A Black Carpet Community Brunch 

 

 

Mimosas 4 Moms

So we are only focused on mastering…

The Power of NOW!

We are a 100% parent led organization. Our primary goal is to find ways to keep other parents fully aware of all of their options pertaining to conception and childbirth. So we charged families to Birth Like A BOSS and began to strategize how they experienced childbirth. This is our why…

The BOSS Method Remix

As a Mother and Independent Perinatal Birth Consultant, I don’t expect change, I evoke change, with Father in mind, this power becomes we. This power becomes community.

Over the last few years, we became aware that not many childbirth organizations are led by minority women. So we found it necessary for us to “observe” this fact, and look for ways to employ some diversity, to the community of birth work. With the right setting and time, we can openly discuss how together we can heal the most traumatic racial disparities that affects the ecological footprint of the human family. When we appropriate our attention to the bigger problems then we find solutions. In the word “Sankofa” we must always remember to “reach back and get it.” This is our missing link to our success. In short, as modern day humans, I think we value technology too much, over our own intuition.

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This discussion is not about race relations, as much as it is about the current human ecological crisis in the Black population. It is clear evidence when one group or population of people, are considered endangered by another group or population…

We have to challenge the consciousness of such science.

It looks like a league of unfamiliar saviors who speaks to the current issues, with an unfamiliar tongue, therefore confusing the proper dialog, with more disparity in our vulnerable communities.

We are not surviving because, we are disconnected from the NOW.

We are not surviving because we are not conscious of WHAT IS IMPORTANT RIGHT NOW?

What is most important, is that we direct our attention away from the frustration and anxiety, of what our community does not have, and who is not offering this or that. What are you doing to support the community. We have to become real. Time to get open and free your mind to find deliberate solutions. Easier said than done right… Well, within our consciousness, to get to the solutions and antidotes that our ancestors are speaking to us,  we have to begin with birth work. One woman, one baby, one family at a time.

Building On The Legacy of Sankofa

According To: HEALTHY START INITIATIVE

An Average Week In Oklahoma:

• 957 babies are born
• 150 babies are born to teen mothers (ages 15-19)
• 129 babies are born to mothers who receive inadequate prenatal care
• 71 babies are born low birth weight
• 112 babies are born preterm
• 8 babies die before their first birthday

Oklahoma ranks 6th in the United States on infant mortality.

The infant mortality rates for African Americans in our service area for every 1,000 live births, 13.6% of infants die.

The Time Is NOW! Be  An Ambassador.

Saturday May 7th will be our 1st Annual Black Carpet Community Brunch: Mimosas 4 Moms

By attending our Mimosas 4 Moms event, you will be helping our organization recognize the need of African American women in the field of birth work. In the state of Oklahoma the infant mortality rate has decreased over the last year, but the numbers are still staggering among the African American population. This event is geared to help the community understand how important it is that mothers have support from their 1st thru their 4th trimester.

Oklahoma has one of the highest rates in infant death in the U.S.

Every year about 100 families will tragically experience death of their new baby.

Black and Native American babies are 2 to 3 times more likely to die more than other populations.

We believe by adding more community based educators, that are trained with clear evidence based knowledge, and equipped with strategically designed tools for success, we can help reduce the numbers of mother and infant deaths in the state of Oklahoma for ALL women, with a strong focus on the disparities within the African American communities.

This event is two-fold

•One to celebrate recent graduates our 1st Community Certified Doula Training via our partnering organization Sista Midwife Productions. Class is scheduled for April 22, 23, 24, 29, 30, and May 1.  This event is to also reveal 20 Scholarship Awards for our 2nd training, June 13-17 via the “Accessible Doula Program” through The Matrona. This part of the Mimosas 4 Moms event that will be held in high esteem, the Saturday before Mother’s Day, May 7, 2016. (A limited number of seats are still available for both trainings.) Visit here to register: The Oklahoma Challenge.

•Two to recognize community partnerships and strengthen our network for our 4th annual #GivingTuesday campaign “I Support OKC Birth Workers of Color” scholarship campaign to continue to provide high impact perinatal education to women interested in the respective field of birt work.

