The Power of a Debt-FREE Homebirth

The Process Of Elimination

 

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The $150 Home-Birth

Getting Started: Customizing your childbirth experience is the best feeling when preparing for your new bundle. When you think of following a specific childbirth model, you should always consider your budget. Having a new baby can be extremely expensive. After setting your financial goals, you can start working out the plans for the home-birth you want. By visualizing the environment, color, and even the smell. This is how you can create your very own awesome in home, birthing sanctuary.

Creative Focus

Getting InTune: You really need to enter your place of peace and contentment, to highlight the way you want to style and set-up your birth space mentally first. We offer several tools that will assist you through simple thought mechanisms that will empower you to birth the way you want. Want to get right to the saving of your birth, but having trouble doing it? Just use our “easy methodology” to strip away any doubt and reset your focus to the magical birth you want.

Magnetic Energy

Removing Energy Blocks: Repeating intention phrases to develop an expansion of your heart into a loving and energetic focus, can release powerful manifestations in this important time in the life of you and your new baby. Therefore removing the blocks and harnessing the perfect energy to “Birth Like A BOSS” becomes your desired outcome. You can get more intune: when you repeat “I AM removing the blocks” and remove all the ideas that make false images in the “gallery” of your mind about childbirth. “I AM capable of giving birth freely and successfully”. These are just a few ways to dig deeper and identify, with the power within yourself to achieve a positive home-birth outcome.

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Hold Off On Holding My Baby!

Only A Mothers Touch: 5 Ways to politely say, “Hands Off” My Newborn!

 

I am not going to beat around the bush with this months post. After having this conversation with several new mothers, I had to write about it. It made me get a bit emotional because, in Western society, we have been so far removed culturally, that we can’t even identify with the desires of the new mom and her baby. We get so caught up on our own ideologies that we miss the fact that… The mother is the BOSS and she (with partner in mind) and the babies siblings are the only ones entitled to handling privileges… and even the older children should be limited. So here is my first statement…

Don’t let ANYONE… make you feel bad for not allowing the whole family to pass around your new born baby! 

There is no text book or sacred code that says, Auntie Anne who chain smokes, wears a bottle of Perry Ellis 360 perfume, thick CoCoa Shimmer lipstick, and has 3 inch leopard print stiletto fingernails, has NO privilege over you, or your new baby. YOU have the right to tell her that you prefer her to get a visual of the baby. YOU have the right to request she refrain from smoking, wearing perfume, make-up, and polish when she “schedules” a visit. YOU have the right to restrict visitation too. Although this may be offensive to most… It definitely insures that you have standards In many cultures, the most sacred time within the familial structure is after the birth of a baby. The new mother is in the bliss of empowerment if there was no trauma, the father/partner is innately playing the role of protector as it relates to his innate nature, and the children are moving about in their own merriment concerning their new sibling. Now this is the culture predominantly surrounding most homebirths. BUT… this can be implemented during the birth center and hospital experience as well, when there are no threatening conditions.

This is where the birth-plan comes into play and the creation of a BOSS birth team is vital.

Simply Put… Hands Off!

1.) Please respect this time for me and my baby.

2.) My baby doesn’t need to be held at this time.

3.) Thank you, but maybe some other time.

4.) I am not ready.

5.) I will let you know when.

Why The Hands Off Approach

Initial Bonding:

The bonding period between a mother is first during conception of thought, second during implantation, third during gestational development, and during childbirth. Mothers and babies are most vulnerable during these moments. That is why the “hands-off” approach is so important. Before and after childbirth, it is up to the mother to BOSS Up and set up a plan of action suitable for her and baby. Skin to skin contact is the best way to initiate the bonding process for mother and new baby. Once the baby is birthed from the vagina, he/she passes through the second step of external bonding. The first step is conception itself. Then when the mother is given her baby immediately after birth, the primitive connection locks in that bond… spiritually, physically, and emotionally. These are all sensorial aspects of bonding. This is also capable for babies born of a cesarean.  The scent of the new baby is a natural endorphin for mothers. This is the call of the wild that stimulates the initial bonding period.

