Your Ticket To Culturally Centered Self-Care

What is self-care and how do we decided what is most necessary for us to thrive in everyday life?

Well here are 13 ways to get started.

1.) Make sure that you celebrate yourself in various ways other than birthday’s or special occasions.

2.) If it feels wrong to you, then don’t do it. This is your Inner-G talking to you, so listen up.

3.) Get plenty of good rest. Sleeping in when you can and taking naps are good for restoring your time and energy sequence.

4.) Use your words with integrity. Speak exactly what you mean and be okay with it.

5.) Stop trying to please everyone. Self preservation is the first law in nature. Apply this law to yourself.

6.) Trust your intuition. This is an innate an primal power that we all possess. Learn how to get deeper into the consciousness of listening for your clues unconsciously.

7.) Talking bad about yourself is the worst! Talking bad about others is just as bad. When speaking about yourself, make sure that you are making positive affirmations to the best parts of you. Just as speaking positively about others can manifest good things for you too. Life and death is REALLY in the power of the tongue.

8.) Dream big, far, and wide. Then go after them without ceasing. When you go after what you want in life, it feels good to have an inspired intention. And self-care is ultimately about doing what feels good.

9.) Saying No, is a good thing. Feel confident that you know what is best for you and that saying no to something right now does not mean you can not revisit the idea at another time.

10.) Saying Yes, is also a good thing. It is actually pretty damn powerful. When you say yes to things, it sends a high vibrational frequency out into the Universe that bounces off of your words and intentions by adding more abundance to your life.

11.) Get InTune to kindness. The best thing you can do is treat yourself. Taking time to perform small acts of kindness for yourself, helps you articulate your ideas of kindness to others in a productive way.

12.) Let go of being in control. The way this life is set up- It is important to learn how to be in the flow. This is a critical part of our commitment to wellness. The more we stress on being in control, the harder it is to be flexible with the magic of managing expectations of others and ultimately ourselves.

13.) Drama and negativity are the assassin’s of good self-care. There are certain things that happen in our lives that lead us back to #12. One way to repell the drama and negatively is to speak power over the situation. Use words that defuse and empower vulnerable or less favorable times. It works like a magnet.

And I have a small BONUS point I want to offer you.

Number 14

LOVE. “Love is thee highest law and only true religion”. This is a great quote that came to me some time ago while on a journey to find out what  (religion) was most suitable for me. In doing so, I found that most reliable spiritual sources all led back to LOVE. Henceforth came the way I define self-care… By showing love to myself first and this affects the way I express value of others in my path.

I hope this post helps those of you who read it. As a tribe of dedicated non-medical spiritual practitioners, we are looking forward to connecting with you on how to move closer towards the empowerment and freedom lifestyle you can and WILL have.

Stay INTUNE!
RaShaunda Lugrand

 

Be sure to join me every Monday and Wednesday at 6:30am for Mantra Yoga (Sunrise Soul Sessions)

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Summation Sunday ~ The Resurrection Of Motherhood

Tearing Down The Old Temple

Let me begin by saying there is no such thing as death. There is only the balance of transition and this is the burning contradiction that breaks the connection between being present and the vulnerability of fulfilling the bodies life purpose. What is no longer useful to the world will pass on into the next dimension and that includes human life. At the pace we live at, stress causes tremendous problems on our nervous system. That is why the breath is so important.  The breath of life is the greatest natural resource know to the human body. It nourishes our cells and tissues, bringing life back into our total being. Simple relaxation and deep breathing stimulates the vibration of the body, thus sealing the needed energy to help reset and rebuild the bodies full potential of mental, emotional, and physical performance. That is why old temples are being torn down. So it is far time that we begin to learn how to rebuild our temples one breath at a time.

From Home-Birthers to Spiritual Entrepreneurs

When my husband and I first decided to have a homebirth, seven years ago, we did not fully understand the process of familial transitions that we were about to undergo. Certain things were about to die… some of those things we were very passionate about. We really did not to plan for the transition from the regular lifestyle, we were accustomed to, so it was not easy. When we thought of traveling, visiting family and friends, or just spending time together, we were with our new baby and we needed more time. This meant that we had to stop making time and start managing our time for social equity. We were newly married, way from our parents, and winging the whole process of parenthood. So we tried to do a zillion things to make good on our commitments… My husband worked in theater and for #WellsFargo at the time and I owned and operated a natural hair salon by day and preformed at local venues by night. When we made up our minds to fully pursue our lives on purpose, we were introduced to abundance. Although this was awesome, we did not account for is the probability of time.

