In a couple of weeks The InTune Mother Project is scheduled to celebrate Mother’s Day in a BIG way. Our culturally centered perinatal project wants to offer our guests LOTS (I mean lots) of prizes. This is going to be huge!
Back in October we launched our initiative to add more women of color to the Oklahoma birth work community. We managed to provide two women with textbook scholarships to advance their knowledge in perinatal health. In March we hosted our first BLAB Night and I managed to enroll 6 committed women from the community in our Accessible Doula Training scheduled June 13th -14th, 2016. Two of these women just completed the first week of training with Sista Midwife Productions. We have a deliberate goal in sight for 2020, with our culturally centered perinatal health project, through The Oklahoma Challenge.
In order to gather the support of the community, I reached into my bag of magic, to pull this off. So I wonder what can be done when the community comes to their own aid?
I am not going to tell you much more for now but if you want to sponsor you will get many links back to your website from this website and from other blogs posting about this event – plus a warm giddy feeling that you are donating to a cause that is shifting the way women experience childbirth.
To sponsor a prize please email me (info [AT] intunemother [AT] gmail [DOT] com) with the prize you are kindly willing to donate along with a link to your website so I can link back to your site and the value in $ of your prize. For prize ideas think about making birth accessible to all women and families.
Excited? I am.
Oklahoma Moms Need Your Support
It has been a long journey for many mothers here in the state of Oklahoma! Often times I wondered if our mission was taking root in the community as we shifted from place to place, city to city. Then one day I was given a divine message to pack light. Now I could have taken that several different ways. One way could have been to leave everything and follow my passion…
While the other could have meant to take my “light” with me wherever I go. I chose the second. Interpreting that light as my God and my guide. Now here I am, with my lovely Native born Oklahoman husband, and three male children. Watching them play and interact with one another as we go throughout our homeschool day. Managing our process and getting better everyday.
This might sound trivial and out of step of a business owner to post such transparencies.
… But it was transparencies that created this mission you are reading on our website.
It was passion.
It was advocacy for whole family life.
It was about community.
And now that we are in the best place to “re-launch” our maternal health and wellness campaign that states our message loud, clear and unapologetically. We are 100% sure of our culture and how it relates to childbirth, and breastfeeding, and the disparities right here in the place, we hold residency. It is to no surprise that this is not just an issue here, but across the globe. That is why we need to garner the support of our fellow Oklahoman community to say once and for all… We care that one woman dies every minute during childbirth, yet almost all of these deaths are preventable. Here in the state of Oklahoma we have created a strategy to help reduce that number by 2020.
So What’s Up With TIM
When we began this journey into maternal and child health and wellness, we had only a birds eye view of how deep we would be guided into the community. We knew early on that we wanted to be an effective resource in the natural childbirth community, due to the various circumstances we had faced personally, and where we had been of service per our own expertise, which is in homebirth.
Now we have managed to create dynamic support systems and that offers us authentic relationships that many told us – we should not have privilege to because, we were not “alphabetically qualified.” Even though our experiences, and research, and self-apprenticed learning styles, didn’t measure up with privileged practices.
We are a grassroots social welfare organization with a mind to stand up to corporate and privatized organizations and companies that say the issues in the Black community are too much to resolve. Well this year we will finish with a bang because, we will not stop until we see a shift in the issues of crisis within our urban and rural communities.
So we are taking deeper breaths.
We are creating broader relationships.
And we are doing it all on a dental floss budget.
The statistics on maternal mortality in America tell a shocking story when it comes to African-American women. They are three to four times more likely to die during childbirth than white American women. Dr Bill McCool says that even wealthy black American women have a higher rate of mortality during childbirth than wealthy white women.
“People have looked at this from different angles. We know that African-American women tend to have higher blood pressure than the rest of the population, so is there a link there?”JoAnne Fischer, Executive Director of the Maternity Care Coalition, which works with low income women to help them stay healthy during their pregnancies, says: “We do know that there is extraordinary stress involved in racism and in being poor. “”And we know that sometimes this creates hypertension.” Hypertension, obesity and diabetes are all linked, so we have to make sure women start their pregnancies healthy.
