality rate… Specifically within the African-American population we have to speak the truth.

There has to be a driving force here and it has to be filled, with deliberate and strategic ideas, around how to fix things.  I believe the way to creating this solution is sitting right in front of our faces. Don’t let this data get twisted up. There is probably going to be a higher spike in the numbers yet because, with better reporting and tracking applications, we will see a great difference. In hopes that the determining information is building bridges for more innovative strategies. For instance, by returning to nature, we allow fresh perspectives to be introduced to the public eye. But, when you have a society that refutes nature, and that talks against nature… and everything is so medical and scientific… We miss the ball. We miss the opportunity to eradicate these different types of disparities, within the culture of maternal health. This is about primary care for all, or better yet human rights (period). I study with Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health and when you think about what Primary Healthcare For All means, it’s declaration is about preserving humanities well being, starting with proper health care. If anything, the care women receive here in the states is so shabby because, we don’t have the two very most dynamic pieces of the maternal puzzle working together. We have medical vs. political vs. humanity and then what we end up having is; different types of disparities that were unable to be maneuvered into a solid solution because, the minds are geared towards social experimentation, new technologies, new ways to utilize instruments (toys) versus following the mind of nature drawing off of the karma of what has always been… Or “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”

The Mental Mentality Behind Maternal Health 

“Mind your matter” is the biggest message that we’ve always said to families that we service here at TIM.  One other finite perspective we pride ourselves in here at The InTune Mother Project  is that there is usually no physician in attendance to help you (mother/father) learn the act of lovemaking. It was a natural and consensual process 90% of the time.  Which in turn implanted that child into the womb of the mother… so why should there be the need of physician assistance to extract or remove a child from it’s mother’s womb, when there is no serious reason to do so.  In America right now, the cesarean rate is at 32.8%. When we look at this clearly, the maternal and infant death rate doubling and tripling in the populations here and abroad, what are we really arguing and debating over? Is it money or the idea of childbirth being a natural event versus a medical event? So then I’d say we’re causing ourselves more harm than good because, simply put, there is no solution that lives in the research money you spend on commonwealth education. Starting with effective ideas around what is being done right, instead of what certain populations lack or are in need of is the one way to be effective. Ever watched a cat give birth, or a dog, or any other animal in the wild? There’s no one there to interrupt the system or massage human, domesticated concepts into the life force energy of that well equipped creature. In itself and I’m humbly speaking that the more we identify with the problems from suggestive entities, lying down the ground rules inside the minds of those controlling “We The People,” then the populations mental faculties surrounding the natural and holistic body of successful health and wellness, will continue to see faltering in the human population.  I’m not sorry for seeking deliberate therapy and equally just access for those who know not.  There is nothing that can be done or that will be done, if we do not create programs that speak to the reality of these issues.  There will only be more disparities, more works toward balancing faulty mental energy, until we learn to go where the love is. Following and loving, piece by piece. This is found when humanity takes hold of the foundation of what we know we have, and that is a voice. There is an amazing quote by Jim Rohn that says,

“Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know.”

The beauty of effective communication is 20% of what you know and is just your learned concept… and the other 80% of how you feel about what you know is based on how confident you are of what you learned to trust as true or false. Here is an example: You’re pregnant. 20% of this information you know as truth.. Whether you took a test at home or found out from your practitioner, you know that you’re pregnant. Now the real cookie here is about how you feel now that you know your pregnant. Do those same anxious thoughts come to mind that most women have? You plan to go to the hospital, They may play the money card and fill your head with this statement, ” You’re a small woman and most women your size have complicated deliveries”. And this is where we have to get a serious action plan.  These physicians actually tell these new moms things that spike stress levels and create hypertension, nor do they advise women of alternatives outside of prescriptions or nutritional value, for prenatal health, and they seldom work with Midwives & Doulas due to inferiority complexes in the male dominated field of obstetrics.

