Growing Up In 2015!

TIME TO SHIFT

Have you just simply outgrown your belief systems, but you’d rather stay in an uncomfortable place? It is okay to learn new ways to think. Most of us have been taught that we can only access 10% of our brain, but what if we began to expand outside of what we have known? Most of us only believe what we have been taught to think, feel, be… etc…

I was told that I had small hips and would not be able to give birth to my oldest son vaginally. Many women are fed that same story line… But my belief was different. I believed the Creator put baby inside me via my husband, whatever the size, baby would figure how to get itself out.

I lived with the thoughts of my own mothers birth horror story for so long, that once I became pregnant, I refused to relive her experience, through my own birth. I wanted to own my experience. So I worked on my vision of birth and I created the exact experience I wanted, and my husband, sacredly held that space for me. With each birth the power became more and more evident. Now together, my husband and I help other families, hold the creative space for the birth experience they want to have.

That is why TIM launched the #HAPPY2015 New Year campaign. We are so much more than a team of hyper focused childbirth consultants. We are professional game changers. And because we know righ now, there is a mental attact on the way childbirth is viewed — We believe NOW is the best time get intune, and to forgive yourself for letting others think for you. This kind of thinking doesn’t even require 10% of the proposed brain power that we are taught we to have access to.

It’s really simple…

Remember when you were a baby, traveling down the birth canal? There was padding an bumpers along the way, so you couldn’t just fall out of the vagina? Remember how safe you were? You were closest with God than any other time in your life. You could not read, nor write, nor were you speaking words —

But now with all the flimsy, plastic, radicalized, sterile, notions of coming into life, and what and how we should believe — Somehow we lost the connection to intute from our true mental environment.

Reality is false.

Time is draining.

And Matter…

Matter is… a fragile, yet tangible system, that many of us have to grow into, yet afraid to put on a size bigger for fear of looking or feeling the awkwardness of falling down.

But one thing is clear as the day that you were born…

One day you will shift. One day you will grow.

–And this growth will either come through wisdom or through woe. Its totally up to what your belief is around who you are that determines how you will birth.

#HAPPY2015



The InTune Mother Is About Intuitive Childbirth Empowerment

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STOP!!! Waging War On The Mother of Civilization

Don’t Induce Me.

Introduce Me To An Alternative.



 

So many times over the past few months, as we talk to perspective late term clients, they tell us that they are being induced. The sad part is — 3 out of 5 have no real medical reason. Either the baby is too big or they are a week past due. HUH! ARE YOU SERIOUS? One young mother said, “I don’t want to tear.” All of these reasons are fraudulent to the process of healthy childbirth. Although it is the woman’s right to choose, induction and synthetic drugs seems to be the instant solution recommended by the physician or caregiver.

It bothers me so that these women, soon to be mothers are not being given the red light, knowing the harmful effects of what this can do to mother and baby. They are not being told the many consequences of having an unnecessary induction. They are not being told that this puts them at a higher risk for c-section. Nor are they being told this can greatly interfere with their desire to breastfeed.

The Fear Of A Big Baby

 

Okay! first of all let me start by saying, “There is nothing to fear, but fear itself.” What is fear? (False Evidence Appearing Real) So just the other day an expecting mother in our community told my husband (mind you she is 28 weeks gestation) that she was going in at 34 weeks to be induced… OMG! I almost fainted. When he asked her why, she confidently said, “Oh my baby is going to be too big, so I’m going to go in early.” Now every part of me wanted to scream, but I had to keep in mind what I have learned from experience, and then evidence based studies.

What if she had gestational diabetes was my first thought? This sometimes can cause big babies. Which the medical term for big baby is macrosomia, which literally means “big body.” The other is shoulder dystocia. Even still there is no sure shot way of determining that this will be the outcome, thus fostering the need to induce and possibly add the drama of a c-section. Then I thought of the fact that some physicians are just eager to add pressure to moms in order to cash out on drugs and the use of shiny new tools and gadgets, with these harmful assumptions — more often than not.

Other researchers have found that when a first-time mom is incorrectly suspected of having a big baby, that care providers have less patience with labor and are more likely to recommend a C-section for stalled labor.