So won’t you join us over brunch to see how you, your business, or organization can help us mobilize the need for RADICAL CHANGE in the state of Oklahoma.

RSVP NOW! 

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 Conclusion

We are a 100% parent led organization, by a husband and wife team of grassroots social entrepreneurs. We strive to maintain a free thinking environment that supports our artistic passions and goals to build our social welfare organization. And because we do everything from home. (i.e.) Home-birth, Home-school, and even work-from-home online, we really value our family life. We enjoy traveling, performing arts, and quality time with our 3 sons. The fact that we network for a living, is an experience that we aim to share with our core group of 3000 individuals across the globe. We dream in color and often remember the visions vividly. We set our intentions, these become our goals and we believe in our power to see them manifest. So stay connected to our website and let us know if we inspired you with any of our content… Also feel free to gift us with a colorful DONATION in support to keep our site going because we are…

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Summation Sunday ~ The Resurrection Of Motherhood

Tearing Down The Old Temple

Let me begin by saying there is no such thing as death. There is only the balance of transition and this is the burning contradiction that breaks the connection between being present and the vulnerability of fulfilling the bodies life purpose. What is no longer useful to the world will pass on into the next dimension and that includes human life. At the pace we live at, stress causes tremendous problems on our nervous system. That is why the breath is so important.  The breath of life is the greatest natural resource know to the human body. It nourishes our cells and tissues, bringing life back into our total being. Simple relaxation and deep breathing stimulates the vibration of the body, thus sealing the needed energy to help reset and rebuild the bodies full potential of mental, emotional, and physical performance. That is why old temples are being torn down. So it is far time that we begin to learn how to rebuild our temples one breath at a time.

From Home-Birthers to Spiritual Entrepreneurs

When my husband and I first decided to have a homebirth, seven years ago, we did not fully understand the process of familial transitions that we were about to undergo. Certain things were about to die… some of those things we were very passionate about. We really did not to plan for the transition from the regular lifestyle, we were accustomed to, so it was not easy. When we thought of traveling, visiting family and friends, or just spending time together, we were with our new baby and we needed more time. This meant that we had to stop making time and start managing our time for social equity. We were newly married, way from our parents, and winging the whole process of parenthood. So we tried to do a zillion things to make good on our commitments… My husband worked in theater and for #WellsFargo at the time and I owned and operated a natural hair salon by day and preformed at local venues by night. When we made up our minds to fully pursue our lives on purpose, we were introduced to abundance. Although this was awesome, we did not account for is the probability of time.

How did it get so late so soon? Its night before its afternoon. December is here before its June. My goodness how the time has flewn. How did it get so late so soon?

Dr. Seuss

TRANSITION: Moving On Up To The East Side

After we made the move from the West Coast to the East Coast it was totally derived off of the spirit of our subconscious mind. We wanted to be where the sun rose instead of where it set. We had creative ambitions and felt that we were no longer thriving in the Valley of The Sun. Upon our move, we did not get that deluxe apartment in the sky, but we were in positive motion. Seeing different faces everywhere, tall colorful trees, and in the Spring the ferocious green monster (pollen) would attack our sinus. It was a beautiful shift in culture, experience, and environment. After an emotional miscarriage, with our second baby, prior to our move to Georgia, we knew that we had to come to present, take mental notes, and feel what out bodies were speaking to us. Now after a record total of three successful homebirths, we found our mental niche. Our family tradition became our business. We had a 96% success rate and the other 4% was transitional favor.

Having a strong team working together at the very thing that we do best, which is being creative, making babies, and self expression, became our ministry of expertise. After the epiphany we had with the birth our our last son, we felt charged to assist other women and families, through our learned experiences. We soon embarked on a life of self-directed apprenticeships and disciplines. After studying with various universities, professionals, and coaching methodologies, reading book after book, and still reading, we found something very important — All of the theories were just as experienced based as our concepts and most were around medical reinterpretations. Some were spiritually divine, but still to the writers interpretation. We quickly realized that we had something to offer that we had not yet seen because, we had not yet produced it. So we channeled the balance between what we had experienced, and what we had learned about those experiences, into the services that we offer today called, “The BOSS Method.”