CONCLUSION

If these women do not have the right information as to who can help them give birth successfully, then I’m not so sure that traditional methods of childbirth will rise, with little or no support to their education. And giving them a very basic education is such a slap in the face. What should they have to learn you might ask? People need to be educated by people that look like them first! The more and more were able to educate people from a communal standpoint, the more we are able to identify with the problems at hand, and create valuable solutions. There is no way to look at every woman’s body as a one-stop shop or SRX-Model. These are human beings and we have to get out of that sick state of mind and broken mentality that everybody is created the same way. Yes! Every woman has a vagina, with her very own uniqueness about her vagina, it is actually her fingerprint in childbirth. No vagina is the same. Ask the men who sleep with random women and they’ll tell you that. There’s no identical aspects in relation to the promise that every woman’s pelvis is also unique, so we have to treat it that way. This simple idea has been oppressively used by those who prey on the weak, when they take away a woman’s right to identify with her own bodily forces.  They are obstructing her ability to charge forward, within her responsibility by convincing her that  letting go of her power is right and exact. This is almost as bad as rape and being taken advantage of because they are mentally stripping her of what she’s capable of doing innately by herself, and that is protecting herself and her young. So by telling her to resist herself, this is the reason why we’re losing so many women, and so many babies to Deadly Deliveries because, too many don’t want to see women giving birth the way that mother nature intended. To many want to disturb nature in every way that they can, to research, pick, and probe to get information that is unnecessary for human evolution. It’s so simple, Dr. Bradley speaks of this highly ~ If you just watch nature you’ll get the research, you’ll get the information, you’ll get your solutions. but then again, it all begins with the key component and that is the power of effective communication. When you have blockages in your communication, you’ll find disparities at every turn… Can you hear Mother Nature crying for her children?

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Radical Birthwork as an Act of Resistance

Midwives play an important role in healthy outcomes for mother and infant. As a woman’s primary health provider, midwives have traditionally cared for all aspects of a woman’s reproductive well-being. Many of us are not aware or have been kept unaware that midwives are an option and, in many cases, a much more holistic and compassionate one. In African-American communities, the midwife is one category of healer who survived the Middle Passage. In this country, they were the primary go-to person for both enslaved African women and their white mistresses. They had the knowledge of herbs and traditional healing methods and also mothered the mother….

 

Read the entire article here ->Radical Birthwork as an Act of Resistance.

MELs (Men of Extraordinary Leadership): “A Knight In Shining Armor”

A man has endless opportunities to encounter elevation of  his being in a lifetime… The opportunity to completely involve himself ~from conception, through birth, and on into the life and creation of his families seed may very well be the most empowering and rewarding encounter! 

The time of birth is one of the most opportune times for a man and a woman to share creation that only the two of them together could have made. A time when seeing the physical manifestation of what you two can do together truly overshadows any indifference that you may have shared prior to or after this moment. A woman can look at her man and see the strength and security that he gives her; the protection she feels giving her reason for recreating him, eternal life that only she could grant her mate (THIS child). A man can look at his woman and see the magnanimity that a woman has when she is one with nature, a respect for the vessel that she was made to be in delivering life… the worlds greatest gift to them… creation!

Seeing your child born in the proper environment has the ability to make you view every woman you know and meet with a purpose for being… and raise the question of why doesn’t every couple or family get to feel this very super-heroesque empowerment that comes along with this experience. The answer to that is very complex, but also very simple. The evolution that comes with having children can make or break the strongest of spirits. I’ve seen the most irresponsible people become model parents once they paused the chaos and really divulged themselves into the change that was embarking on their lives and focused on the empowerment that creating life can provide one with. Unfortunately, I’ve seen the exact opposite a very strong spirit broken down and beaten because they fought against the change and wanted to hold on to their old selves in ways that conflicted even though they knew the value of what evolution of creating life can do for one’s being. Childbirth is probably the biggest life altering event that a person can go through, this is why when the village(family) is a strong unit the pregnancy and birth itself can yield a renewing  of spirit and soul that is almost impossible to duplicate. The most invigorated  of the family will of course be the creators ‘Mom and Dad’.

 

Creating life and contributing to the existence of our species is one of the highest forms of living in the image of ‘The Most High… God’ our creator that we can accomplish. ~ VoiceMEL

Mother Earth

 As the Father of all creation implants the seed of all that lives into Mother Earth, and watches the seed grow into whatever it was meant to become… on goes the existence of all living things on this planet (as well as I’m sure the universe  for that matter, but that’s to be con’t in a different blog…). This is the same exhilaration that parents should be able to become one with. As the males(MELs)  in this dynamic event it becomes our responsibility in a sense to make sure that this happens. The power that men have in the birth may not seem like much when thinking on it physically or even mentally by what history teaches us on our position or role in this process. In all actuality the typical role that the male has been given could not be more inaccurate from what helps the process of childbirth to be a beautiful memory/experience. The old school wait in the waiting room pacing the floor or the focal point of hate and frustration that the mother belittles and abuses with fault for doing this to her, is quickly becoming extinct. A great article that I recently read covered this subject matter extensively at belly belly.com … check it out!

