Summation Sunday ~ The Resurrection Of Motherhood

Tearing Down The Old Temple

Let me begin by saying there is no such thing as death. There is only the balance of transition and this is the burning contradiction that breaks the connection between being present and the vulnerability of fulfilling the bodies life purpose. What is no longer useful to the world will pass on into the next dimension and that includes human life. At the pace we live at, stress causes tremendous problems on our nervous system. That is why the breath is so important.  The breath of life is the greatest natural resource know to the human body. It nourishes our cells and tissues, bringing life back into our total being. Simple relaxation and deep breathing stimulates the vibration of the body, thus sealing the needed energy to help reset and rebuild the bodies full potential of mental, emotional, and physical performance. That is why old temples are being torn down. So it is far time that we begin to learn how to rebuild our temples one breath at a time.

From Home-Birthers to Spiritual Entrepreneurs

When my husband and I first decided to have a homebirth, seven years ago, we did not fully understand the process of familial transitions that we were about to undergo. Certain things were about to die… some of those things we were very passionate about. We really did not to plan for the transition from the regular lifestyle, we were accustomed to, so it was not easy. When we thought of traveling, visiting family and friends, or just spending time together, we were with our new baby and we needed more time. This meant that we had to stop making time and start managing our time for social equity. We were newly married, way from our parents, and winging the whole process of parenthood. So we tried to do a zillion things to make good on our commitments… My husband worked in theater and for #WellsFargo at the time and I owned and operated a natural hair salon by day and preformed at local venues by night. When we made up our minds to fully pursue our lives on purpose, we were introduced to abundance. Although this was awesome, we did not account for is the probability of time.

How did it get so late so soon? Its night before its afternoon. December is here before its June. My goodness how the time has flewn. How did it get so late so soon?

Dr. Seuss

TRANSITION: Moving On Up To The East Side

After we made the move from the West Coast to the East Coast it was totally derived off of the spirit of our subconscious mind. We wanted to be where the sun rose instead of where it set. We had creative ambitions and felt that we were no longer thriving in the Valley of The Sun. Upon our move, we did not get that deluxe apartment in the sky, but we were in positive motion. Seeing different faces everywhere, tall colorful trees, and in the Spring the ferocious green monster (pollen) would attack our sinus. It was a beautiful shift in culture, experience, and environment. After an emotional miscarriage, with our second baby, prior to our move to Georgia, we knew that we had to come to present, take mental notes, and feel what out bodies were speaking to us. Now after a record total of three successful homebirths, we found our mental niche. Our family tradition became our business. We had a 96% success rate and the other 4% was transitional favor.

Having a strong team working together at the very thing that we do best, which is being creative, making babies, and self expression, became our ministry of expertise. After the epiphany we had with the birth our our last son, we felt charged to assist other women and families, through our learned experiences. We soon embarked on a life of self-directed apprenticeships and disciplines. After studying with various universities, professionals, and coaching methodologies, reading book after book, and still reading, we found something very important — All of the theories were just as experienced based as our concepts and most were around medical reinterpretations. Some were spiritually divine, but still to the writers interpretation. We quickly realized that we had something to offer that we had not yet seen because, we had not yet produced it. So we channeled the balance between what we had experienced, and what we had learned about those experiences, into the services that we offer today called, “The BOSS Method.”

 Re-birthing Mother Nature’s Undisturbed Intent

The simplicity of childbirth is not commonly spoken of as a free, non-medical experience. Majority of the time when we tell people that we homebirth, they start saying things like, “Ut un… you brave”, “You didn’t have no medicine”, “Naw I couldn’t do that.” We smile and reply, why not? Then we get a laundry list of reasons that were really out of lack of information, fear, and/or limited access to information. Most of the reasons were generational jargon passed down from the societal transitions of natural childbirth. Some were because of the idea that homebirth had a hefty expense. Others were because, they simply did not know they had the option to deliver outside of the institution of medicine legally.

Some women share that they would have opted for homebirth if they would have know they could. Some women become frustrated because, they felt the option was hidden from them. Others felt tricked into inductions and surgical birth. This is where it get’s complicated. As I recall my first initial prenatal visit, and I was immediately told, that I would most likely have to deliver surgically because, my hips were so small. That was an immediate red flag for me and I knew that I had to make the decision to birth the way I wanted NOT the way I was profiled. Luckily the desire to Birth Like A BOSS was already in our cards. This is why my husband and I knew that we had to strategically get the word out to the community of those seeking an alternative to what they had been made to believe.