There is some research that says, too many persons handling the new baby other than mom and dad, shift the hormonal balance and can create overstimulation and weaken the immunity of the new baby. Thus causing anxiety and breastfeeding complications.  Although the hands-off approach may be hard for some to identify with, the intense intuitive connection that comes from this period is what helps to aid mom into complete recovery… Which is the next benefit.

Recovery Time:

The time it takes each woman to recover is different. Some women are up and out shopping the very next day after birth. I experienced this with my second birth. I had an intense need to get out and get air. I walked slowly and enjoyed my  time away. I do not recommend this for every woman. In my case this was part of my recovery process. When a woman gives birth she is at her most empowering period in time. Her mind is operating at the highest frequency known to man, so it is important to have proper recovery time after childbirth. This is the most valuable time that a mother can spend with her new baby. Relaxation is not just for the mother, but also for the baby. The two together have been on a magnificent journey and the transition from the internal universe to Earthside can be overwhelming. So it is imperative that a mother has her postpartum plan in action here.

The benefits of having a BOSS birth team is that the mother is able to reconnect to herself and baby in a easy, gentle, and confident way. This not only increases the bond between the mother and her new baby, it also stimulates the production of milk. During this period, moms should enjoy being fully pampered, given good foods, focused on her ability to heal, and be nursed back to optimum health, seamlessly. The hands-off approach is valuable here because, this time is all about mother and baby. In some cultures this is for a full 40-days and some longer to honor mothers through the postpartum period.

Immunity Security: 

A new baby has been safe within the mother for 10 months. Every part of this babies existence has been in connection to the mother. The initial birth from the mothers vagina offers the baby the most advanced immunity available. This is next boosted by skin to skin contact, between the mother and baby. Then when the baby latches on to breastfeed, this establishes the bond for immunity security. When a baby is denied this access to it’s mother, there is a glitch in the sensory communication aspects of the bonding process. The newborn baby that is passed from hand to hand should be done so, with defined parameters. There is nothing more powerful than the love and affection of a mother to HER new baby (with spouse/partner in mind).

The beauty of it all is that when a mother makes up her mind about her terms for care, it is up to those who she has named as her team to support her at all costs. So be mindful of the process of connectivity and transition of bonding for mothers and their babies. The most important point to this post is that women are empowered to think freely for themselves and the welfare of their children without persecution. A woman should be praised and pampered, so that she can send the most “InTune Frequency” to her new baby and then to those around her.

An InTune Mother is a peaceful and empowered mother. She sees her weaknesses and calls out to those for strength and wisdom. She is unashamed of her ignorance and delights in new wisdoms. She holds space for love and light. She remembers herself. She remembers those before her. She gives homage to the process… because she knows… She can choose.

Emergency Childbirth Plan

When Bad Weather Moves In On Your Home Birth

What would you do if you lost power during immobilizing weather? More than that… What would you do if you are planning to have a home birth and severe weather approaches? Well let’s discuss how to Birth Like A Boss and beat the bad weather blues…

First off, take a deep breath. Get focused and realize that the baby is going to be born when he or she is ready. The baby is not prejudice to when and where… but, sometimes we are. So when we identify with the power of childbirth, we can take control over the uncontrollable, and focus on the goal to have a successful birth outcome that is clothed with the confidence of momma magic.

Where Is My Midwife?

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Be Empowered

When the weather has caused roads to close and the baby calls to your attention that he/she is ready to arrive, you need to call on your inner midwife. First, know that plenty of women have given birth in more organic environments. Second, be mindful that electrical power has nothing on the power of a birthing mother and the coming of her baby. Third, trust that the spirit of motherhood is with you and your approaching baby.

Be Prepared

Moms should have their birth kits ordered no later than 28 weeks when planning a homebirth, this way you can be assured that you have the basics covered. Along with making sure that you have access to your midwife even if it is over the phone. Always have your cell phone battery charged and accessible. Also have your emergency plan together. This is a plus. Especially if you have to freestyle the birth. Meaning that you are not assisted by the midwife or birth companion you chose. Having these few simple things in order can alleviate common fears and empower any mom through the magical journey into motherhood.