How did it get so late so soon? Its night before its afternoon. December is here before its June. My goodness how the time has flewn. How did it get so late so soon?

Dr. Seuss

TRANSITION: Moving On Up To The East Side

After we made the move from the West Coast to the East Coast it was totally derived off of the spirit of our subconscious mind. We wanted to be where the sun rose instead of where it set. We had creative ambitions and felt that we were no longer thriving in the Valley of The Sun. Upon our move, we did not get that deluxe apartment in the sky, but we were in positive motion. Seeing different faces everywhere, tall colorful trees, and in the Spring the ferocious green monster (pollen) would attack our sinus. It was a beautiful shift in culture, experience, and environment. After an emotional miscarriage, with our second baby, prior to our move to Georgia, we knew that we had to come to present, take mental notes, and feel what out bodies were speaking to us. Now after a record total of three successful homebirths, we found our mental niche. Our family tradition became our business. We had a 96% success rate and the other 4% was transitional favor.

Having a strong team working together at the very thing that we do best, which is being creative, making babies, and self expression, became our ministry of expertise. After the epiphany we had with the birth our our last son, we felt charged to assist other women and families, through our learned experiences. We soon embarked on a life of self-directed apprenticeships and disciplines. After studying with various universities, professionals, and coaching methodologies, reading book after book, and still reading, we found something very important — All of the theories were just as experienced based as our concepts and most were around medical reinterpretations. Some were spiritually divine, but still to the writers interpretation. We quickly realized that we had something to offer that we had not yet seen because, we had not yet produced it. So we channeled the balance between what we had experienced, and what we had learned about those experiences, into the services that we offer today called, “The BOSS Method.”

 Re-birthing Mother Nature’s Undisturbed Intent

The simplicity of childbirth is not commonly spoken of as a free, non-medical experience. Majority of the time when we tell people that we homebirth, they start saying things like, “Ut un… you brave”, “You didn’t have no medicine”, “Naw I couldn’t do that.” We smile and reply, why not? Then we get a laundry list of reasons that were really out of lack of information, fear, and/or limited access to information. Most of the reasons were generational jargon passed down from the societal transitions of natural childbirth. Some were because of the idea that homebirth had a hefty expense. Others were because, they simply did not know they had the option to deliver outside of the institution of medicine legally.

Some women share that they would have opted for homebirth if they would have know they could. Some women become frustrated because, they felt the option was hidden from them. Others felt tricked into inductions and surgical birth. This is where it get’s complicated. As I recall my first initial prenatal visit, and I was immediately told, that I would most likely have to deliver surgically because, my hips were so small. That was an immediate red flag for me and I knew that I had to make the decision to birth the way I wanted NOT the way I was profiled. Luckily the desire to Birth Like A BOSS was already in our cards. This is why my husband and I knew that we had to strategically get the word out to the community of those seeking an alternative to what they had been made to believe.



Your can read more about our birth story by HERE.



Summonsing Your Own Unique Truth

It really all begins with what you think about childbirth that sets the tone for how you will deliver. But let me get one thing clear… It is not the conscious mind that controls this process, but the subconscious mind that you have to learn how to navigate. The conscious mind is a remarkable thing, but there’s a whole other level of awareness that, when tapped, can greatly expand your abilities and allow you to achieve your goals in childbirth –and in life itself.

The subconscious mind has the ability to change your entire life around, if you know how to use it. Here are 9 steps that my husband and I exercise in order to build up our power of the Universe within and without. This includes thoughts, emotions, actions, and reactions.



STEP 1 : Practice “Stream of Consciousness” Journaling. Get a journal. Pick a nice pen to write with. Set a timer for 5-10 minutes and write whatever comes immediately to mind, continuing writing until the time is up no matter how dull, strange, weird, or whatever it sounds. Although at first this will channel your conscious mind, it will bring up unconscious thoughts. Have patience. Writing, at first, will be difficult but, with practice, becomes rather easy.

