Stilettos & Reproductive Health Issues

Today I want to talk about fashionable things that can actually cause your uterus to be in the wrong place and how we can help you repair that through simple acts of self care.

I will be the first to say that, “I LOVE A FLY PAIR OF HEELS.” The only part of that is, when you know better you do better. So in this article, I am going to break it down to you as to why, wearing stilettos  affects our reproductive health. Growing up as a little girl, I could not wait to be able to wear high heel shoes. My mother had some of the baddest shoes you could imagine. Back in the 70’s and 80’s– My mom had these bad brown leather heels that I could not wait to inherit.

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My second favorite pair were the red studs, with the metal heel. I wore those around the house to practice in on a regular basis. She didn’t wear them much, as they went with a special outfit. You know how that goes–

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So now that I have taken you down memory lane, let me bring you back to present time. As I grew older, you can imagine that I fell right into my mother’s footsteps. Mind you I was ultimately a Tomboy girl– I liked Timberland boots and Nike’s. It was not until I got into my senior year of highschool did I start wearing “platforms” and “wedges.” Eventually I graduated from the little girls club, to the big girls club, where sexy shoes were a must.

I was all of 21 years old when I purchased my first pair of “high heel” shoes. I was a dancer so it was easy for me to learn how to balance in 4″ heels. I NEVER got into 6″ heels… I knew my limits. But before I knew it, my limits were already affecting my reproductive health. My body was changing. I had fashionably shifted my uterus out of position. This resulted in harder menstrual cycles, possible fertility issues, and other functional issues in my female anatomy and psychology.

Think of it like this:  The pelvis is like a bucket for the internal organs. Everything has its own space to operate and function. When your pelvis tips forward, your organs end up resting on one another and you end up mashing them. This can slow down the gastric function, lead to menstrual dysfunction and can ultimately impair fertility.

The problem is that heels, if they are over five inches high, force the woman wearing them to adopt an “unnatural posture” which can prevent them from conceiving and experiencing a normally functioning reproductive body.

While most women are aware of the risk of developing back, foot, ankle, and knee problems from wearing high-heel shoes, they do not equate to effect this fashion trend has on their abdominal function. With heels getting steeper and steeper, your pelvis has to tilt forward to accommodate the imbalance. This kind of posture distortion affects every system in the body including the uterus and the reproductive system. Thus, when the abdominal wall has been repeatedly thrust forward, the chances of conception goes down.

Concluding Thought

I know that this is a lot to accept, but my team and I are not here to try to convince anyone to heed the warning of wearing what is deemed as sexy and/or fashionable in today’s society. Our goal is the give women more options and one is to try to avoid wearing high heels as much… And if you MUST… kick them off as often as possible… because being cute is not worth the risk…

If you are local to Oklahoma City or are willing to travel, book a private appointment to see me or one of our skilled womb practitioners- to get the necessary body work you need to reset your uterus in place.

I have been in the womb wellness field for 13 years and now I am offering my wellness services to others in my private studio in Midtown, Oklahoma City. I also offer Skype or Google Hangout sessions and can teach you self-care/self healing techniques you can do on your own, if you can’t find a practitioner in your area.


The Status of Black Women in America

As a Black/African American woman, with too many names to classify over time– I have finally come to grips with a conclusion as to why we are working so hard, but the hard work is not payin off. I wanted to write this really to the point blog post about it, yet it was much easier for me to “reclaim my time” by researching what others were saying– that validated my own personal and professional opinions.

An article written earlier this summer in the Washington Post headed:  Report: Black women are working hard but ‘our country is not working for them’

I was drawn to the fact that there is so much research out there to see where or where not Black women are able to keep up within today’s ever evolving societal shifts. The opening line read:

A new report about the nation’s black women paints a familiar portrait of a group that is working hard on many levels to achieve the American Dream but is still falling short.