“Dr Bill Callaghan, of the CDC, finds that not knowing why African-American women are at greater risk when giving birth has given him and his colleagues’ sleepless nights.” We can say that some of this may be due to socio-economic disparities. “But it does not explain all of it. “And to the extent that we don’t explain racial disparity in pregnancy-related mortality, we’re going to have difficulty making headway into it.” As doctors and US officials try to work out why American women are dying in childbirth, and what can be done to prevent it, Jim Scythes is still mourning his wife Valerie, who was all too briefly a mother.
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Our Solution For Shifting The Rates In Oklahoma
In order for us to see a difference we need to shift the way we approach the childbirth community. Together using our history with #GivingTuesday global campaign we can make a big difference. Particularly in the African American community and others of color. The mindset regarding traditional childbirth has been diminished, with the practice of new wave technology and expensive research campaigns that warrant no solution. These outcomes are not because women want to die or want their children to die. These outcomes are from a deep rooted seed in the neurological DNA of generations of post traumatic stress as it relates to the Black community and slavery.
This type of cognitive dissonance is the paramount to our childbearing community. It is our goal to build a committee or coalition of nonprofits, small businesses, and other community leaders to organize a #GivingTuesday movement in materno-toxic areas in the city and surrounding areas. There has been an assault on the womb of all women. This is at a very social and scientific disadvantage. In the state of Oklahoma, there is a core network of privileged, white led childbirth organizations that have not been able to penetrate the community of color. This adversity adds no value to the economic, social, and health care advantages that impacts the way women are giving birth. These include language and cultural barriers. This makes it extremely difficult to make clear and directed moves to support the agenda of the Maternal Mortality Review and Office of Minority Health in the state of Oklahoma.
“It is every man’s obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it.” – Albert Einstein
This is where our program offers a solution because, we have all taken the same route of creation. It is our obligation to put back into the world the equivalence of the best birth outcomes in communities that need it the most. So buy aligning with these organizations and offering women and men of color culturally competent, safe, evidence based education to support their community in childbirth, as certified birth work consultants, educators, and practitioners. Our networks of culturally centered organizations are ready and prepared to be added to our 2016 training calendar to add diversity to the childbirth community. You can help us make this possible in a variety of ways. First we have to determine why you should get involved.
WHY GET INVOLVED…
Purpose: To sensitize the community to the myriad problems that the childbirth community faces in the state of Oklahoma and the world today and motivate them to embrace a Cause that is meaningful to them.
Objectives: To discuss the basic necessities of life, or what is needed to be a part of a safe,
secure, and strong community.
To raise awareness about the most pressing issues, problems and concerns facing people around the globe – and at home regarding childbirth.
Running Question: WHAT IS THE PRIVILEDGE?
Investigate the idea of “privilege” in order to raise awareness about the way other populations DO and DO NOT experience privilege in our diverse communities. By having an elicit conversation about privilege we can get to the root of the cause, thus formulating a strategy to shift the image of disparity in childbirth, with RADICAL Change!
WHEN TO TAKE ACTION
In order to be effective we must take action now. That means to embrace the cause and start raising awareness and mobilize a core collective who is charged to make a difference.
We are a 100% parent led organization, by a husband and wife team of grassroots social entrepreneurs. We strive to maintain a free thinking environment that supports our artistic passions and goals to build our social welfare organization, The InTune Mother, LLC. And because we do everything from home. (i.e.) Home-birth, Home-school, and even work-from-home online, we really value our family life. We enjoy traveling, performing arts, and quality time with our 3 sons. The fact that we network for a living, is an experience that we aim to share with our core group of 3000 individuals across the globe. We dream in color and often remember the visions vividly. We set our intentions, these become our goals and we believe in our power to see them manifest. So stay connected to our website and let us know if we inspired you with any of our content… Also feel free to gift us with a colorful DONATION in support to keep our site going because we are…
Rebirthing Mother Nature’s Undisturbed Intent…
Get Involved With TIM
So we are only focused on mastering…
The Power of NOW!