 Re-birthing Mother Nature’s Undisturbed Intent

The simplicity of childbirth is not commonly spoken of as a free, non-medical experience. Majority of the time when we tell people that we homebirth, they start saying things like, “Ut un… you brave”, “You didn’t have no medicine”, “Naw I couldn’t do that.” We smile and reply, why not? Then we get a laundry list of reasons that were really out of lack of information, fear, and/or limited access to information. Most of the reasons were generational jargon passed down from the societal transitions of natural childbirth. Some were because of the idea that homebirth had a hefty expense. Others were because, they simply did not know they had the option to deliver outside of the institution of medicine legally.

Some women share that they would have opted for homebirth if they would have know they could. Some women become frustrated because, they felt the option was hidden from them. Others felt tricked into inductions and surgical birth. This is where it get’s complicated. As I recall my first initial prenatal visit, and I was immediately told, that I would most likely have to deliver surgically because, my hips were so small. That was an immediate red flag for me and I knew that I had to make the decision to birth the way I wanted NOT the way I was profiled. Luckily the desire to Birth Like A BOSS was already in our cards. This is why my husband and I knew that we had to strategically get the word out to the community of those seeking an alternative to what they had been made to believe.



Your can read more about our birth story by HERE.



Summonsing Your Own Unique Truth

It really all begins with what you think about childbirth that sets the tone for how you will deliver. But let me get one thing clear… It is not the conscious mind that controls this process, but the subconscious mind that you have to learn how to navigate. The conscious mind is a remarkable thing, but there’s a whole other level of awareness that, when tapped, can greatly expand your abilities and allow you to achieve your goals in childbirth –and in life itself.

The subconscious mind has the ability to change your entire life around, if you know how to use it. Here are 9 steps that my husband and I exercise in order to build up our power of the Universe within and without. This includes thoughts, emotions, actions, and reactions.



STEP 1 : Practice “Stream of Consciousness” Journaling. Get a journal. Pick a nice pen to write with. Set a timer for 5-10 minutes and write whatever comes immediately to mind, continuing writing until the time is up no matter how dull, strange, weird, or whatever it sounds. Although at first this will channel your conscious mind, it will bring up unconscious thoughts. Have patience. Writing, at first, will be difficult but, with practice, becomes rather easy.

STEP 2 : Learn to meditate. There are many methods of meditation but all deal with focusing the mind, quieting it, and allowing you to harness it. Choose whichever appeals to you and be sure to practice daily, if only for a few minutes.

STEP 3 : Learn about the subconscious. The more you learn about the human mind, the more you can use it to enhance your life. Take coursework in psychology. Read The Four Agreements. Pray and/or create positive affirmations.

STEP 4 : Practice positive self talk. If you say to yourself, “I can’t do this, I’m going to fail,” you will fail. However, if you say, “I can do this. I know I can!,” you’re more likely to succeed. This process is known as “affirmation“.

STEP 5 : Visualize. This is one of the most significant keys to success. Actively picturing yourself achieving a goal will help you actually achieve it.

STEP 6 : Study briefly just before bedtime. This is especially helpful for things that require memorization. If you review the development of your baby, your positive words vocabulary list, or your homebirth play book just before sleeping, your subconscious will likely process it throughout the night for you.

STEP 7 : Pay attention to your dreams. Your deeper mind will sometimes try to sort out your life issues through dreams. If you pay attention to them, write them down immediately, and reflect on it, you may get insight to the problem at hand and this can help your transition though that particular issue.

STEP 8 : Listen to your intuition. Your intuition is a way your mind has of warning you of dangers or enlightening you to opportunities before your conscious mind has all the information. If you get a “red flag” feeling about a person or situation, do listen. This is often a key step in avoiding tragic opposition.

STEP 9 : Use different methods to develop your subconscious mind. Guessing things will help a lot. Just try to listen to your intuition and make predictions. Use different tools, for example Lumosity offers brain stimulating games and other cool mind enhancement tools. This also opens subconscious parts of your mind.