STEP 2 : Learn to meditate. There are many methods of meditation but all deal with focusing the mind, quieting it, and allowing you to harness it. Choose whichever appeals to you and be sure to practice daily, if only for a few minutes.

STEP 3 : Learn about the subconscious. The more you learn about the human mind, the more you can use it to enhance your life. Take coursework in psychology. Read The Four Agreements. Pray and/or create positive affirmations.

STEP 4 : Practice positive self talk. If you say to yourself, “I can’t do this, I’m going to fail,” you will fail. However, if you say, “I can do this. I know I can!,” you’re more likely to succeed. This process is known as “affirmation“.

STEP 5 : Visualize. This is one of the most significant keys to success. Actively picturing yourself achieving a goal will help you actually achieve it.

STEP 6 : Study briefly just before bedtime. This is especially helpful for things that require memorization. If you review the development of your baby, your positive words vocabulary list, or your homebirth play book just before sleeping, your subconscious will likely process it throughout the night for you.

STEP 7 : Pay attention to your dreams. Your deeper mind will sometimes try to sort out your life issues through dreams. If you pay attention to them, write them down immediately, and reflect on it, you may get insight to the problem at hand and this can help your transition though that particular issue.

STEP 8 : Listen to your intuition. Your intuition is a way your mind has of warning you of dangers or enlightening you to opportunities before your conscious mind has all the information. If you get a “red flag” feeling about a person or situation, do listen. This is often a key step in avoiding tragic opposition.

STEP 9 : Use different methods to develop your subconscious mind. Guessing things will help a lot. Just try to listen to your intuition and make predictions. Use different tools, for example Lumosity offers brain stimulating games and other cool mind enhancement tools. This also opens subconscious parts of your mind.



CONCLUDING THOUGHT

Any negative thoughts that you come up with should be removed, or replaced IMMEDIATELY. These negative thoughts are blocks on your subconscious and they prevent you from getting what you want. Negative thoughts are tied to strongly held beliefs – which further limit your success that are born out of fear. This combination of negative thinking and limiting beliefs lead to opposition and failure. The longer you hang on to them the worse your situation gets.

So what do you do?

BOSS Up! Change your mind, surrounding attitude NOW! Get rid of the mental baggage as quickly as possible.

Create thoughts that empower you, thoughts that allow you to succeed and enjoy your now life.

Negative thoughts and negative beliefs create a negative a life. They destroy any chance of successful outcomes.

You cannot succeed and enjoy life with chronic negative thinking or being around people who entertain negativity in any way. They are energy suckers.

Remember, your subconscious mind follows your thoughts and beliefs. It sees them as instructions and simply follows them. It creates your life based on your thoughts and beliefs. Your life is really a mirror of your thoughts and beliefs.



The InTune Mother Is About Intuitive Childbirth Empowerment

Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby from an urban communal stand point.

If you find this article useful… Which we surely hope you do… Then say InTune to other information just like this and SUBSCRIBE HERE!

The InTune Mother is now offering intuitive consultations, creative workshops, and empowerment coaching using our proven methodology The BOSS Method. 

Want to lean more about how to connect to supportive, baby friendly physicians and birth practitioners CLICK HERE!

You will also enjoy:

GET ROOTED In The Power Of Creative Visualization

STOP! Waging War On The Mother Of Civilization

GET Naked: The Power of a Positive Self Image

No Apologies For Saving Black Babies

Transitioning Through A Crisis

Hands Off Holding My Baby



We welcome your comments and suggestions.



Have a birth story you want to share? Get InTune as to how to SUBMIT HERE!