We are a 100% parent led organization. Our primary goal is to find ways to keep other parents fully aware of all of their options pertaining to conception and childbirth. So we charged families to Birth Like A BOSS and began to strategize how they experienced childbirth. This is our why…
As a Mother and Independent Perinatal Birth Consultant, I don’t expect change, I evoke change, with Father in mind, this power becomes we. This power becomes community.
Over the last few years, we became aware that not many childbirth organizations are led by minority women. So we found it necessary for us to “observe” this fact, and look for ways to employ some diversity, to the community of birth work. With the right setting and time, we can openly discuss how together we can heal the most traumatic racial disparities that affects the ecological footprint of the human family. When we appropriate our attention to the bigger problems then we find solutions. In the word “Sankofa” we must always remember to “reach back and get it.” This is our missing link to our success. In short, as modern day humans, I think we value technology too much, over our own intuition.
This discussion is not about race relations, as much as it is about the current human ecological crisis in the Black population. It is clear evidence when one group or population of people, are considered endangered by another group or population…
We have to challenge the consciousness of such science.
It looks like a league of unfamiliar saviors who speaks to the current issues, with an unfamiliar tongue, therefore confusing the proper dialog, with more disparity in our vulnerable communities.
We are not surviving because, we are disconnected from the NOW.
We are not surviving because we are not conscious of WHAT IS IMPORTANT RIGHT NOW?
What is most important, is that we direct our attention away from the frustration and anxiety, of what our community does not have, and who is not offering this or that. What are you doing to support the community. We have to become real. Time to get open and free your mind to find deliberate solutions. Easier said than done right… Well, within our consciousness, to get to the solutions and antidotes that our ancestors are speaking to us, we have to begin with birth work. One woman, one baby, one family at a time.
Building On The Legacy of Sankofa
According To: HEALTHY START INITIATIVE
An Average Week In Oklahoma:
• 957 babies are born …
• 150 babies are born to teen mothers (ages 15-19)
• 129 babies are born to mothers who receive inadequate prenatal care
• 71 babies are born low birth weight
• 112 babies are born preterm
• 8 babies die before their first birthday
Oklahoma ranks 6th in the United States on infant mortality.
The infant mortality rates for African Americans in our service area for every 1,000 live births, 13.6% of infants die.
The Time Is NOW! Be An Ambassador.
Saturday May 7th will be our 1st Annual Black Carpet Community Brunch: Mimosas 4 Moms
By attending our Mimosas 4 Moms event, you will be helping our organization recognize the need of African American women in the field of birth work. In the state of Oklahoma the infant mortality rate has decreased over the last year, but the numbers are still staggering among the African American population. This event is geared to help the community understand how important it is that mothers have support from their 1st thru their 4th trimester.
Oklahoma has one of the highest rates in infant death in the U.S.
Every year about 100 families will tragically experience death of their new baby.
Black and Native American babies are 2 to 3 times more likely to die more than other populations.
We believe by adding more community based educators, that are trained with clear evidence based knowledge, and equipped with strategically designed tools for success, we can help reduce the numbers of mother and infant deaths in the state of Oklahoma for ALL women, with a strong focus on the disparities within the African American communities.
This event is two-fold
•One to celebrate recent graduates our 1st Community Certified Doula Training via our partnering organization Sista Midwife Productions. Class is scheduled for April 22, 23, 24, 29, 30, and May 1. This event is to also reveal 20 Scholarship Awards for our 2nd training, June 13-17 via the “Accessible Doula Program” through The Matrona. This part of the Mimosas 4 Moms event that will be held in high esteem, the Saturday before Mother’s Day, May 7, 2016. (A limited number of seats are still available for both trainings.) Visit here to register: The Oklahoma Challenge.
•Two to recognize community partnerships and strengthen our network for our 4th annual #GivingTuesday campaign “I Support OKC Birth Workers of Color” scholarship campaign to continue to provide high impact perinatal education to women interested in the respective field of birt work.
So won’t you join us over brunch to see how you, your business, or organization can help us mobilize the need for RADICAL CHANGE in the state of Oklahoma.
Learn more about our local and virtual vending opportunities request a packet!