My husband and I are not medical professionals, but we consult with enough to know that, more women are getting unnecessary inductions and c-sections than the law should allow. This surly adds to the rubble of poor or traumatic outcomes for mother and baby during the process of childbirth. Mom’s are not told the dangers of the drugs, the developmental distress, and the physical and emotional distress that can follow this type of pressure. Somehow too many physicians manage to present these options due to the inadequate assumptions, least giving the body time to process in the normal.

Researchers have consistently found that induction for suspected big babies does not improve the health of moms or babies.

So many woman are tricked into impatience. They miss the gift of what their bodies can do because, they trust their doctors more than themselves. When women are told otherwise, they are often shut down and smacked with a boatload of policies and procedures.  Also in their subconscious, they often hear the tragedy of their own birth stories. To the point that c-section has become a hereditary. Don’t get me wrong, in some cases — such procedures are necessary, but not at the rates that we see today.



 

Closing Evidence

 

One should be grateful to have informers like Evidence Based Birth in their arsenal. We are. The greatest part to this article is that WE have to lean how to do the research for ourselves, in order to find great resources such as the one linked above. The more we know the better birth outcomes we will achieve. The more we learn to reconnect to our innate matressence… the more we will find that the evidence surrounding majority of maternal health and wellness is medicalized and based on various assumptions.



 

The InTune Mother Is About Childbirth Empowerment

Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby.

If you find this article useful… Which I surely hope you do… Then say InTune to other information just like this and SUBSCRIBE HERE!

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Hold Off On Holding My Baby!

Only A Mothers Touch: 5 Ways to politely say, “Hands Off” My Newborn!

 

I am not going to beat around the bush with this months post. After having this conversation with several new mothers, I had to write about it. It made me get a bit emotional because, in Western society, we have been so far removed culturally, that we can’t even identify with the desires of the new mom and her baby. We get so caught up on our own ideologies that we miss the fact that… The mother is the BOSS and she (with partner in mind) and the babies siblings are the only ones entitled to handling privileges… and even the older children should be limited. So here is my first statement…

Don’t let ANYONE… make you feel bad for not allowing the whole family to pass around your new born baby! 

There is no text book or sacred code that says, Auntie Anne who chain smokes, wears a bottle of Perry Ellis 360 perfume, thick CoCoa Shimmer lipstick, and has 3 inch leopard print stiletto fingernails, has NO privilege over you, or your new baby. YOU have the right to tell her that you prefer her to get a visual of the baby. YOU have the right to request she refrain from smoking, wearing perfume, make-up, and polish when she “schedules” a visit. YOU have the right to restrict visitation too. Although this may be offensive to most… It definitely insures that you have standards In many cultures, the most sacred time within the familial structure is after the birth of a baby. The new mother is in the bliss of empowerment if there was no trauma, the father/partner is innately playing the role of protector as it relates to his innate nature, and the children are moving about in their own merriment concerning their new sibling. Now this is the culture predominantly surrounding most homebirths. BUT… this can be implemented during the birth center and hospital experience as well, when there are no threatening conditions.

This is where the birth-plan comes into play and the creation of a BOSS birth team is vital.

Simply Put… Hands Off!

1.) Please respect this time for me and my baby.

2.) My baby doesn’t need to be held at this time.

3.) Thank you, but maybe some other time.

4.) I am not ready.

5.) I will let you know when.

Why The Hands Off Approach

Initial Bonding:

The bonding period between a mother is first during conception of thought, second during implantation, third during gestational development, and during childbirth. Mothers and babies are most vulnerable during these moments. That is why the “hands-off” approach is so important. Before and after childbirth, it is up to the mother to BOSS Up and set up a plan of action suitable for her and baby. Skin to skin contact is the best way to initiate the bonding process for mother and new baby. Once the baby is birthed from the vagina, he/she passes through the second step of external bonding. The first step is conception itself. Then when the mother is given her baby immediately after birth, the primitive connection locks in that bond… spiritually, physically, and emotionally. These are all sensorial aspects of bonding. This is also capable for babies born of a cesarean.  The scent of the new baby is a natural endorphin for mothers. This is the call of the wild that stimulates the initial bonding period.

There is some research that says, too many persons handling the new baby other than mom and dad, shift the hormonal balance and can create overstimulation and weaken the immunity of the new baby. Thus causing anxiety and breastfeeding complications.  Although the hands-off approach may be hard for some to identify with, the intense intuitive connection that comes from this period is what helps to aid mom into complete recovery… Which is the next benefit.