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The InTune Mother Project (TIM Matters)

ReBirthing Mother Nature’s

Undisturbed Intent

When we identify with the natural process of love and the divinity of childbirth, we connect with the realization of our social powers. We can bring value to the collective communal aspects of our voices. What you believe is what becomes, and if you make love to ALL that you do… You produce the hottest flame… That is pure blue-violet (purple) in hue. Understanding each and everyone of us began as a simple blood clot. Least we understand the beauty of our purpose is to become free in the will of our minds and disciplined within the yearnings of our hearts. This is how we Birth Like A BOSS. This is how we give birth to Gods.

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Get Prepared To Give Birth

Get InTuned To Healthy Childbirths

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The InTune Mother Project was founded by a husband and wife team, of home birthing artists, poets, parents, students, philanthropists, activists, advocates, and natural childbirth enthusiasts. Yes, we wear a lot of hat, but our goal is to empower moms and families about holistic prenatal care, the importance of home-birth preparation, InTune childbirths, exclusive breastfeeding, and how to apply for vital records for out of institution childbirths. Our goal is to help moderate to low-income families achieve a happy birthday for their new baby girl or boy.

It was like yesterday that my hubby and I were in our beautifully decorated home birthing sanctuary, about to receive our now 6-year old son RaMel into this world. Who knew at that time we would be hear assisting other moms and families with preparing for their own births. When asked what our role is, we prefer to be called childbirth companions or childbirth advocates. We are here for midwives and doulas. We are here for the mother, father, baby, and family as  accountability partners and consultants to what makes sure for a solid, happy, and communal relationship between all parties.

This partnership will allow mothers and birth workers to identify, with how they will serve each other, in the event of childbirth. This is so important to us because, with our second son Logan age – 4, we experienced a conflicting schedule, with our midwife. This was not favorable at the time, but we overcame all doubt, to complete a safe and secure unplanned unassisted birth.  Thankfully, we were well informed and confident enough that we were able to proceed with our birth and have yet another positive outcome.

Hey… We know all too well the complete spectrum around childbirth. From starting out with the traditional medical model thrown in our faces.  To becoming seekers of the truth, thus becoming informed, and thus giving birth to the empowerment that taught us how to keep the sacredness of our birth rights intact for future references. Now approaching our 3rd sons 1st year, we are proud to celebrate our 366th day with him and all of you. Our goal is to help facilitate for other families the needed tools to go deeper into themselves by awakening or supporting the power that also lives to thrive within them.

And this is how we passionately assist mothers and families to celebrate an informed, safe, happy and empowered birthday.

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Love & Light

~ The TIM Team

Stop Throwing Stones At A Glass House

STOP Trippin… 

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First off… Let me begin by saying that I am a woman, and then a wife, and then a mother and a social entrepreneur. The more information that I read about midwifery and the issues behind the color barriers within the birthworking community it creates within me a dull feeling. I wonder at times, how important it is to pursue a “profession” that has been a natural practice since the inception of time. With all of the founding organizations and new organizations that are subservient to these “grandmother” foundations, I wonder why is it that we are now becoming so covetous about such a free concept. As my husband and I build on the beauty of our simple and economically sound home birth experiences,  we felt the need to share what we learned with other families, particularly within the community of color.

Now don’t get it twisted. The InTune Mother Project is not and exclusionary concept. What it is, is a community based project that is channeling into the statistical outcomes of those within our immediate peer group. It is not easy to speak to this issue, when there are so many skeptics. It use to be difficult to discuss with people that we did not hire a midwife for the birth of our last son, who is now 10 months old. It is almost like a scar to tell people that our second home birth was unplanned and unassisted. Yet the spirit knows who, when, where, and how… and my hubby and I trust that.

It was not until I attended The Matrona Retreat For Women of Color in the Spring of 2013 that I felt the true connection to my instinctive decision making. I could trust my body and my baby was on the same team with me. And my husband was the GREATEST coach of all times… And we won… and are still winning from the dynamic energy that one experience can offer us as a form of empowerment.