***Seating Is Limited
We are a 100% parent led organization, by a husband and wife team of grassroots social entrepreneurs. We strive to maintain a free thinking environment that supports our artistic passions and goals to build our social welfare organization. And because we do everything from home. (i.e.) Home-birth, Home-school, and even work-from-home online, we really value our family life. We enjoy traveling, performing arts, and quality time with our 3 sons. The fact that we network for a living, is an experience that we aim to share with our core group of 3000 individuals across the globe. We dream in color and often remember the visions vividly. We set our intentions, these become our goals and we believe in our power to see them manifest. So stay connected to our website and let us know if we inspired you with any of our content… Also feel free to gift us with a colorful DONATION in support to keep our site going because we are…
Magic In The Moon
Just like the moon becomes invisible from the earth, a glimpse of its return is still present. Just like the invisible moon, your breath is an invisible power of deep moving significance.
The time of the new moon is a time to breathe in deeply and move into a calm state of mind. In this state, you can watch your emptions come and go and not be affected by them. This is the best time to gain clarity and begin to see your life more clearly, and see what is truly possible.
Now you can get “InTune” with your Higher Self. By staying calm, and letting your Higher Self fill you up with visions of your true purpose.
The power of the new moon is symbolic of new beginnings. You might find yourself contemplating on your next move. Conceptualizing your true motives. Building your dream team. Moving in spirit.
Anchoring Your Souls Code
Evoking your Soul purpose and why you are here on this Earth?
What did the ancestors send you here to accomplish?
How can you use this as your spiritual center of intent?
Let this time be a period for you to focus on creating EXACTLY what you want. Who you want to be involved with, how to get organized, and create the form of yourself for the betterment of humanity.
Getting intune with your Higher Self is supposed to make you feel open and magnetic.
You are supposed to feel magical.
Letting go of all spiritual tension by releasing your breath. Breating in deep and letting out your power to activate you whole being through the power of creative visualization.
When you find this breath, you bring harmony to the Higher Self and those who you come in contact with, thus anchoring the person you were born become.
So burn your favorite 7 day candel and prepare to make manifest your best self…
The InTune Mother Is About Intuitive Childbirth Empowerment
Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby from a communal standpoint.
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NEW SLAVES WITH OLD SLAVE MENTALITY
This day in time is full of information and propaganda. Right here and now it is so much critical information to move beyond, just living day to day. According to #KanyeWest we are NEW SLAVES — slaves to the poverty mindset is surly the blood on the leaves. After reading for the 4th time this week about another young Black male child dead before 25, I am heavy. We use to have milestones in the life-cycle of our youth… Now we just have news reporters and statistics. As the proud wife of a remarkable Black man, with whom I parent three Black male children, together we feel that we HAVE TO BE STRATEGIC, in teaching our children the way of the current world. When my oldest son who was five at the time of the Travon Martin case — now he is seven and watching the Mike Brown case he asked, “Why do they always kill Black people? He went on the ask, was it safe to be a Black person… and profess his fear of being a Black male. So I have been very careful in order to write this bog post, with love and gratitude for self and kind first. This post could not only be about a distressed childbirth community of a problematic population of Black people. This is about a problematic society of ancestral backlash and we have all been tragically affected by the forceful root of slavery and the birth of the Negro American in the new world.
So we thank you for staying committed to our posts as we sort through the divinity of our hearts, and the best way to approach the stories we have been reading in the latest articles around the Black population regarding women, their children, and the power of the urban community through the “wonder years”. I really want to be transparent here and touch on some issues regarding the BLACK community, maternal health, and infant death from a deeper prospective, without being offensive. This seriously has to go above and beyond providing a population of people with “proper” education about how to have babies, what to eat, what to wear, and what is appropriate maternal behavior. This is bigger than telling a mom what activities not to engage in that can obviously be harmful to herself or the unborn baby. What this is about is a shift in cultural competencies, and the lack of urgency, to give Love and respect for self and kind. This is about the importance of the Black mother and her contribution to population to the human civilization as a whole. Lastly what this is about is… a long legacy of poor, undermined, strategic approaches to the falter of Black community, and the Black mother has ALWAYS been the main target.