That hit me pretty hard. The first part that stumped me was the wording the writer used to tell her story– the nation’s black women paints a familiar portrait– It immediately made me think of how often Black women are socially identified as cold, hard core, and incapable of feeling pain- at least in the portrait of this nation.


I also began to question my own work ethic. The level of self care I promote to others that I often neglect for myself. It makes me stop to think of how often Black women engage in such behaviors that are unhealthy trying to thrive in a country that is not designed to support such ambitions.

Then I thought about the images that we often paint for our children. Showing them how hard we go for them to have the best opportunities. The best new fashion trends and electronic trinkets… Regardless of a father being in the home. Then when we do have a dual parent household, if there is any lack of partnership, children learn how to wallow through disfunction in order to lead a life of pseudo sustainability.

I know that I said, I was going share with you about an article I found… So here is the next segment.

Black women vote at high rates, have made significant improvement in earning college degrees and are succeeding in opening their own businesses, according to “The Status of Black Women in the United States.” Yet they continue to be underrepresented in elected office, earn less than white men and women and are twice as likely as white women to be incarcerated, the report says.

“They have all the makings of what should be success, yet their contributions are undervalued and under compensated,” states the report, released this week by the National Domestic Workers Alliance. The report was prepared by the Institute for Women’s Policy Research, a nonprofit organization affiliated with George Washington University.

The report’s findings are similar to previous studies on the state of black women in the country, including a widely discussed 2014 paper by the Black Women’s Roundtable titled, “Black Women in the United States, Progress and Challenges.” It also noted that despite high participation in the workforce, educational institutions and the political process, black women are underpaid and underemployed, suffer at a higher rate from major illnesses and are vulnerable to violence at home and in their communities.

There are perks as well as opposition to being a Black business owner. There is more scrutiny within the community to get started. Often times it is harder to get loans.

TRUE STORY: I was once referred by a White associate of mine to a personal banker friend of hers to apply for a small business loan. I was nervous because I had be turned down before and was trying to rebuild my credit, yet at the same time needed capital to expand my business model. The associate made sure to inform me that she only had a 502 FICO score and was able to get $50K from this particular bank. I was like HELL YEAH! I had at least a 620 so we should be good! Our debt to income ratio was good and all was well, until we got hit with– We are no longer offering that program. I told the loan officer that we had been referred to him by my associate by name and this is how the story played out.

Loan officer: Yeah that was a special program that no longer exists.

Me: How long ago was this program terminated?

Loan officer: Almost a year ago.

Me: Oh, well that is great, because she just got approved for the loan a little over 90 days ago– What program was that?

He was dead faced.

Loan officer: — There is nothing that we can do for you here.

BINGO! We still have so terribly far to go_______.

Here are some of the key findings of the new report:

• More than 6 in 10 black women are in the workforce. But between 2004 and 2014, black women’s median annual earnings declined by 5 percent. As of 2014, black women who worked full-time and year-round had median annual earnings that were 64.6 percent of that of white men, $53,000.

• The number of businesses owned by black women increased 178 percent between 2002 and 2012, the largest increase among all racial groups. In 2012, black women owned 15.4 percent of all women-owned businesses in the United States. Yet nationwide, businesses owned by black women had the lowest average sales per firm, at $27,753.

• The share of black women with at least a bachelor’s degree increased by 23.9 percent between 2004 and 2014. About 22 percent of black women over age 25 had a bachelor’s degree or advanced degree in 2014, a higher level than black men, but lower than other racial and ethnic groups.

• Nearly a quarter of the nation’s black women, 24.6 percent, live in poverty, more than twice the percentage of white women — 10.8 percent — the group with the lowest poverty rate among U.S. women.

• Black women were twice as likely as white women to be imprisoned in 2014 — 109 per 100,000 black women in state and federal prisons vs. 53 per 100,000 white women.