CONCLUDING THOUGHT

Any negative thoughts that you come up with should be removed, or replaced IMMEDIATELY. These negative thoughts are blocks on your subconscious and they prevent you from getting what you want. Negative thoughts are tied to strongly held beliefs – which further limit your success that are born out of fear. This combination of negative thinking and limiting beliefs lead to opposition and failure. The longer you hang on to them the worse your situation gets.

So what do you do?

BOSS Up! Change your mind, surrounding attitude NOW! Get rid of the mental baggage as quickly as possible.

Create thoughts that empower you, thoughts that allow you to succeed and enjoy your now life.

Negative thoughts and negative beliefs create a negative a life. They destroy any chance of successful outcomes.

You cannot succeed and enjoy life with chronic negative thinking or being around people who entertain negativity in any way. They are energy suckers.

Remember, your subconscious mind follows your thoughts and beliefs. It sees them as instructions and simply follows them. It creates your life based on your thoughts and beliefs. Your life is really a mirror of your thoughts and beliefs.



The InTune Mother Is About Intuitive Childbirth Empowerment

Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby from an urban communal stand point.

If you find this article useful… Which we surely hope you do… Then say InTune to other information just like this and SUBSCRIBE HERE!

The InTune Mother is now offering intuitive consultations, creative workshops, and empowerment coaching using our proven methodology The BOSS Method. 

Want to lean more about how to connect to supportive, baby friendly physicians and birth practitioners CLICK HERE!

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STOP!!! Waging War On The Mother of Civilization

Don’t Induce Me.

Introduce Me To An Alternative.



 

So many times over the past few months, as we talk to perspective late term clients, they tell us that they are being induced. The sad part is — 3 out of 5 have no real medical reason. Either the baby is too big or they are a week past due. HUH! ARE YOU SERIOUS? One young mother said, “I don’t want to tear.” All of these reasons are fraudulent to the process of healthy childbirth. Although it is the woman’s right to choose, induction and synthetic drugs seems to be the instant solution recommended by the physician or caregiver.

It bothers me so that these women, soon to be mothers are not being given the red light, knowing the harmful effects of what this can do to mother and baby. They are not being told the many consequences of having an unnecessary induction. They are not being told that this puts them at a higher risk for c-section. Nor are they being told this can greatly interfere with their desire to breastfeed.

The Fear Of A Big Baby

 

Okay! first of all let me start by saying, “There is nothing to fear, but fear itself.” What is fear? (False Evidence Appearing Real) So just the other day an expecting mother in our community told my husband (mind you she is 28 weeks gestation) that she was going in at 34 weeks to be induced… OMG! I almost fainted. When he asked her why, she confidently said, “Oh my baby is going to be too big, so I’m going to go in early.” Now every part of me wanted to scream, but I had to keep in mind what I have learned from experience, and then evidence based studies.

What if she had gestational diabetes was my first thought? This sometimes can cause big babies. Which the medical term for big baby is macrosomia, which literally means “big body.” The other is shoulder dystocia. Even still there is no sure shot way of determining that this will be the outcome, thus fostering the need to induce and possibly add the drama of a c-section. Then I thought of the fact that some physicians are just eager to add pressure to moms in order to cash out on drugs and the use of shiny new tools and gadgets, with these harmful assumptions — more often than not.

Other researchers have found that when a first-time mom is incorrectly suspected of having a big baby, that care providers have less patience with labor and are more likely to recommend a C-section for stalled labor.

My husband and I are not medical professionals, but we consult with enough to know that, more women are getting unnecessary inductions and c-sections than the law should allow. This surly adds to the rubble of poor or traumatic outcomes for mother and baby during the process of childbirth. Mom’s are not told the dangers of the drugs, the developmental distress, and the physical and emotional distress that can follow this type of pressure. Somehow too many physicians manage to present these options due to the inadequate assumptions, least giving the body time to process in the normal.

Researchers have consistently found that induction for suspected big babies does not improve the health of moms or babies.