BREAKING THE MENTAL CHAINS AGAIN AND AGAIN
We as healthy childbirth advocates, human rights activists, artist, philanthropists, and educators come in all sorts of colors. Our goals to make the world a better place to live for everyone is our commonality in humanity. The sad thing is that (Black people) have to take such a strategic approach, when attempting to execute any negativity or problematic issues, within our dying community. So why is it when minority people take the empowerment approach it is identified as being racist and/or rebellious. But what makes it rebellious? Why it such and issue when people of color want better for their population? It is past time for taking responsibility to rebuild a positive infrastructure that establishes a collective neutrality between various communities, groups, and organizations. It is hard to do this without being met with opposition because, society thrives off of social classifications and the intellectually elite.
This is why the Black population has only 9 people in the whole USA that represents the Billionaires Club. The problem with this is that, with such a small number of world changers, we are still stretched out, bitter, and frustrated by those who don’t see the need to change the situation within the minority population. The underserved are critically judged, with large specks of dirt in the eyes of the majority. Many label them unjustly, while we continue holding on to signs that read, “No Justice, It’s JUST US.” But “just” means what? Does it mean, if we begin to conduct our own resource network of services through financial institutions, healthcare, education, and politics? Does that mean we would see more reproductive, maternal, and infant disparity gaps closed? Would we see more families living in harmony? Would we see more liberation within the guise of freedom? Just what if we stopped looking to government organizations and services to support the sustainability of our families? We have to be honest that if we did have a different economic profile, would we be willing to invest in our own sovereignty? Would we be in the same position because of the fearful and lacking mentality? But just what if something was actually created to spark the needed change of liberation and independence that broke the chains once and for all?
Human Welfare vs. Maternal Warfare
The uniqueness of the Black population and it’s influence on society is our own. The new-found culture, and how it’s leading many in various directions has it’s good points and not so good points. Those who assume the position as (oppressive theorists) has everyone all twisted up in one big noose. So we have to learn how to reconnect to our innate nature and remove ourselves from this NEW way of thinking about the OLD world. Simplicity rules the game… but these simplistic concepts are NOT being implemented within SOCIAL SOCIETY of community… Because we are being taught by people who do not have the proper cultural concepts around economics, civilization, childbearing, and family. Here lays the problem. There is an assumption that because Blacks are having such economic, social, maternal, and infant hardships, we are not intellectually savvy enough to change these dynamics. This is my take… Instead of attempting to correct cultural behavioral attitudes… Share the balance of understanding. Acknowledge that the theories used to assist in finding these statistics are the culprit. Think of the statistics that tell us that more Black men are gay or in prison than their White counterparts. Majority of these men that are incarcerated are there on faulty charges. Or that men of color – particularly Black men are poor fathers. What about the fact that more women of color have poor birth outcomes than any other population. Then we have the HIV/Aids statics. This is not coincidental. This is maternal warfare. Studies show that most new HIV infections among African American women (87%; 5,300) are attributed to heterosexual contact.
We would not have to dig too deep to see the social and economic profile that is being put on display for people of color. When the Black population begins to realize that our origin and new-found residence determines the whole existence of our current conditions… maybe then many will wake up. Black women are having trouble in childbirth because, epigenetically we are suffering from post-traumatic cultural stress. Our new culture is sensationalized by the economics of reality television, sexual mis-education in music, and poor financial investment choices. More stress comes from the woman’s inability to transcend with these times. This accounts for majority of her emotional trauma because, she does not know where she fits in with herself, her man, or her community, so she struggles with her place in manifesting life from within. This is also warfare.
When our original cultural practices were removed in the new land, our natural, socially intuitive concepts died, with our spiritual through religious indoctrination. It is past time to resurrect the culture of a strong economic movement to save Black women and children, through our own social concepts because, this is so not just about mortality rates… This is about reconnecting to the right mental profile and environment surrounding the “image” of the Black Family as a whole.