TUESDAY’S TECHNIQUE ~ GET ROOTED IN THE POWER OF CREATIVE VISUALIZATION

COMING OUT OF THE FOG

There are times that I sit and ponder over the life that we have today. The instant moments of sunshine on our faces in the morning. The smell of fresh baby breath asking for more milk. (My baby call’s it Nean). This post drives my passion in several ways and one is for my “Tree-Hugger” husband and his infinite love for creation and his seed. The other is our intuitive, eclectic, concept of empowerment childbirth education. Yet sometimes there is this bit of fog that likes to hover around our work. I am learning to chart when these times happen and I call it… “seed time.” Taking note on the things that manifest as I am progressing forward. I often have to stop and it comes to me. I’m a carrier. I am deep rich soil. I am always with child. I am a conceiver. I am always PREGNANT! I am always with seed. Not in the literal sense, but in the spiritual. Because I am NOT a person who prescribes to Western methods of birth control, I refuse to become like the “Little Old Woman Who Lived In a Shoe.” The children are always around my door, yelling and playing, fussing and making up childish games. Asking for water and nutritious snacks. Then I stop to think of what happens when we become exposed to the reality of being  “Grown Ups.” This is a technique all in and of itself. This is what I call coming out of the fog.

The Universal Infinite Time

The fog… When we become adults… Most of us assume that when things get weird and clarity seems far away… We are in the center of a storm. The wind and turbulence has taken over and peacetime has a long road ahead. Since there is really no such thing as time, we have to acknowledge the matter of probability and stop waging war on the resistance. Knowing how to bend with the elements is how we determine our innate flexibility. Your power is in the elements of the universe. This is the most creative point of reference anyone can receive when feeling out of time. Balancing the waters of emotion is first and foremost. Remembering to breathe is being at one with the water. Kindling the flames of desire is how we burn those hard rocky clumps into precious gems. This is the basics of grounding your energy in the soil of this Earth in which you plant your visions and dreams. We are not just talking about manifesting money, houses, and cars here. We are talking about manifesting life itself in ALL it’s vastness and abundance. And the most abundant resource is human currency.

And Men All Looked Like Trees…

Understanding the fundamental principles of creation.

A wise man once told me that even a tree goes through adversity when it’s taking root from that tiny seed.

As we walk through the forest and view the trees, we remember they were once tiny seeds.  This is just the same as you and I. The same as an idea or a thought. Trees have an outer cover for protection, food and water inside to use for the first surge into growth, a part that has an affinity for water that will seek out the soil and become roots and a part with an affinity for light that will seek the sun and become leaves and branches.  Nature gives all seeds another characteristic. See any similarities in the human structure of childbirth?

While nature provides a seed all it needs to survive, she provides great opposition to survival.  From the beginning, each seed must compete with its neighbor for water, food, sunlight and space in which to grow.  Sound like any neighborhood you know? Trees produce thousands of seeds.  Very few grow to maturity.  In fact, from a start of 10,000 seedlings per acre at age one year, the final stand of mature trees may number less than 50. The Universe has an enlightening way of balancing the mortality of it’s creation so we must always give thanks.

Centering Thought

In order for ANY seed (a human, a tree, a thought) to sprout, develop, and manifest it must have food, water, sunlight and warmth (the elements).  Until it gets rooted, in the soil it can not come above ground… It can not be born.  As roots go deeper into the soil they absorb water and minerals from the soil and send these up into the stem. Wonder why “stem cells” are such an important commodity?

These act as a chemical laboratory.  In a process called photosynthesis, which takes place in the green leaves of a tree in the presence of chlorophyll and sunlight, the tree takes carbon dioxide from the air and manufactures starches and sugars and gives off oxygen as a waste product.  The formula is simple but the process has never been artificially duplicated. Too bad humans have this limitation. But do we? If all living things were able to photosynthesize like plant life, nothing would ever have to eat to survive… every living thing could manufacture its own food within its own body. There would be no need for teeth, no need for stomachs. But thankfully we are both duly unique and our processes keep us divinely connected to the fundamental principles of the Universe, thus women have the ability to produce milk from our own bodies, to feed our toothless babies, from the starchy, sugary, nutrient rich sap of our beautiful breasts. 



 

The InTune Mother Is About Childbirth Empowerment

Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby.

If you find this article useful… Which I surely hope you do… Then say InTune to other information just like this and SUBSCRIBE HERE!

The InTune Mother is now offering intuitive consultations, creative workshops, and empowerment coaching using our proven methodology The BOSS Method. 