The report calls on government and other institutions, including nonprofit think tanks and philanthropic groups, to develop policies that provide higher wages and paid leave, improve access to health-care services, combat racism and sexism throughout society and push for criminal justice reform, both to protect black women from violence and to reduce their numbers in prison.

In conclusion of my thoughts– It is imperative that we learn how brainwashed many of us are to believe that we are not facing a dark component that reinforces white superiority, on a subconscious level that perpetuates lack of agency, while promoting destruction of a population just like in Colonial times.

~ The InTune Mother


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Can Community Centered Health Care Save Black Women From Loosing Out Under the GOP Health Plan

In this article we will see how detrimental the GOP Health Plan is to Black Women’s Health. We believe that it will cause more disparities for the Black population than many are prepared for. Our plan for Community Centered Health Care can be an easy solution. 

After accounting for amendments to the American Health Care Act (AHCA) currently being considered by the U.S. House of Representatives, the latest estimate from the nonpartisan Congressional Budget Office (CBO) found that the GOP’s plan still would increase the number of uninsured people in the country to 24 million by 2026.

Even before CBO released its initial report, health policy experts and pundits across the board were warning that more people will be left without insurance than ever before under the GOP’s health bill.

“To be okay with 24 million people not having access to the care they need amounts to nothing more than a blatant disregard for the lives of Americans,” said the Black Women’s Health Imperative, a D.C.-based advocacy organization, in a recent email. “By moving forward with this repeal legislation, Congress is sending a message to the American people that their health is secondary to savings in the federal budget.”






How To Start A Self Care Regime That Will Help You Thrive…

An Invitation To Beauty, Culture, Nature Based Products, and Therapeutic Services 

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Your Ticket To Culturally Centered Self-Care

What is self-care and how do we decided what is most necessary for us to thrive in everyday life?

Well here are 13 ways to get started.

1.) Make sure that you celebrate yourself in various ways other than birthday’s or special occasions.

2.) If it feels wrong to you, then don’t do it. This is your Inner-G talking to you, so listen up.

3.) Get plenty of good rest. Sleeping in when you can and taking naps are good for restoring your time and energy sequence.

4.) Use your words with integrity. Speak exactly what you mean and be okay with it.

5.) Stop trying to please everyone. Self preservation is the first law in nature. Apply this law to yourself.

6.) Trust your intuition. This is an innate an primal power that we all possess. Learn how to get deeper into the consciousness of listening for your clues unconsciously.

7.) Talking bad about yourself is the worst! Talking bad about others is just as bad. When speaking about yourself, make sure that you are making positive affirmations to the best parts of you. Just as speaking positively about others can manifest good things for you too. Life and death is REALLY in the power of the tongue.

8.) Dream big, far, and wide. Then go after them without ceasing. When you go after what you want in life, it feels good to have an inspired intention. And self-care is ultimately about doing what feels good.

9.) Saying No, is a good thing. Feel confident that you know what is best for you and that saying no to something right now does not mean you can not revisit the idea at another time.

10.) Saying Yes, is also a good thing. It is actually pretty damn powerful. When you say yes to things, it sends a high vibrational frequency out into the Universe that bounces off of your words and intentions by adding more abundance to your life.

11.) Get InTune to kindness. The best thing you can do is treat yourself. Taking time to perform small acts of kindness for yourself, helps you articulate your ideas of kindness to others in a productive way.

12.) Let go of being in control. The way this life is set up- It is important to learn how to be in the flow. This is a critical part of our commitment to wellness. The more we stress on being in control, the harder it is to be flexible with the magic of managing expectations of others and ultimately ourselves.

13.) Drama and negativity are the assassin’s of good self-care. There are certain things that happen in our lives that lead us back to #12. One way to repell the drama and negatively is to speak power over the situation. Use words that defuse and empower vulnerable or less favorable times. It works like a magnet.

And I have a small BONUS point I want to offer you.