Sankofa Led Progression
There is a multitude of minority organizations making phenomenal strides, by educating and producing strong community connections in the population of color. The ICTC and The Birthing Project are just a couple. There are many others serving the population in “community development.” But every time I read a new article about the need of more Black people in the maternal health care rescue, I cringe. I cringe because, there are people doing the work, whether they are being publicly recognized for it or not. The idea of adding more Blacks to the profession of healthcare will ultimately shape the profile of the community of color. So it makes me ask, “How long are we going to have to keep rescuing Black people?” I cringe again because, there is a genocidal presence hovering over our community that highlights everything that we do in error and shortcomings, and not our triumphs. But the funny thing is that what is done in error, is learned behavior. We were taught to hate ourselves, to deny our own instincts, and to denounce native cultural practices. Yet when I see other proud organizations, led by the majority population, teaching their white counterparts, and a fraction of women of color, how to reconnect to the original spiritual concepts of childbirth, with their own organic ideologies, I can’t help but question, the purpose of the mission.
Next these organizations go out and serve the “underserved” populations, with no authentic connection and this makes me feel displaced, because many minority owned grassroots organizations have small budgets to implement their services. Although sincere in their desires, it keeps the majority populations at the forefront of maternal education and the minority population somewhat invisible.
They are not as successful in our communities because, of rich cultural barriers. It is said, that we live in a diverse society, and maybe this is the problem. We are only diversified by race, ethnicity, and culture. Not to mention by what is in our bank accounts. When in essence of it all we are not oppressed by the color of or skin, but the interpretations of the mind and how we identify with one another based on the color of our skin. When Black people have to fight to prove their competence, their loyalty, their intellect, and their communal validity… this is a problem. When ALL people stop competing in this invisible race war, then we will fare over much better because, LOVE is the greatest historical principle that any population of people can research, and seek to find. With this we can find the same universal outcome. For love is where we will find Sankofa. This is the beginning of what we are ALL searching for. It is not hidden in a textbook, seminar, or lecture. It is deep within the principles of humanity and purpose as a whole. Life is full of abundance and there is no thing or person without access to this universal gift. We just have to remember that we have access to it and that access is through our children.
Make love and not war… The future of humanity depends on it…
The InTune Mother Is About Childbirth Empowerment
Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby from a communal stand point.
If you find this article useful… Which we surely hope you do… Then say InTune to other information just like this and SUBSCRIBE HERE!
The InTune Mother is now offering intuitive consultations, creative workshops, and empowerment coaching using our proven methodology The BOSS Method.
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Understanding Your Breastfeeding Rights in the Workplace
By Kathie Marinelli
With more than half of women with infants employed, simple workplace accommodations are critical for breastfeeding success. By understanding your rights as a breastfeeding employee and learning how to plan for your return to work, you can successfully transition back to work and find the support you need to reach your personal breastfeeding goals.
Read More HERE
The Intune Mother Project – TIM…
Is not just about saving Black mothers & babies, social entrepreneurship, or offering the community health services. What we are about, is saving the spirit of family through the collectivity of a conscious humanity. The difference between what we are doing and what has been done, is finding the value in ALL of the beautiful projects out there aiming to fulfill the same lifestyle goals. We want to see people thriving in their gifts… Not just surviving. We are here to provoke change in the blink of an eye. No matter what scale we are operating on… We are making childbirth successful for as many women possible… One mother at a time… and this is a heavy task… Today I had several very surreal conference calls, with some very dynamic people, that let me know that I am on the best path, I could ever be on RIGHT NOW. I had an amazing water battle with our boys and a some other children in my community (It was me against 9 young men in training, and I lost it on em… It was water everywhere) We had a blast!!! To end it all with cocktails and conversation over becoming the new Community Coordinator and Advocate where I live. I am fully aware that we are on a mission that is spiritually supported and highly favored.
CENTERING THOUGHT: I radiate truth.
As I get ready for bed, prepare my meditation, and place sticky notes all over my desk top for follow-up calls and emails for tomorrow… I fall into rest feeling clear… Rooted… and Empowered because… I trust where I am… And I can see where my life is headed… Because it has always been… My artistic nature… to serve and to promote sustainable healing… This is my gift… This is My life… Because I never give up…