Recovery Time:

The time it takes each woman to recover is different. Some women are up and out shopping the very next day after birth. I experienced this with my second birth. I had an intense need to get out and get air. I walked slowly and enjoyed my  time away. I do not recommend this for every woman. In my case this was part of my recovery process. When a woman gives birth she is at her most empowering period in time. Her mind is operating at the highest frequency known to man, so it is important to have proper recovery time after childbirth. This is the most valuable time that a mother can spend with her new baby. Relaxation is not just for the mother, but also for the baby. The two together have been on a magnificent journey and the transition from the internal universe to Earthside can be overwhelming. So it is imperative that a mother has her postpartum plan in action here.

The benefits of having a BOSS birth team is that the mother is able to reconnect to herself and baby in a easy, gentle, and confident way. This not only increases the bond between the mother and her new baby, it also stimulates the production of milk. During this period, moms should enjoy being fully pampered, given good foods, focused on her ability to heal, and be nursed back to optimum health, seamlessly. The hands-off approach is valuable here because, this time is all about mother and baby. In some cultures this is for a full 40-days and some longer to honor mothers through the postpartum period.

Immunity Security: 

A new baby has been safe within the mother for 10 months. Every part of this babies existence has been in connection to the mother. The initial birth from the mothers vagina offers the baby the most advanced immunity available. This is next boosted by skin to skin contact, between the mother and baby. Then when the baby latches on to breastfeed, this establishes the bond for immunity security. When a baby is denied this access to it’s mother, there is a glitch in the sensory communication aspects of the bonding process. The newborn baby that is passed from hand to hand should be done so, with defined parameters. There is nothing more powerful than the love and affection of a mother to HER new baby (with spouse/partner in mind).

The beauty of it all is that when a mother makes up her mind about her terms for care, it is up to those who she has named as her team to support her at all costs. So be mindful of the process of connectivity and transition of bonding for mothers and their babies. The most important point to this post is that women are empowered to think freely for themselves and the welfare of their children without persecution. A woman should be praised and pampered, so that she can send the most “InTune Frequency” to her new baby and then to those around her.

An InTune Mother is a peaceful and empowered mother. She sees her weaknesses and calls out to those for strength and wisdom. She is unashamed of her ignorance and delights in new wisdoms. She holds space for love and light. She remembers herself. She remembers those before her. She gives homage to the process… because she knows… She can choose.

MELs (Men of Extraordinary Leadership): “Father Figure”

What it means to fulfill the role of a father… delivered in poem:

Father father did you ever figure

that you could ever fulfill this figure.

The complete image that the Most High Father made

standing engulfed in flesh on this very day.                                                                               father figure

A day that was written upon your very own inception

your time to bring forth life

call it a ‘Creator’s Induction’.

See the Most High made us all to be as he,

to unite with Mother Earth

through an eternal seed.

To continue a cycle never to be broken

rebirthing our existence

keeping eternities gates open.

Never slight for a second

the importance of your involvement

for strength is in numbers

unity is detrimental to evolving.

The backbone you provide for the stature of your family

is what God does for all creations

from trees to insects to all of humanity.

So continue to encourage and lift up your mate,

for without that divine connection

you cannot divinely create.

This is your most important deed the finest hat that you can bere.

You are now crowned FATHER FIGURE

you were chosen to be here.

         Accept your role and play your position… for no man can walk out on his own story, the tale will be told!!! ~VoiceMEL

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MELs (Men of Extraordinary Leadership): “A Knight In Shining Armor”

A man has endless opportunities to encounter elevation of  his being in a lifetime… The opportunity to completely involve himself ~from conception, through birth, and on into the life and creation of his families seed may very well be the most empowering and rewarding encounter! 

The time of birth is one of the most opportune times for a man and a woman to share creation that only the two of them together could have made. A time when seeing the physical manifestation of what you two can do together truly overshadows any indifference that you may have shared prior to or after this moment. A woman can look at her man and see the strength and security that he gives her; the protection she feels giving her reason for recreating him, eternal life that only she could grant her mate (THIS child). A man can look at his woman and see the magnanimity that a woman has when she is one with nature, a respect for the vessel that she was made to be in delivering life… the worlds greatest gift to them… creation!