Number 14

LOVE. “Love is thee highest law and only true religion”. This is a great quote that came to me some time ago while on a journey to find out what  (religion) was most suitable for me. In doing so, I found that most reliable spiritual sources all led back to LOVE. Henceforth came the way I define self-care… By showing love to myself first and this affects the way I express value of others in my path.

I hope this post helps those of you who read it. As a tribe of dedicated non-medical spiritual practitioners, we are looking forward to connecting with you on how to move closer towards the empowerment and freedom lifestyle you can and WILL have.

RaShaunda Lugrand


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Why A Culture Keeper? 

​For the first 5 days of Black History Month I wanted to share with you women who inspired me to be great and passionate about creating a synergistic balance in the culture of birth work and community centered wellness. 
Being a BirthKeeper means you are also a Culture Keeper… This is the steaming pot of social identity and mental health. 
So, over the next 328 days + (1095 days or 3 years to be exact) I will be laser focused on implementation of these legacy systems. It is my goal to make sure that we celebrate the best parts of our culture. It is not enough to begin with overcoming the trauma of the slave generation.   
Our DNA as people of color is riddled with this story 365 days a year. 

It is time to shift the multigenrational social and cultural concentration to one of healing and the necessary deep self-care that it takes to be better. 
Better as a person. Better as a people. Better as a community. Better as a Culture.
Our legacy begins in the cosmos. So how dare we limit ourselves to the point of view shown to us here in America. I am a proud citizen of the United States… Not because American culture is so great… But because I have always been here. My roots do not begin with the innovation of slavery. My heart and mind by way of my ancestors were here before colonization. 
… I will remember Amexam/Northwest Africa. I will remember Turtle Island… And I will not apologize for it. So that my children will know that we are conscious of who we are. And who we have always been… knowing that we are not inferior because, “We are Black History.” ⚫✴♾♛
#BeMagnetic #WeGrowHumans #MaatMind #InTuneMother #CultureKeeper #MELTribe  #TIMMatters #SOILLife #ImBetter

Who Was Francis Cress Welsing? – Day 5 of Black History Month 


Dr. Frances Cress Welsing: Looking Back at Her Call to Uproot Racism

Dr. Frances Cress Welsing: Looking Back at Her Call to Uproot Racism

[OP-ED] The controversial psychiatrist’s works unwaveringly challenged White supremacist thought even if it meant making some uncomfortable.

by Gregory Carr, Ph.D, January 5, 2016

For those unfamiliar with the name Dr. Frances Cress Welsing, who passed away at the age of 80 in Washington D.C., she was one our country’s most influential and controversial theoreticians on the subject of race and racism. Her influence did not stem from citations in academic journals, although she gained major recognition after publishing her groundbreaking 1970 essay, “Cress Theory of Color Confrontation (White Supremacy),” which began as a paper presented before members of the American Psychological Association.

Her analysis of the impact of White supremacy was trenchant, hard-hitting and consistent.  But like other scholars and “activists” in the Black community who knew Welsing and studied her work, I saw her as an unswerving champion for African Americans and lover of humanity.

Born in Chicago to a physician and an educator, Welsing was trained in the liberal arts at Antioch College and in medicine at Howard University College of Medicine, where she would eventually serve as faculty. A long-standing private practitioner and pioneer in the fields of child psychiatry and mental health, her longest institutional affiliation was as the Clinical Director and Staff Physician with the Washington D.C. Department of Human Services, where she charted policy and strategies to help emotionally disturbed children at the Hillcrest Children’s Center and the Paul Robeson School for Growth and Development.

Welsing’s work on improving the mental health of African Americans led to a career in the field of race and cultural analysis. The Cress Theory was influenced by the ideas of a Washington, DC acquaintance named Neely Fuller, Jr., and explored the thesis that racism, aggression and hostility stems from White fear of genetic annihilation in an overwhelmingly non-White world.  Fuller and Welsing contended that all of modern global relations were affected by White supremacist ideology and symbology, which they further grouped into nine categories of human activity: economics, education, entertainment, labor, law, politics, religion, sex and war.