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Summonsing Your Own Unique Truth

It really all begins with what you think about childbirth that sets the tone for how you will deliver. But let me get one thing clear… It is not the conscious mind that controls this process, but the subconscious mind that you have to learn how to navigate. The conscious mind is a remarkable thing, but there’s a whole other level of awareness that, when tapped, can greatly expand your abilities and allow you to achieve your goals in childbirth –and in life itself.

The subconscious mind has the ability to change your entire life around, if you know how to use it. Here are 9 steps that my husband and I exercise in order to build up our power of the Universe within and without. This includes thoughts, emotions, actions, and reactions.



STEP 1 : Practice “Stream of Consciousness” Journaling. Get a journal. Pick a nice pen to write with. Set a timer for 5-10 minutes and write whatever comes immediately to mind, continuing writing until the time is up no matter how dull, strange, weird, or whatever it sounds. Although at first this will channel your conscious mind, it will bring up unconscious thoughts. Have patience. Writing, at first, will be difficult but, with practice, becomes rather easy.

STEP 2 : Learn to meditate. There are many methods of meditation but all deal with focusing the mind, quieting it, and allowing you to harness it. Choose whichever appeals to you and be sure to practice daily, if only for a few minutes.

STEP 3 : Learn about the subconscious. The more you learn about the human mind, the more you can use it to enhance your life. Take coursework in psychology. Read The Four Agreements. Pray and/or create positive affirmations.

STEP 4 : Practice positive self talk. If you say to yourself, “I can’t do this, I’m going to fail,” you will fail. However, if you say, “I can do this. I know I can!,” you’re more likely to succeed. This process is known as “affirmation“.

STEP 5 : Visualize. This is one of the most significant keys to success. Actively picturing yourself achieving a goal will help you actually achieve it.

STEP 6 : Study briefly just before bedtime. This is especially helpful for things that require memorization. If you review the development of your baby, your positive words vocabulary list, or your homebirth play book just before sleeping, your subconscious will likely process it throughout the night for you.

STEP 7 : Pay attention to your dreams. Your deeper mind will sometimes try to sort out your life issues through dreams. If you pay attention to them, write them down immediately, and reflect on it, you may get insight to the problem at hand and this can help your transition though that particular issue.

STEP 8 : Listen to your intuition. Your intuition is a way your mind has of warning you of dangers or enlightening you to opportunities before your conscious mind has all the information. If you get a “red flag” feeling about a person or situation, do listen. This is often a key step in avoiding tragic opposition.

STEP 9 : Use different methods to develop your subconscious mind. Guessing things will help a lot. Just try to listen to your intuition and make predictions. Use different tools, for example Lumosity offers brain stimulating games and other cool mind enhancement tools. This also opens subconscious parts of your mind.



CONCLUDING THOUGHT

Any negative thoughts that you come up with should be removed, or replaced IMMEDIATELY. These negative thoughts are blocks on your subconscious and they prevent you from getting what you want. Negative thoughts are tied to strongly held beliefs – which further limit your success that are born out of fear. This combination of negative thinking and limiting beliefs lead to opposition and failure. The longer you hang on to them the worse your situation gets.

So what do you do?

BOSS Up! Change your mind, surrounding attitude NOW! Get rid of the mental baggage as quickly as possible.

Create thoughts that empower you, thoughts that allow you to succeed and enjoy your now life.

Negative thoughts and negative beliefs create a negative a life. They destroy any chance of successful outcomes.

You cannot succeed and enjoy life with chronic negative thinking or being around people who entertain negativity in any way. They are energy suckers.

Remember, your subconscious mind follows your thoughts and beliefs. It sees them as instructions and simply follows them. It creates your life based on your thoughts and beliefs. Your life is really a mirror of your thoughts and beliefs.



The InTune Mother Is About Intuitive Childbirth Empowerment

Here at The InTune Mother, we take on a holistic, spiritual, NON-MEDICAL approach to childbirth that empowers the mother and partner of the unborn baby from an urban communal stand point.

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Quantum Childbirth

Getting Out of The Mind and Into The Heart of Childbirth

See No Evil

How many times do you see pregnant women who look depressed or soiled about pregnancy and childbirth. Often I wonder how or what it is that causes  women to feel this way during such a remarkable time. Maybe she is in a bad emotional space with her partner? Maybe she is not financially prepared for her new bundle to arrive? So she thinks. Maybe she is just having a bad day? But whatever the case, this is all too common, especially in the urban community where most moms are unmarried, low-income, and lacking sufficient education to remove themselves for such disparities.