Seeing your child born in the proper environment has the ability to make you view every woman you know and meet with a purpose for being… and raise the question of why doesn’t every couple or family get to feel this very super-heroesque empowerment that comes along with this experience. The answer to that is very complex, but also very simple. The evolution that comes with having children can make or break the strongest of spirits. I’ve seen the most irresponsible people become model parents once they paused the chaos and really divulged themselves into the change that was embarking on their lives and focused on the empowerment that creating life can provide one with. Unfortunately, I’ve seen the exact opposite a very strong spirit broken down and beaten because they fought against the change and wanted to hold on to their old selves in ways that conflicted even though they knew the value of what evolution of creating life can do for one’s being. Childbirth is probably the biggest life altering event that a person can go through, this is why when the village(family) is a strong unit the pregnancy and birth itself can yield a renewing  of spirit and soul that is almost impossible to duplicate. The most invigorated  of the family will of course be the creators ‘Mom and Dad’.

 

Creating life and contributing to the existence of our species is one of the highest forms of living in the image of ‘The Most High… God’ our creator that we can accomplish. ~ VoiceMEL

Mother Earth

 As the Father of all creation implants the seed of all that lives into Mother Earth, and watches the seed grow into whatever it was meant to become… on goes the existence of all living things on this planet (as well as I’m sure the universe  for that matter, but that’s to be con’t in a different blog…). This is the same exhilaration that parents should be able to become one with. As the males(MELs)  in this dynamic event it becomes our responsibility in a sense to make sure that this happens. The power that men have in the birth may not seem like much when thinking on it physically or even mentally by what history teaches us on our position or role in this process. In all actuality the typical role that the male has been given could not be more inaccurate from what helps the process of childbirth to be a beautiful memory/experience. The old school wait in the waiting room pacing the floor or the focal point of hate and frustration that the mother belittles and abuses with fault for doing this to her, is quickly becoming extinct. A great article that I recently read covered this subject matter extensively at belly belly.com … check it out!

 

Men are becoming more aware and knowledgeable about what their encouragement and support can mean to their women  when preparing for the birth and going through the whole process together. A woman will naturally feel a certain type of appreciation to the person who held their hand and encouraged them through surges or labour pains. Even the little things like giving ice chips or messages when and where they are needed can go a long way for the comfort of the mother… who better to be the recipient of her appreciation than her mate. Dr. Robert A. Bradley author of ” Husband-Coached Childbirth” creator of The Bradley Method of natural childbirth, was known for being one of (if not) the first physicians in a hospital to implement these tactics as he also introduced natural drug-free childbirth into the hospitals.  This type of good nature was not back then in the 70’s and still to this day of common practice, but the more knowledge that the family has the more power.

Like for instance, a father signs a form in the midst of all that lovely paperwork that is given to a family when having a baby at the hospital that says he will make the decisions in the delivery room because the mother will be in a delusional state of mind because of the drugs. In which of course she signs the form waiving her rights at that time as well. The part that makes this go bad is when the father is not made aware of all the power that he has in saying what happens and what doesn’t, usually due to the lack of education on the whole process of the birth. What I will say to solve these issues is study together and separately, gather all the knowledge you can about this process and make a birth plan… most of all stick to the plan.

Homebirthing was the option that allowed my family to be (without conflict) in control of our choices and carry-out our births as we planned them… 

It wasn’t a common practice at all in either of our families to birth at home, in fact barely anyone that we knew had ever even thought about doing it. After a few terrible Doctor visits with our first pregnancy and the research that we performed was at a confident level we made the homebirth decision and continued to build our ideal birth as we saw fit. The studying was  more driven by the Mrs of course, but I was all in willing to learn all that I could as well as share with her anything that I found would add value to our knowledge. We created our birth chamber together, went to the hypnobirthing classes together, all the midwife visits together, and really focused on the task at hand together… I wanted mine to know that I would be prepared to the fullest and that she could count on me the whole way for whatever she needed. This carried us on to be able to deliver our second and third sons without medical assistance( also another blog soon to come… Lol).

Preparation is the key, and men we have to know that the preparation is as much on us as it is on the woman… Making her assured of this and confident that you will be all the support and reassurance she needs before, during, and after the birth will set smooths sails going in and coming out… Be her knight in shining armor, now if no other time in life… and guaranteed  your family will reap the treasure of your acts.

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