 

Men are becoming more aware and knowledgeable about what their encouragement and support can mean to their women  when preparing for the birth and going through the whole process together. A woman will naturally feel a certain type of appreciation to the person who held their hand and encouraged them through surges or labour pains. Even the little things like giving ice chips or messages when and where they are needed can go a long way for the comfort of the mother… who better to be the recipient of her appreciation than her mate. Dr. Robert A. Bradley author of ” Husband-Coached Childbirth” creator of The Bradley Method of natural childbirth, was known for being one of (if not) the first physicians in a hospital to implement these tactics as he also introduced natural drug-free childbirth into the hospitals.  This type of good nature was not back then in the 70’s and still to this day of common practice, but the more knowledge that the family has the more power.

Like for instance, a father signs a form in the midst of all that lovely paperwork that is given to a family when having a baby at the hospital that says he will make the decisions in the delivery room because the mother will be in a delusional state of mind because of the drugs. In which of course she signs the form waiving her rights at that time as well. The part that makes this go bad is when the father is not made aware of all the power that he has in saying what happens and what doesn’t, usually due to the lack of education on the whole process of the birth. What I will say to solve these issues is study together and separately, gather all the knowledge you can about this process and make a birth plan… most of all stick to the plan.

Homebirthing was the option that allowed my family to be (without conflict) in control of our choices and carry-out our births as we planned them… 

It wasn’t a common practice at all in either of our families to birth at home, in fact barely anyone that we knew had ever even thought about doing it. After a few terrible Doctor visits with our first pregnancy and the research that we performed was at a confident level we made the homebirth decision and continued to build our ideal birth as we saw fit. The studying was  more driven by the Mrs of course, but I was all in willing to learn all that I could as well as share with her anything that I found would add value to our knowledge. We created our birth chamber together, went to the hypnobirthing classes together, all the midwife visits together, and really focused on the task at hand together… I wanted mine to know that I would be prepared to the fullest and that she could count on me the whole way for whatever she needed. This carried us on to be able to deliver our second and third sons without medical assistance( also another blog soon to come… Lol).

Preparation is the key, and men we have to know that the preparation is as much on us as it is on the woman… Making her assured of this and confident that you will be all the support and reassurance she needs before, during, and after the birth will set smooths sails going in and coming out… Be her knight in shining armor, now if no other time in life… and guaranteed  your family will reap the treasure of your acts.

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The InTune Mother Project was founded by a husband and wife team, of home birthing artists, poets, parents, students, philanthropists, activists, advocates, and natural childbirth enthusiasts. Yes, we wear a lot of hat, but our goal is to empower moms and families about holistic prenatal care, the importance of home-birth preparation, InTune childbirths, exclusive breastfeeding, and how to apply for vital records for out of institution childbirths. Our goal is to help moderate to low-income families achieve a happy birthday for their new baby girl or boy.

It was like yesterday that my hubby and I were in our beautifully decorated home birthing sanctuary, about to receive our now 6-year old son RaMel into this world. Who knew at that time we would be hear assisting other moms and families with preparing for their own births. When asked what our role is, we prefer to be called childbirth companions or childbirth advocates. We are here for midwives and doulas. We are here for the mother, father, baby, and family as  accountability partners and consultants to what makes sure for a solid, happy, and communal relationship between all parties.

This partnership will allow mothers and birth workers to identify, with how they will serve each other, in the event of childbirth. This is so important to us because, with our second son Logan age – 4, we experienced a conflicting schedule, with our midwife. This was not favorable at the time, but we overcame all doubt, to complete a safe and secure unplanned unassisted birth.  Thankfully, we were well informed and confident enough that we were able to proceed with our birth and have yet another positive outcome.

Hey… We know all too well the complete spectrum around childbirth. From starting out with the traditional medical model thrown in our faces.  To becoming seekers of the truth, thus becoming informed, and thus giving birth to the empowerment that taught us how to keep the sacredness of our birth rights intact for future references. Now approaching our 3rd sons 1st year, we are proud to celebrate our 366th day with him and all of you. Our goal is to help facilitate for other families the needed tools to go deeper into themselves by awakening or supporting the power that also lives to thrive within them.

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