So many woman are tricked into impatience. They miss the gift of what their bodies can do because, they trust their doctors more than themselves. When women are told otherwise, they are often shut down and smacked with a boatload of policies and procedures.  Also in their subconscious, they often hear the tragedy of their own birth stories. To the point that c-section has become a hereditary. Don’t get me wrong, in some cases — such procedures are necessary, but not at the rates that we see today.



 

Closing Evidence

 

One should be grateful to have informers like Evidence Based Birth in their arsenal. We are. The greatest part to this article is that WE have to lean how to do the research for ourselves, in order to find great resources such as the one linked above. The more we know the better birth outcomes we will achieve. The more we learn to reconnect to our innate matressence… the more we will find that the evidence surrounding majority of maternal health and wellness is medicalized and based on various assumptions.



 

The InTune Mother Is About Childbirth Empowerment

Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby.

If you find this article useful… Which I surely hope you do… Then say InTune to other information just like this and SUBSCRIBE HERE!

The InTune Mother is now offering intuitive consultations, creative workshops, and empowerment coaching using our proven methodology The BOSS Method. 

Want to lean more about how to connect to supportive, baby friendly physicians and birth practitioners CLICK HERE!

 

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Transitioning Through A Crisis 

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We welcome your comments and suggestions.

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Do You Know Your Breastfeeding Rights in the Workplace

Understanding Your Breastfeeding Rights in the Workplace

By Kathie Marinelli

With more than half of women with infants employed, simple workplace accommodations are critical for breastfeeding success. By understanding your rights as a breastfeeding employee and learning how to plan for your return to work, you can successfully transition back to work and find the support you need to reach your personal breastfeeding goals.

Read More HERE

Radical Birthwork as an Act of Resistance

Midwives play an important role in healthy outcomes for mother and infant. As a woman’s primary health provider, midwives have traditionally cared for all aspects of a woman’s reproductive well-being. Many of us are not aware or have been kept unaware that midwives are an option and, in many cases, a much more holistic and compassionate one. In African-American communities, the midwife is one category of healer who survived the Middle Passage. In this country, they were the primary go-to person for both enslaved African women and their white mistresses. They had the knowledge of herbs and traditional healing methods and also mothered the mother….

 

Read the entire article here ->Radical Birthwork as an Act of Resistance.

InCultureParent | Why African Toddlers Don’t Have Tantrums

In many African cultures it is normal to breastfeed until well into toddlerhood. It is also normal for older children under the age of six or seven to breastfeed again with their younger sibling, if the mother stopped breastfeeding because of another pregnancy. Having grown up in both Africa and Europe, I found it fascinating that what was considered to be standard practice in Africa was called extended breastfeeding  in Europe…

Read more via InCultureParent | Why African Toddlers Don’t Have Tantrums.

Hold Off On Holding My Baby!

Only A Mothers Touch: 5 Ways to politely say, “Hands Off” My Newborn!

 

I am not going to beat around the bush with this months post. After having this conversation with several new mothers, I had to write about it. It made me get a bit emotional because, in Western society, we have been so far removed culturally, that we can’t even identify with the desires of the new mom and her baby. We get so caught up on our own ideologies that we miss the fact that… The mother is the BOSS and she (with partner in mind) and the babies siblings are the only ones entitled to handling privileges… and even the older children should be limited. So here is my first statement…

Don’t let ANYONE… make you feel bad for not allowing the whole family to pass around your new born baby! 

There is no text book or sacred code that says, Auntie Anne who chain smokes, wears a bottle of Perry Ellis 360 perfume, thick CoCoa Shimmer lipstick, and has 3 inch leopard print stiletto fingernails, has NO privilege over you, or your new baby. YOU have the right to tell her that you prefer her to get a visual of the baby. YOU have the right to request she refrain from smoking, wearing perfume, make-up, and polish when she “schedules” a visit. YOU have the right to restrict visitation too. Although this may be offensive to most… It definitely insures that you have standards In many cultures, the most sacred time within the familial structure is after the birth of a baby. The new mother is in the bliss of empowerment if there was no trauma, the father/partner is innately playing the role of protector as it relates to his innate nature, and the children are moving about in their own merriment concerning their new sibling. Now this is the culture predominantly surrounding most homebirths. BUT… this can be implemented during the birth center and hospital experience as well, when there are no threatening conditions.