In the beginning we had so much energy and did not exactly know where to focus it all. So first we tried our hand at internet marketing. It was a very unfamiliar territory, but what we were able to grasp from the teaching tools landed us here. Giving us a broad platform to discuss the fragility and sacredness within, the empowerment of childbirth… Hints the title of this post “Stop throwing stones at glass houses”. The childbirth experience is not something that can be sold or bottle up and then tossed into the wind, hoping that someone will run away chanting your ideas. The experience of childbirth is of the Divine and to every woman there is a similar story, but all her own…

So shortly after our 3rd homebirth, we began blogging and telling of our challenges and triumphs. We began to share our fruits with an online community that didn’t know us from Adam and Eve. These individuals became our new friends. We learned that time and persistence is what pays off in the race to freedom. The freedom that we found was not in the concept of a dollar… Money was so contrary to our motivation. It became the desire to help others establish this freedom as well. While doing so… more and more of our original thoughts became clear.

Why did we homebirth our children? Freedom of Choice.

Why did we choose to do it unassisted the last time? Freedom of  Informed Decision.

Why did we choose to breastfeed? Freedom of Maternal Equessence.

Why did we decide to begin a grassroots practice in birth work? Freedom of Spiritual Communication and Cultivation.

So I began by saying, “STOP Trippin!” The birth work industry is nothing new to our civilization. Medical science has turned it into a power struggle of ethics and theory. So here is my theory on the art of conception, childbirth, and parenting in short.

A woman will only conceive with a man that is designed for her egg at it’s proper time and hour. Infertility is a medical term and burden. I was 17 years old, having had premarital sex, no pregnancies (thank Gawd), and all of my closest family and friends were popping babies out left and right. Some had abortions to multiple fathers… it was the norm in my community. This is not to speak ill or corse against those circumstances, but I know that their experiences were not planned that way… by them. Every woman desires to have a family… meaning a partner and co-creator to share the experience of child rearing with.

So I recall a woman asking me… “When you gone have a baby”? I was somewhat offended… but in respect of my elders… I said, “When God says it’s time”.  Then at 25 it hit me… I wanted a baby. I was getting older… and I did not have the right man to produce my seeds with. It took prayer and meditation to will him into my presence. I cooked for him, I primped for him, I even loved myself for him. Then he came, in the blink of an eye. I knew it was him and he recognized me and now we are 7-years strong, 3 children, and highly motivated to continue our mission together of truth and empowerment.

Bringing Home Homebirth

See conception begins in the womb of the mind. If you believe that you can have something… Then it will come to you. It will stalk you down… way down in your soul. You know the place where the baby is carried… In the solar plexus? The same love power that it takes for you to connect to the process of conception, is the exact same process in which we shall approach childbirth, yet in reverse. Instead of tuning into the power of attraction… we must learn how to let go without fear or restriction. This is the power of childbirth freedom… This is the empowerment of what love can do… even in the event of chaos… there WILL come order.

Then the hat of parenthood meets the idea of co-creation and the image of the polarity of the male and female principle becomes the essence of the God factor within identity. Like saying we are who we say we are. So call the children by their names. We name them in lineage and in love… Whether it is familial love, communal love, or conceptual love. I think that they really name themselves and we as parents have to connect to who they say they are. Because, the definitely knew who we were and they choose us. The children know who is the best fit for them… even the mother who is addicted to street drugs, has a cognitive connection with her maternal self… It is just somehow hidden in the darkness of her pain body.

That is why it is imperative to not be boastful and judgemental as it relates to birth work because, this is the most divine time during the process of bring together lifeforce energy. This is where we as women meet the most resistance. This is where we come into the light.

So when we summons help or assistance from the traditions of Western Medicine, or the hand of a Midwife (documented or not), or any other type of birth worker, it is not because we are helpless. We summons this help because it is natural to desire a community to take part in the blessing of childbirth. Women do not “need” to be told how to birth… they need to be reminded that they know what they know. The need to be reckoned to the essence of what brought them this far… with no risks, no worry, and no fear of giving birth, in the beauty of what nature intended… Undisturbed.

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