Want to lean more about how to connect to supportive, baby friendly physicians and birth practitioners CLICK HERE!

 

You will also enjoy:

STOP! Waging War On The Mother Of Civilization

GET Naked: The Power of a Positive Self Image

Transitioning Through A Crisis

Hands Off Holding My Baby

 

We welcome your comments and suggestions.

Have a birth story you want to share? Get InTune as to how to SUBMIT HERE!

 

 

SOCIAL MEDIA NITECAP:

The Intune Mother Project – TIM

Is not just about saving Black mothers & babies, social entrepreneurship, or offering the community health services. What we are about, is saving the spirit of family through the collectivity of a conscious humanity. The difference between what we are doing and what has been done, is finding the value in ALL of the beautiful projects out there aiming to fulfill the same lifestyle goals. We want to see people thriving in their gifts… Not just surviving. We are here to provoke change in the blink of an eye. No matter what scale we are operating on… We are making childbirth successful for as many women possible… One mother at a time… and this is a heavy task… Today I had several very surreal conference calls, with some very dynamic people, that let me know that I am on the best path, I could ever be on RIGHT NOW. I had an amazing water battle with our boys and a some other children in my community (It was me against 9 young men in training, and I lost it on em… It was water everywhere) We had a blast!!! To end it all with cocktails and conversation over becoming the new Community Coordinator and Advocate where I live. I am fully aware that we are on a mission that is spiritually supported and highly favored.

Inspire Photo

 

CENTERING THOUGHT: I radiate truth.

As I get ready for bed, prepare my meditation, and place sticky notes all over my desk top for follow-up calls and emails for tomorrow… I fall into rest feeling clear… Rooted… and Empowered because… I trust where I am… And I can see where my life is headed… Because it has always been… My artistic nature… to serve and to promote sustainable healing… This is my gift… This is My life… Because I never give up…

 

I Choose You…

Love Of The Goddess

We put in work…

It is not invisible…

It is not disposable…

It is energy that travels at the speed of light.

Light needs no medium…

Light is consistent and in forever motion…

The currency of light is balanced by the value of what you see…

Is it real…

Is it reality…

Reality is what you make it…

I choose to make my reality visible…

I choose…

I choose…

To show it to you…

Because the revolution will NOT be televised…

The Revolution will be Evolutionized…

And we put in work to evolve in LOVE…

A God Is Born (Knowledge)

Cosmic Conception

The Rebirth

In the beginning, there was darkness, only to crave light. In submission to change, God is the author of true life. The beginning and the end. Born from the word be: (Born Existence, Beginning Evolution, Begin End). The knowledge of mass creation is in the manifestation of time; for the word is a powerful dialog that is known within communication of the spiritual. The substance that is used to formulate words are of pure energy. A natural heat source conductor that lives in the atmospheric portal of the universal womb.

When a woman goes through the process of ovulation her body temperature rises and she produces an egg. In this production there is a substantial amount of energy that sends shock wave like surges through the womb. This power radiates into the womb or Earth and fertilizes the egg to grow by the intelligence of the male principles in the form of millions of electric atoms called sperms. From inside the element of supreme darkness came the light of which shared the same space in the heart of God’s knowledge. This solidifies the purpose for regeneration and procreation of the human image.

The image of God is the portrait of the Universal body of man. Into that of the Mother Goddess (The Earth) from whence he became flesh, only began as a simple blood clot. From out of the millions upon millions of melanated energies (dark matter) the atom is born. Atom (Adam) also being the first named human son. The first man God named, born of his own genealogy. Adam… being the first man, the second, and the last. Adam was born from infinite balance. The same place that God was born. (A.D.A.M) A.D. (After Death) or coming forth from the unknown/unseen period, A.M. (Ascension Manifests) to the spirit man shall be reborn of flesh.

After the resurrection of the Christ energy and the spirit takes on flesh. Humanity is taken back into a being of darkness. Within this darkness one will travel through the womb of time with the mother, and this is where the full knowledge of God is born.

Least we mind… Walking fearlessly in the image of ALL  creation… Walking fearlessly in the image of thee Atom… Because we were ALL born iconic and free… In the image of the divine universe.

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