This is where the birth-plan comes into play and the creation of a BOSS birth team is vital.

Simply Put… Hands Off!

1.) Please respect this time for me and my baby.

2.) My baby doesn’t need to be held at this time.

3.) Thank you, but maybe some other time.

4.) I am not ready.

5.) I will let you know when.

Why The Hands Off Approach

Initial Bonding:

The bonding period between a mother is first during conception of thought, second during implantation, third during gestational development, and during childbirth. Mothers and babies are most vulnerable during these moments. That is why the “hands-off” approach is so important. Before and after childbirth, it is up to the mother to BOSS Up and set up a plan of action suitable for her and baby. Skin to skin contact is the best way to initiate the bonding process for mother and new baby. Once the baby is birthed from the vagina, he/she passes through the second step of external bonding. The first step is conception itself. Then when the mother is given her baby immediately after birth, the primitive connection locks in that bond… spiritually, physically, and emotionally. These are all sensorial aspects of bonding. This is also capable for babies born of a cesarean.  The scent of the new baby is a natural endorphin for mothers. This is the call of the wild that stimulates the initial bonding period.

There is some research that says, too many persons handling the new baby other than mom and dad, shift the hormonal balance and can create overstimulation and weaken the immunity of the new baby. Thus causing anxiety and breastfeeding complications.  Although the hands-off approach may be hard for some to identify with, the intense intuitive connection that comes from this period is what helps to aid mom into complete recovery… Which is the next benefit.

Recovery Time:

The time it takes each woman to recover is different. Some women are up and out shopping the very next day after birth. I experienced this with my second birth. I had an intense need to get out and get air. I walked slowly and enjoyed my  time away. I do not recommend this for every woman. In my case this was part of my recovery process. When a woman gives birth she is at her most empowering period in time. Her mind is operating at the highest frequency known to man, so it is important to have proper recovery time after childbirth. This is the most valuable time that a mother can spend with her new baby. Relaxation is not just for the mother, but also for the baby. The two together have been on a magnificent journey and the transition from the internal universe to Earthside can be overwhelming. So it is imperative that a mother has her postpartum plan in action here.

The benefits of having a BOSS birth team is that the mother is able to reconnect to herself and baby in a easy, gentle, and confident way. This not only increases the bond between the mother and her new baby, it also stimulates the production of milk. During this period, moms should enjoy being fully pampered, given good foods, focused on her ability to heal, and be nursed back to optimum health, seamlessly. The hands-off approach is valuable here because, this time is all about mother and baby. In some cultures this is for a full 40-days and some longer to honor mothers through the postpartum period.

Immunity Security: 

A new baby has been safe within the mother for 10 months. Every part of this babies existence has been in connection to the mother. The initial birth from the mothers vagina offers the baby the most advanced immunity available. This is next boosted by skin to skin contact, between the mother and baby. Then when the baby latches on to breastfeed, this establishes the bond for immunity security. When a baby is denied this access to it’s mother, there is a glitch in the sensory communication aspects of the bonding process. The newborn baby that is passed from hand to hand should be done so, with defined parameters. There is nothing more powerful than the love and affection of a mother to HER new baby (with spouse/partner in mind).

The beauty of it all is that when a mother makes up her mind about her terms for care, it is up to those who she has named as her team to support her at all costs. So be mindful of the process of connectivity and transition of bonding for mothers and their babies. The most important point to this post is that women are empowered to think freely for themselves and the welfare of their children without persecution. A woman should be praised and pampered, so that she can send the most “InTune Frequency” to her new baby and then to those around her.

An InTune Mother is a peaceful and empowered mother. She sees her weaknesses and calls out to those for strength and wisdom. She is unashamed of her ignorance and delights in new wisdoms. She holds space for love and light. She remembers herself. She remembers those before her. She gives homage to the process… because she knows… She can choose.