She initiated the development for two generations of popular discourse in Black communities on the concept and reality of White supremacy, a status confirmed by her 1991 book The Isis Papers: Keys to the Colors, which was a collection of essays she had written over the previous two decades. It became a perennial non-fiction best seller in Black communities. Her 1974 debate with the Stanford Nobel Laureate, Dr. William Shockley —a proponent of the idea of Black intellectual inferiority—brought her to national attention. One of two articles she wrote for EBONY that year encouraged Black people to “get very quiet and calm and begin to think critically and analytically in a very broad perspective and cease doing push-button reactions to social events that happen around us and that relate negatively to us.”

In fact, this was Welsing’s consistent call— for Black people to take themselves seriously enough to analyze the system in which they lived and its impact on their lives. She contended that systems, rather than episodic challenges, marked the power of White supremacy over its victims.  She came of age in the shadow of Jim Crow; began her professional life during the Black Power era; saw prominence during the post-Civil Rights ideological debates of the 1970s and 80s, and re-ignited new generations searching for direction during the “golden age” of hip hop and the subsequent fracturing and turn of our “post-soul” era.  In some ways, her life and work traces the struggle over self and group identity that Black Americans have been embroiled in since the end of legal segregation. She often said that her intellectual guide was W.E.B. Du Bois who accurately observed that the problem of the modern era would be the global problem of the color line and the reaction of non-Whites to it.

The life and labor of Frances Cress Welsing is just one barometer of the gulf that remains between White and non-White public spheres in a society willfully blind to its inability to engage in “honest dialogues on race.” She weaponized her theories with an agenda that most people are afraid to discuss openly and honestly in polite company. She proposed that Black people avoid marriage until age 35 or older because we are not mature enough to raise children to survive and thrive in a White supremacist system. She said Black people should educate their own children and combine their resources to support Black institutions as a first order of business.

The dimensions of her work that critique Whiteness and its cultural impact fit comfortably today within the larger range of what are now called “Whiteness studies” and even elements of “Critical Race Theory.”  Even the casual reader of the work of academics and writers like David Roediger, Joe Feagin, Harriet Washington or Peggy McIntosh would find Welsing is not alone in her interrogation of the intersections of race, class, gender, biology and power.

But, unfortunately, I don’t believe she will be remembered along with those names.

Much of the controversy around Welsing’s ideas on the topic of race comes from an ignorance of the full range of her actual words and ideas. Many of her critics never met her or read little to none of her work. Some of the more informed criticisms mistake her focus on the roots of White supremacist as a belief in and/or call for “Black Supremacy.”  That critique forms around her discussion of the biological and social function of melanin, which she consistently said was an object of desire and envy of Whites.  Then there were her ideas on sex, primarily her assertion that the gender politics of White patriarchy had promoted homosexuality in Black communities as an attack on the growth and viability of Black families. For Welsing, race, class and gender issues in Black communities traced their roots to the corrosive systemic impact of White Supremacy, at the core of which was patriarchy.

As the life and legacy of Frances Cress Welsing continues to be celebrated and debated, there is no doubt that in the 21st century racism remains an intractable enemy of humanity. In a modern world shaped in the image of Europe and Europeans, no non-White group wants to be, in the language used by Duke University professor and cultural anthropologist, J. Lorand Matory, PhD in “last place.”  Ending racism has never been a matter of polite discourse or easy solutions. People will not agree and paths of most resistance will involve fighting with one another. It appears then that the systemic work of racial oppression will continue, unimpeded, until all people of good will determine that it can only end with our collective active participation. Wouldn’t that then be a fitting tribute to an intellectual warrior like Dr. Frances Cress Welsing.

Gregory Carr, Ph.D. is Associate Professor and Chair of Howard University’s Department of Afro American Studies

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