This leads me to think that we as a community are not looking at this picture with a clear view. At times I drift of into this so called Utopian idea of the world and how it works, so bare with me on this. I believe that we are all just mirrors of our own reflections and what we see in front of us the most, is what we begin to identify as ourselves. This means the environment that we surround ourselves with, ultimately becomes us. This may not be 100% true for everyone because, some people are visionaries and understand how to create his or her own abundant reality from a simple thought or feeling. This is always favorable right? Yet in still this idea is not seen the same way when we have not so healthy outcomes. We like to blame others for our circumstances, our thoughts, and even our emotional reactions. I know you have heard someone say, “You made me mad”, or “You made me do this or that”. This is a person who has no control or accountability for themselves. This my friend is a victim. And really we are only victims to our ideologies of our current circumstances… not the reality that we create… Or what it is that we think… based on how we look at what we see.

So when we think of childbirth, we automatically think hospital or doctor. More-so today, we are even thinking surgery. WTH! Childbirth is NOT even a medical event. Childbirth is a natural event. It is just as natural as the man and the woman who came together to conceive the child that awaits it’s birth. Was there a surgeon in the room when you were making the baby… I don’t think so… Unless y’all were role playin’. So let’s discuss more on why we have to guard how we see things. Mainly because we have been fed a useless amount of symbols that are unnatural to the concept of what is considered evil to our existence. So when we identify more with the pain body, then life is seen through a stretched and complicated lens.

Hear No Evil

The more jargon that is heard when talking about childbirth, the less appealing it becomes. Having babies somehow becomes a chore and a stagnating vulnerability. Then what is left of motherhood is this abandoned and helpless idea that is painful and full of woe, but I beg to differ. While carrying my first son, I heard women talk about how they had to have C-Sections because, they were too small, or they labored too long. Then there was the ones who said, “It was horrible”. The partial look on my face is ingrained in my memory. I would tell them that, that was their story and I am sorry that their experience was thus and so, but mines will be different because, I believe my body knows what to do.

I often had sweet talks with my unborn baby about his arrival. I would tell him to take as long as he needed, but just get here safe. I would tell him that we were a team and that one day he would see me from the other side. I would tell him to follow my voice into the light. To this very day, my oldest son is very direct and very cardinal in his thoughts. Sometimes I have to tell him that it’s okay to be flexible in order to stay in the flow. I say this is due to my unwavering spirit of accomplishing the birth outcome that I wanted. Talk about the law of attraction, which is calling into existence what we want.

The crazy thing is that we are so consumed with the ideas of blessings and curses that we forget, that they both work in tandem with our own emotional desires. The Universe is a vast place full of creative forces and elements of timeless change. This is why it is important that when a woman is pregnant she hears no evil because, her baby is also listening. As early as 16 weeks during the pregnancy it is said that baby’s hearing is developed. So just imagine how baby might feel if he or she is only hearing bitter, fear based stories about it’s new world. Or, what about loud arguing or fighting words? The power to tell those nay sayers to keep their negative birth stories is not enough and a person looks like a fool when arguing with themselves. We have to apply the right amount of empathy to listen as the moms share, so that we can empower them through our own strengths. We have to tune into ourselves and deeply identify with the fact that sharing can be healing. And when a woman is not InTune with the act of mothering or childbirth, she is readily walking in fear, restriction, and bondage. Each of these do not speak to the enlightenment of how the magic of childbirth really operates… because it happens uniquely and totally undisturbed. This technique takes fearlessness, intuition, and self-directed education.

Speak No Evil

So as I conclude on the aspect of how we perceive things through the power of what we see and hear, we have to also be aware of the power of our own words… Not just the words of others. No other person can speak death or destruction over your life or circumstance unless you allow them to. Unless you give that person power over who you believe you are. This goes for your mother, your partner, the doctor, your spiritual family, social media, or even your midwife. I have been in a place where the most supportive people have been perfect strangers. Yet the most unsupportive people have been  my own team mates. How are you expected to win when there are agents in your camp? You have to speak your truth. You have to speak the life that YOU want! This is easier said than done. It takes courage and discipline to speak with supportive language about such a controversial subject. And who would have thought that childbirth would be such a controversial subject matter? The thing is, everybody has an interpretation of what childbirth means to them, and that is okay. So when you come to grips, with what is real and true to your own heart, then you have stepped into the realm of “Quantum Childbirth” ~ getting out of the mind and into the heart of childbirth.